10 Years Ago, Did You Imagine ....

@GreenMoo (11842)
August 20, 2011 3:50am CST
If you look back at yourself ten years ago, would you have imagined then what you're doing now? Has your life followed the path you set out, or one completely different? Did you plan for it, or followed where life took you? I'm not sure that I had a path set out for myself ten years ago, but I certainly wouldn't have imagined that I'd be living the life I am now. Ten years ago I had an office job at which I was doing quite well, and I lived in a nice conventional suburban house. Today I live in the middle of the countryside and live a radically different life. How about you?
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Ten years ago, the future seemed brighter and dreams were more likely to get real. My parents were proud of me and my self-esteem was high. Now, I just realized how much years have changed so many things in my life. I definitely didn't imagine and want where I am now, but there re things I have now and special people in my life that still makes now worth living.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
Even though things don't work out as planned, there are always benefits.
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22 Aug 11
My dear Mum used to say, 'Every age has its compensations!' I just like to add, 'Every experience is a lesson on how to survive!'
22 Aug 11
Sorry, I'm a bit tired! That should have read, 'I'd'.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
20 Aug 11
I would never have imagined that I would be where I am now. I had thought that by now the kids would be in college and my husband and I would be going off on weekend jaunts by ourselves. I would be working to help pad out our retirement funds, having gone back to school and gotten a paralegal degree. Now I'm divorced, the kids have both decided college is not for them, I'm living alone in my first house of my own with my two dogs. Life isn't bad but it's quite different than what I'd expected. Life would be so boring if it conformed to what we expected it to be. This isn't what I'd envisioned for myself but it could be so much worse, I feel blessed and I have a measure of contentment as I move towards the end of my life.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
Life has a habit of shaking us up, but I'm pleased that you've found happiness in the new life you've carved out for yourself.
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@hafiz008 (450)
• India
20 Aug 11
This discussion made me nostalgic feeling. I occassionaly used to think my past, I had done many wrong and wish to go back and correct me but I cant do that. As you mentioned I didn't set a path to which I have to go but now I feel I want to do that because I have got more responsibilities. If I had joyful life last 10 years ago now I have busy career in order to run smoothy. If I had done this before I shouldn't have face it today .
@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
As you say, we can't go backwards but we can keep pressing forwards. Best of luck with the future.
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20 Aug 11
'Onwards and upwards!' and never look back to what might have been. That's one of the life-lessons I've learnt in my 56 years!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
Always, Mandolingirl!
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@shivanisd (388)
• India
20 Aug 11
yes, i became what i thought i deserved. only the appearane has changed (for the better) but i am still the same innocent simple person.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
That's funny! Most of us feel our appearance worsens as we age. It's complete rubbish of course, as a smile make anyone look good. I'm glad your life is working out as you'd like to to shivanisd.
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• India
21 Aug 11
actually growing up i had acne and bad skin and i started using make up at age 22 - hence the improvement. people with oily skin do not get wrinkles usually so at least im lucky that way :) is my life working out the way i want- not really...but i do realise its only my fault.
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22 Aug 11
I wish that was true! I've had oily, spotty, skin all my life and I can't say that it has made any difference to the wrinkles. I now have spots and wrinkles!
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
20 Aug 11
10 years ago today I was just settling down with my husband. I'd grown weary of living in my mother's house, so I packed all my stuff and moved myself, my 4 year old son, and my 2 cats into my husband's tiny little studio apartment. We then got a condo together and moved into that during the week of the 9/11 attacks. He remembers well because we were having cable installed when the attacks happened and he and the cable guy were watching it on TV in disbelief. I suppose I'm pretty much right where I expected to be.. except for a few minor things. I never thought I'd have 5 kids.. I figured 2 or 3. I never thought I'd be living in a crappy trailer that I hated.. I figured we would have had our own house or at least a decent type place to live.. but again I wasn't counting on 5 kids and needing to take so many years off work to raise them. I didn't expect I'd be going back to school right now and working a part-time minimum wage job. I figured I would have gone back to school years ago.. but again, the kids messed up that plan. 10 years from now I do expect to have the house and some money and a decent career.. and fewer kids because at least one of them should be moved out of my house by then.. let's hope.. of course 10 years from now my oldest will be 24... and he's a boy so who knows if he'll actually move out or not.. but the twins will be nearing 18 and getting on with their lives.. I'll also have a 15 and 13 year old. Yikes!!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
If your eldest will be 24 and the twins 18 in 10 years, perhaps you'll be a grandmother? Not five kids, but who knows ... *** Runs away and hides ***
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• United States
20 Aug 11
I hope not! I hope the grandma days start a bit after all that.. I don't want any of the kids to follow in my foot steps and start their families too young, because that is such a struggle. I want them to be on their feet financially and emotionally before starting their families. Maybe in 15 years!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
I could be a grandma in 10 years too, and the idea fills me with horror!
