Are there hugs in your family?

@savypat (20246)
United States
August 21, 2011 3:01pm CST
Are you in one of those families that hug each other? I do not come from one of those and have always been envious of those that did. So I married into one. but somehow I could just never get the hugs to feel the way I figured they would. Do you think you have to be born into this practise?
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@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Some of my family does, Some don't. The younger people tend to hug more. My sister-in-law has told me (she's 67) that she regrets the days when hugging and telling people you loved them wasn't acceptable. That was back in the 60's. She loved my Grandma so much but you showed love in subtle ways, not plainly back then. She is now a hugger and very honest about her feelings, which is a good thing. We miss so much when we don't say or show how we feel.
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23 Aug 11
That is so true! I miss my Mum's big warm hugs!
@cjfoust (614)
• United States
21 Aug 11
Some people hug and some people don't. There are hugs in our family. We don't over do it or anything, but when we are leaving we usually give hugs. I greet my grandparents with hugs and we hug when we are parting. We hug to show appreciation for things or when there is a sad event. There are no hugs at all in your family?
@savypat (20246)
• United States
21 Aug 11
As a child there were very few hugs and the ones I got felt like I couldn't breath. But in my married life there are more.
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22 Aug 11
i dont come from one of those families. My mum thinks im creepy when i give her a hug. The only people i give hugs to are my dogs,cosuins and some relatives that give me a hug first.
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• United States
22 Aug 11
Most of my family don't really hug a lot except for most of the cousins. My friends back at home hug a LOT though. I'm in New York and I love it that a lot of people hug but I really miss the "beso." It means kiss but it really is just touching cheeks. I miss that. But I'll take hugs anytime though :)
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@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
22 Aug 11
It is an expression of love and this is one among many. Though we can see this practice in various countries and many are so happy by doing so because it is the real expression of the love among the family members. Also, it has observe that on special occasions, people when meet after a long period of time, and elderly people with their respective family members etc seems to be an old custom and may are used follow the same. However, if you feel that you don't feel the pleasure, just avoid it, because the feel itself comes from the heart and at the same time the other party also feel the same and it automatically happens. So, whenever you feel the similar occasion happens, it automatically happens as well. You decide now what is what and now can come to a conclusion. Thank-s
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@louievill (18668)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
We love to hug especially the children, think the women members do it more or more often, not just hugs but sometimes it comes with a cheek to cheek or cheek kiss. The men are more on shaking hands and tapping the shoulder or wrapping arms around the shoulder.
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@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
yes we hug each other especially when we havent seen each other for a very long time. My parents used to hug us often these past few years because we started living away since we all graduated from college and they seldom see us . Im not a hugger person actually.. Like when i see a friend somewhere. Im just used to smiling and waving.
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
hello pat, ours is not a family of hugs although there is always that happy conversation and laughter and teasing. most of the time we get hugs when we are unhappy.. it feels reassuring that there is someone feeling what we feel.. like it is a feeling of compassion and companionship. a feeling of "you are not alone. i am here" stuff. but in the privacy of my bedroom, i do get a lot of hugs. ann
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@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
22 Aug 11
Oh heck yes! We even have a "family hug". It's where my kids and hubby and I form a circle, come together and hug. I don't know if you have to be born into it though. My hubby isn't from a huggy family. And he just decided that was what he wanted, and went for it. I hope you are able to find a hug that makes you feel the way you want it too. Maybe practice makes perfect!
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• Philippines
22 Aug 11
well my family's not really that kind, but there are times when we hug one another, especially when celebrating a family member's birthday. But for me, I'm really not the type.
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
22 Aug 11
For me not to born for that but in my husband now we hug each other since we have no kid yet we can't do it in our time now only for the two of us.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
22 Aug 11
I does that and that is a beautiful feel of conveying they are more loved and cared. My kids does that nowadays to convice me or their dad. LOL. I usually have this practise from childhood.
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@jricky1 (6809)
• China
22 Aug 11
I always hug with my parents.They often encourage me to be a better person and to do what i'm loving to do.I think it's kind of encouraging someone and it's warm.So just cherish the person who give you warm hugs and words.lol.
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@Nadinest1 (2040)
• Canada
22 Aug 11
My family is not a huggy family either. I think hugging is becoming more common now. I have more friends and extended family who hug now....where they never did before. The more I do it, the easier it is getting.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
21 Aug 11
Hi savypat, When I was growing up, my family wasn't into hugging either, but I've started it in my own family because I just think it's great. I hugs my three grown sons and they have gotten use to it now too. Of course I hugged them when they were small but they wanted no part of it in their teenage years. Now I just hold out my arms and say, I want a hug, and they accept it now. We are of old English background and that should say it all. Blessings.
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@Galena (9123)
21 Aug 11
I love hugs. I come from a family that hugs freely, and I hug my friends freely too. one of my favourite work colleagues, an adorable young gay man, who I sort of feel like he's an adopted son to me, always gives me the hugest cuddle when we see each other. cuddles are wonderful. they make you feel good and happy, and care about other people. there's nothing like getting a big cuddle just as a greeting, because someone is just glad to see you. it's wonderful.
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@mssnow (9493)
• United States
21 Aug 11
My family has always been big huggers but when i was little i hated being hugged. I would cringe whenever anyone gave me a hug. Now though i give everyone hugs my friends and my family. I just had to realize that we are not here for long so if they want or need a hug then why not?
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• United States
21 Aug 11
My family isn't the "hugging" type. My boyfriend's family isn't much more so. I like my personal space in many cases. However, I am the hugging type around people that I am close to and in certain settings. I hope that I am more affectionate toward my children than my parents were toward me. I think that I will be. I think that hugs and "love yous" will be fairly routine, since that is the sort of household that I am trying to establish with my boyfriend.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
21 Aug 11
I grew up with some hugging and married into a family with a lot of hugging. I think it's a good thing. I think you can program yourself to enjoy hugs. Just keep telling yourself it’s a good thing every time you are hugged…perhaps in time you will feel more comfortable with hugs. Also I think it’s important to say I love you when you hang up the phone with someone, especially family. We started doing that after we lost one of our family.
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• United States
21 Aug 11
In my culture it is expected to hug/kiss and or handshake upon each meet up, not doing so considers one to be rude. Though I did not get much of it being that I was not raised in my family. I did however, later in life come across many in my culture who do this and at first it was kind of odd to me. Shortly after I began to feel comfortable with it and yes am one to date to always hugs/kiss and or handshake upon each meet up and or departures. I am not sure one is born into this practice but more so if one is comfortable with it. If I don't know someone and am meeting them for the first time, but they are in the "practice" or habit I should say about the hug then I will and all are okay with it. We raise our children to do the same. Sometimes some children are resistant but we teach them to greet this way. My son was one of the resisters, but I always would say, don't be rude and shake their hand. Now as a young adult he definitely will shake hands, hug and or kiss depending who it is.
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