Go back to earning online

Malaysia
August 19, 2011 11:54pm CST
I would love to earn ample money each month, I would like to socialize with all levels, I would like to get married and have a family but seems like it doesn't always work this ways. So I get humiliated this morning. People calling me lesbians, done by neighbourhood, so humiliated I got out of the food stalls. I can't go to anywhere unless it is free of prejudice. I am so sad and decide that let the nature goes as it is. I am working back to online. I won't pressured myself to work outside, to get to know people. I know who I am. And I am gonna make a living without depending anyone but myself. Agreed?
12 responses
@Awinds (2475)
• United States
20 Aug 11
If that's what you want to do, then that's what you want to do. I just don't know if your response to the public ridicule is healthy. Forgive me if this seems insensitive, but this is what I think: running away will not solve the problem. People will talk whether you are there or not. In the end you need to reach a point where you don't let the words and actions of others decide your destiny for you. In that end that will just make you unhappy. I know that's hard and I haven't reached this point yet myself, bit it is best. Yielding to the local gossips is also going to be a blow in your self esteem. Hiding at home and working online may seem fine now, but will it be ok tomorrow and the years after that? Furthermore earning a full time living is hard and requires time. You need to think about how you are going to support yourself until your online ventures take off - that is if they do. You will also still have to go out the house for food and gas at least. Earning online is fine, I just worry about your reasons. You might hurt yourself in the future. But if the online income plan is what you want, then go for it, but just realize that is not the cure to avoid the public.
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• Malaysia
20 Aug 11
Yes online is my hobby as well. I will continue to work this job.
@Awinds (2475)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Well if that's the case, you stand a good chance of online success. :)
@francesca5 (1344)
20 Aug 11
hello wongchoiyee, it may well be that chosing to earn online is the right thing, but at the same time you should not allow yourself to become isolated because some people say nasty things about you. the problem is there will always be people who are nasty, it is impossible to completely avoid them, as nice as it would be. so you need to take a look at why you feel so sensitive, as bullies will ofen pick on people they see as vulnerable, and i think maybe that sensitivity is what makes you vulnerable. bullies never, unfortunately do useful things, like stopping nasty people from being nastier, they just make life more difficult for people they see as bulliable. so you may want to see why you so sensitive. but at the same time it is a good idea to start trying to earn online, if you enjoy it, but don't let it become a reason to escape from the nasty people who are out there, as they won't go away, and its better to learn how to deal with them, rather than hide from them.
• Malaysia
20 Aug 11
Sensitivity has become a habit or how I will say, attitude of mine for many years. This attitude makes me bothered every now and then. I should find a way to eliminate my sensitivity.
20 Aug 11
sort of. we don't want you to turn into an insensitive person who cares about no one, but being hyper sensitive is a problem.
• Malaysia
20 Aug 11
ok, friend
22 Aug 11
are you a lesbian? because that isn't anything to be ashamed of! i'm gay and i;m engaged to a beautiful woman, and i've been out as gay for the last 9 and a half years! .. and i'm only 24! so if your gay.. be proud of it! in terms of not depending on anyone but yourself? why would you? you are very capable.. and you can do anything you want to. always remember that!
• Malaysia
22 Aug 11
Yes, I am fond of girls especially young girls and woman too. But I don't want to be in that circle. I am not sure. But to go to the food stalls to buy food and heard people calling names not comfortable. I can't depend on the woman I love anymore, she's married with a son so I am left out. I have to be independent.
22 Aug 11
why do people call you names?!?! why on earth would they do that?? did you and your lover breakup?? .. and i take it you havent met anyone else?
• Indonesia
21 Aug 11
hmmm. that sound hard for me. well i hope you'll be patient. well, i disagree with you. why you not try to find another job in another place?, don't worried about other people argument. just think : what ever........ anyway, did you ask my photo? i'll give. hahahahahaha..........
• Malaysia
21 Aug 11
ok. Please give.
@daud4ms (218)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Aug 11
online earnings is future, go a head , and find more ways of earning, and even try to create some thing of your own in online industry. May you reach milestones in your work.
• Malaysia
20 Aug 11
• China
20 Aug 11
Many times very sad even. Likelihood of things in the world ring true. No other way ,only you do a good job direction.
• Malaysia
20 Aug 11
Even me is not well enough to do this job. Why God chose me?
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I've been online for like three years or more already, but i didn't understand why they call you names, that's just rude. so, that's why you want to work inside because outside you will be treated badly? that is just so sad i hope KARMA will hit them like a brick some day though. I don't know exactly you're whole self, but i respect that. have a nice day
• Malaysia
20 Aug 11
@haopee (494)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I don't understand why they'd call you a lesbian. You don't seem to look the type. I actually read your previous message but I didn't understand it that much but I've noticed something about you. Just like what Awinds said, you seem to be sensitive on what people think about you. I used to be like that-always caring what people would say about me, but then I met my beau. He always tells me "You should not bother to what they say. You are what your mind thinks you are." For those who are calling you lesbian, it hurts. Even if you're greatly affected, don't show them you are. People like them take pleasure in seeing that their words affect others the way they want it to do so. Leave them be and go your merry way, eventually they will leave you alone if they see you're dealing with it well. Welcome back to the online world.
• Malaysia
20 Aug 11
Yes I am a sensitive person and a coward too. I will change myself but I will continue online as my hobby and part time income.
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
24 Aug 11
Well, I think that one of the most important things that we need to do in order to be loved is to learn to love ourselves. This was something that I struggled with a lot when I was younger and I think that is a big part of the reason that I never had a boyfriend until I was nineteen years old. During the time that I spent with him, I really did learn to love myself and as a result of that, I met a man and we now have two wonderful children.
@JasperTore (1132)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
Don't mind those people who are judgmental. Just be yourself and do what you like as long as you don't hurt others. This world is changing so the thing is you need to be prepared for anything that would come. Just be strong and stand firm. Earning online is always fun because you have your own time and way to earn. You meet a lot of people online and can make friends with them. Almost, all people are now online most of the time and it has been part of their lifestyle to surf the Internet. Good luck and enjoy!
@marguicha (76315)
• Chile
20 Aug 11
Dear wongchoiyee, If we were to hide in a closet every time that people call us names, streets would be empty. Don´t mind rude people. Most of them call names out of envy. Why would people in your neighborhood call you anything at all? Work is something else and you should decide what kinds of jobs are available and what offers you more. Maybe online earning can be done part time, but I´m sure there are other options at hand.
@bnpraveen (172)
• India
20 Aug 11
hai friend are you afraid of society, i dont think so, you must realize the truth, you may or may not be lesbian, dont think that you are stamped in society, you have life, you are willing to get marry, why are you waiting for, take some time choose your best one that who understands you well and get married, start your new life,this is your life why should you have to sacrifice all of your enjoyment,choose good path, enjoy your life, cheer up have a great day