@Fireheart (683)
• India
20 Aug 11
My plans are often flawed my own recklessness, and i quite regret it, from my past experience i have learnt alot about life but that alone wont be enough, i still have to work my way to achieve my goal, only thing is that i have no patience for waiting things to happen than go for it, but that quite wont work too, i now get it that i have not learned enough, i need still to study to be perfect in what i do.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
I don't think any of us should aspire to perfect, as we'll always be disappointed. Perhaps with your own goals you should aim for smaller steps, and get a feeling of satisfaction more readily before the impatience has a chance to set in. I'm familiar with that recklessness!
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22 Aug 11
Unfortunately, I'm familiar with the impatience! I think Patience is one of the life-lessons I was put on Earth for!
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Im still counting now. I'm not old yet. There are some things I wish I was able to do back in college life yet the resources are limited.Like I really wanted to study in a university but ended up in a small public college. Maybe, if i had graduated from a high reputable university, I would have a better work now. But still, I'm thankful for everything.I'm working on right now on planning for future so there will be no regret when I get old.
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20 Aug 11
Good for you!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
As Mandolingirl said, good for you! I wish you every success with your future plans, but do remember that when they don't fall into place it's not necessarily a bad thing!
@maximax8 (28559)
• United Kingdom
20 Aug 11
I was 29 years ago ten years ago. At that this time then I had been teaching a Year 1 and 2 class. It was a maternity contract that had begun in May and ended in the October. I booked a trip to New Zealand leaving in the November. I wanted to go off traveling that winter to there and the Pacific Islands. I wouldn't have imagined coming back to lots of debt on my credit card or not being able to find another short term teaching contract. I got a part time job in a shop to keep my finances ticking over. In that September I got a job in a town school. Cycling there was much easier than the village. I loved teaching there on two different temporary contracts. I had been living in an old cottage and owned it for 14 years (from age 19 to 33 years old). My brother-in-law's job moved to a different area. I decided to move to stay close to my mom and my sister. When I had left I had a wonderful boyfriend and early the next year it was shocking we split up. I went on rebound into another relationship. I was 36 weeks pregnant with my son when I found out about his severe disability. Two years later my daughter was born. From age 33 to 38 years old I had lived in a modern house with countryside views. Last year I loved to a bungalow due to my son's mobility needs.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
It sounds like you had a lot going on in your life 10 years ago. I've enjoyed looking back on my own life this morning. i hope you have.
@maximax8 (28559)
• United Kingdom
20 Aug 11
I have indeed done lots in the last ten years. I have enjoyed looking back on all of it. It will be exciting to see what happens in the next ten years. By then I will be 49 years old.
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@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
Ten years ago I was 10 years old . I remember always wanting to become a doctor. My math teacher told me once that I can be a good teacher but I said that I want to become a doctor. I'm a senior in college right now and I did not take up medicine. Ten years a go I also wanted to marry this certain guy from a boyband lol. My life did not turn out the way I expected and wanted to but as long as I am breathing, I can still change it.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
You never know, ten years from now you may be married to that boyband guy
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
20 Aug 11
Ten years is a long time to set a path and follow it. I know I had certain dreams and plans for myself and my family. Looking back, I would not see where the twists and turns of life would take me. Some of them have been good turns and some of them have not.
@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
the twists and turns of life are what keeps it interesting!
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@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
for the most part no.. Ten years ago i was twice as shy as i am now. Good thing i kinda develop that in college. I didnt think that i would land at this kind of job i have right now. I doin better with life back then though but i would understand cause i get to pay everything for myself now. Before i was fully dependent .
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
Sounds like college was a learning experience for you personally as well as academically.
@haopee (494)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
I would never have though I'd be who I am now. Ten years ago, my family had so many expectations for me. They thought I'd go abroad and work their and be successful and have lots and lots of money to buy my mom a house and such. I had expected to be a Supervisor of a Semiconductor company because of my course, myself. I'm an engineer by profession but I've been in-love with computers. Now I'm working online and fixing computers for a living. I'm not into marrying early or having kids anytime soon so I guess my lifestyle suits me well for now. I don't earn much but it pays for my expenses.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
We cannot live our lives for our families. We need to do what feels best for ourselves. I'm glad your life suits how you feel at the moment. Perhaps sometime that'll change, and you can change along with it.
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• United States
20 Aug 11
LOL! Ten years ago there would have been absolutely no way for me to predict where my life would be right now. I do not necessarily think that I had a "plan" as that sounds like I had a solid idea of where I wanted to be, which I did not. However, I did have a "vision" or "image" of where I would be at least in a vague sort of way - it looked nothing like what my life looks like now. Some of how my life turned out is due to decisions that I consciously made along the way. Other parts were just "going with the flow" and seeing where it took me. I would never have imagined my life being where it is today, but I can't say that I regret many things that got me to this point, either.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
That sounds just like me! I had no distinct plan, but convention and where I was already gave me some clues for the future. but then I went and did something totally different! But I wouldn't go back ....
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• United States
20 Aug 11
LOL! Yes, that definitely sounds like me. I could have kept on the "safe and expected" path, which is where I got my image of where my future would most likely lead. Instead of sticking to that path, though, I made a very controversial and unexpected decision. It did not work out as I had hoped that it would, but I can't say that I am really disappointed with most of the consequences of that decision, either.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
OK, now you have me hooked! Do you mind sharing what your surprise decision was? I upped sticks, bought an old ambulance, and set off on my adventures ....
@agent807 (723)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Ten years ago, I had just turned 21, and trying to figure out what to do with myself. I had a plan, but it was burned badly when I was thrown out of school. I followed some bad advice on starting over, which got me nowhere. I went back to school, but without much of a direction, which did me in right there. And because I was paying for it out of pocket, I became a workaholic paying for school, missing out on life. I never had many hobbies and what I had was killed off from working. In ten years, I dealt with being thrown out of school, financial ruin, falling victim to unemployment twice, two evictions, a bad relationship, and being arrested twice. Not to mention depression. Today, I still have some of the wounds from those last ten years. I doesn't help the place that I live does not make it comfortable for people to live comfortably. Unemployment is still too high. And there is a slight degree of regret since most of my friends are married, and starting family, and have finished school. Or so they were my friends. I stopped dealing with them when they thought it was a good idea to ridicule and criticize me for not having any success, and bragging about theirs. I have gone back to school with a clear focus, and only have one year left to finish. I have put dating aside so that I can get myself back together (I have never officially dated anyone, but I better hurry before I get old). I have also developed some new hobbies, and dusting off old ones since I have time now. Along the way, I may have torched some bridges on some people, but I think it is for the best because they never wanted me to cross that bridge anyway. For me, this is a lot more than starting over, it is more of a transformation of myself entirely.
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22 Aug 11
Wishing you all the best in your 'transformation'!
@agent807 (723)
• United States
22 Aug 11
Thank you very much, 163. I appreciate it.
@GreenMoo (11842)
22 Aug 11
It sounds like you have incredible determination Agent, I think a weaker person would have been deterred by your setbacks. Best of luck with the remainder of your studies and the creation of the 'new' you.
• China
21 Aug 11
I am just the type of person who follow where life takes me,in other words I drift with the current of life.Even though I am a atheist,but sometimes I find that it makes sense that man proposes,God disposes.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
21 Aug 11
I agree with that sentiment. It boils down to the fact that we can plan as much as we like, but we can't control everything and as a result things don't necessarily go to plan.
• China
22 Aug 11
More often than not,there are a lot of uncertainties in real life,which are independent of man's will.
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22 Aug 11
I could say so much on this spiritual subject, but I'll leave that for another discussion. What I will simply say is that we work out a blueprint, in The Spiritual Realms, for our lives before we incarnate on Earth. The details can be changed but the overall 'theme' is what will occur while we are here.
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@enigma13 (372)
• Philippines
20 Aug 11
NO. Ten years ago, I had a lot of plans for my future. But none of my aspirations and dreams came true. I screwed up a lot. I must admit that. Now I always have the feeling that I don't belong to the life that I am living now. I've wasted a lot of time and now I feel like it is too late to start fresh and get back on my feet. Oh well. So much for my dreams.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
It's never too late to do anything, I don't think. We just have to think about the hows a little harder. Your dreams are still out there, I'm sure.
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@enigma13 (372)
• Philippines
21 Aug 11
I agree with you. My mind has been pre-occupied with the hows. My dreams are still out there. Just a little bit harder to reach. =)
22 Aug 11
Do a little bit towards reaching your goal every day. Never throw away your dreams!
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 11
Ten years ago, means I was 10 years old back then. At that time, I don't think I had planned my life path well I was starting plott my life when I was on High School. Later, my life wasn't following the plot perfectly. Human do the best, God take care the rest
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@GreenMoo (11842)
20 Aug 11
At ten years old I think I still wanted to be a ballerina!
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22 Aug 11
I wanted to be teacher. I did become one. Big mistake!
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
22 Aug 11
Ah, OK ] At ten years old, I wanted to be an astronaut. And now, I think I don't even close with this profession
• United States
22 Aug 11
My life is nothing like I ever thought it would be. Ten years ago I was in the middle to end of the best time in my life. I was the happiest I'd ever been. Now, I'm almost literally living my worst nightmare. I have an abusive boyfriend. I don't make enough money to pay our bills and put food on the table most months. I generally only buy what is needed. I have a son that I love dearly, but I never wanted to be a stay at home mom. Not that it's a bad thing, it's just not what I wanted. I would go back to work, but I don't trust my boyfriend/his dad enough to leave him alone with him for that long. In contrast ten years ago, I was dating a couple of awesome guys. I has lots of friends who I saw all the time. I was going to concerts with a reviewer and getting great seats for free. Half my friends were in local band, I knew bar owners, bar tenders and security. I got to see my best friend all the time. I miss that life, I miss being that happy
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22 Aug 11
Please don't stay with your abusive boyfriend! You are worth more than that! Don't allow him to drag you down and ruin who you are!
@GreenMoo (11842)
22 Aug 11
Deviantd, I second what Mandolingirl said. Please don't stay with a man who makes you unhappy. I wish you the strength to make yourself that happy again.
@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
21 Aug 11
Nope, if anyone would of told me my life would turn out the way it has in the last ten years. I would laugh my head off and not believe them. My life is nothing like i thought it would be ten years. I never imagine my own husband would shoot me, my oldest son living in another state or me going through a second divorce all on my own. I never imagined i would be disabled and never be able to work again.
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22 Aug 11
I'm so sorry to hear that, Rusty! Nobody should have to go through anything so awful. I wish you all the best and hope that things will turn around for you. Blessings!
@GreenMoo (11842)
22 Aug 11
I don't think anyone would imagine a sequence of events so dreadful Rusty. The best laid plans can be laid to waste to quickly by forces outside of our control. I hope the next ten years offer you nothing but happiness and peace.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Ten years ago my first book came out.....I never believed I would do what I have with writing even though since I was a child it was my dream! But here I am....and have actually made some money at it!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
22 Aug 11
That's a superb achievement! I didn't realise I was in the company of someone famous :-)
@bagarad (12653)
• Paso Robles, California
28 Aug 11
I'm happy for you that you were able to achieve such a dream. I've rather given up on being a published author,and write mostly for self-expression. Glad it's working out for you.