it's easy to find a friend,but it's hard to make a lifelong friend

China
August 23, 2011 8:35am CST
I am now 20 years old. Since I entered the world, I have now make many friends,however in the same time few can be keep to present. I like to make friends,but it not means I am good at keeping good relationships with my friends. My friends and I often has numernous questions. and I as a lazy bone always didn't deal with it immedeately and properly. So in result I can make a lot of friends and keep a few.
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24 responses
• Philippines
23 Aug 11
I agree, there are a lot of people who can be your friend but there are only a few who remain true. So far,I think I have 3 friends who has been with me since I was in elementary. I am still hoping that the friendship continues for years to come. The thing is, it tends to be so hard to make true friends in a world were people come and go, and people just change. I had this really close friend of mine when I was in High School. We were like sisters already and we never had those friend fights. Then just one day in college, everything started to change. She met new friends and she just pretty much wasn't the person I knew. Everything I loved about her was not there anymore. Until this day, I still think about how good our friendship was and how I wish nothing changed. We still talk and hang out though but the spark of true friendship is not there anymore. I just don't feel it and I don't want to force myself because I don't want to be fake. It really is hard to make a lifelong friend :(
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
23 Aug 11
I agree too. It's sort of different to make lifelong friends. In my case we have been moving around a lot,since my childhood, so had to left behind many good friends and there would be sometime when I miss those moment with my friends. It's easy to make new friends but of course one cannot be close to everyone of them. I prefer to have a lasting friendship and there have been one or two in my life though we are not so much in contact sometimes but we understand and are there when we need each other.
@kaplya (1578)
• India
23 Aug 11
oops it's "difficult" not "different" that I wanted to write. damn typo!
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
23 Aug 11
We very often mistake an acquaintance as a friend. He is one who is only for a short time by its definition.So lets not confused. An acquaintance will become a friend when there is a mutual sharing of heart and problems.Only those who help and get helped will remain in the definition of true friends
• China
24 Aug 11
i am familiar with this. i came to know someone when i join in some acticity. we cooperate well and play happy with each other. i even got their e-mails and phone numbers But when the activity ended, little can keep comunicating.Sometimes, making friends is kinds of chance i think
@joystick (1680)
23 Aug 11
You are right there as i have found this as well over the years.I think that there are people that we become friends with and other friends that we lose contact with over the years.I think to have a life long friend, you have to know the person, as well as really trust them 100 percent.I still have friends that i had when i was at school, but i do not get to see them much, however they are only a phone call away if i ever need them.
• China
24 Aug 11
i also had many best friends in the past but only keep their phone number now. In the past, i think i would keep good relationship with them for a lifelong time. but now, i have to concede i have lost most of them.
@fantabulus (4005)
• India
27 Aug 11
You are right we can make lots of friends but true friend and till our life end no one can live with us as a friend. Friendship will break even on small misunderstanding. But friend no one with us for lifelong even our family members also not with us for lifelong because no one know what will happen in next moment
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
25 Aug 11
That is really oh so very true. I'd go on step beyond saying that its really easy to find someone that you might get along with. A bit more difficult to find a friend and really more difficult to find a lifelong friend. There are a lot of times where people come and people go in our lives. That is just the way the ball bounces a lot of the time. There are sometimes where I do in fact really feel that getting through those stages of friendship tend to get slightly more difficult. Of course a lifelong friend would be someone who we know from childhood until we are old and retired, and that can be quite the accomplishment if we do in fact get to that point. Its not impossible mind you. It would just be quite the excellent accomplishment if we do in fact get to the point where we are friends for that long of a period of time. It would be something that would be truthfully extraordinary and really something that should be cherished if that point is reached. Life long friendship it would be a joy.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
i agree with you. it is true that we can always make friends, but then we are in a world full of people who only want to gain advances from other people.. even those they say their friends... they use them for their own benefits. It is very hard to trust fully and to believe and to have a friend that is like our brother... or sister... for keeps and for a lifetime.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I actually would agree what you said above. We can make a lot of friends, but at the end, we don't keep a lot of them, or we don't have a lot of good friends. That is a sad true life. We want to make friends, and be true to them. While other people, they may not find it the same way.
• Spain
24 Aug 11
Yes, they say that one needs to nurture friendships. I think that is true. If we don't get in touch or don't phone back, then others might think we are not interested in them. On the other hand, my husband for example is very shy and a bit lazy too, but in the end he never seems to have lots of friends, but always one or two really good friends and me, his loving wife. I think it's better to have few, but really good friends!
• India
24 Aug 11
Hi Helensa I have many friends and with passage of time it is very hard to keep in touch with them specially when u have a family. I have 2-3 friends with whom i am very close and i share my problems. In this world of internet one has so many friends with whom you never met but they are your friends. I do not think that they become so close to you. You just start chating with them and after sometime you lost the charm. A true friend is that who is always there for you.
@samaire (154)
• United States
24 Aug 11
It's the same way with me! I don't like facebook or skype! I use them if i have to. But everyone is there so they share photos and what is happening to them but i prefer to call on the phone or to come to my home and have a cup of coffe and share memories! I hate staying in front of the computer when outside is so sunny day!
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
24 Aug 11
Indeed,friends are easy to make but it is not easy to make good ones.A true friend could help you when you are in real trouble,they could try to solve problem stand at your point,sometimes we may quarrel,but honestly,the true feeling wouldn't be changed.So,good luck,we all have great friends standing by us.
• Philippines
24 Aug 11
I have so many civil friends from school days to works. You can count with your fingers those you can call real friends. And they are only few of them to be called a true friend. Some friends just created thru socializing but when in terms of real meaning of it they are no where to find. Choose wisely those kind of friends.
@walking2010 (1010)
• United States
24 Aug 11
Yes you are right because some people will violate you, and some will smile in your face and stab you in your back thats why you let them be.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
24 Aug 11
It is hard because it goes both ways. There are people who expect others to go after them, I think both needs calling, remembering about the other, giving attention and keeping it alive of the friendship really cools down to a point we don't ever get to talk anymore. Nowadays there are social networks so it's easier to never loose contact.
• China
24 Aug 11
If the two friends in the same condition,it is easy for them to keep in touch and keep a long time relationship,because they can understand each other better.Anyway,the lifetime friend just one or two is enough.
@moneywinner (1866)
• Brazil
24 Aug 11
I guess this is a normal situation. It's hard to find a true real friend, if you find one during your life, you should be happy already. I also had a lot of friends during my life, but if any of them I consider a real friend? No. I mean that friend that you can trust no matter what. The only true friend that I have is my sister and I know we are going to be together for the rest of our lives.
• United States
23 Aug 11
do you think this is a problem? if it feels natural and your fine about when these people leave your life then I wouldn't worry about it. If it's something that you think you have to work on and want to hold these friendships then you could try harder to remain friends with them. I don't think its a big deal, people move on with their lives and grow apart, it's happened to me with all my friends.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
23 Aug 11
I agree with you. It is easy to be friendly but it will not mean you meet true and lifetime friends all the time. I know a lot of people from school and the University, but I have five friends who have been there for me through think and thin. These five I am sure that they are with me now, until the day we get old and have our own children. It is a blessing to find true friends who stand the test of time with you.
@thetis74 (1525)
23 Aug 11
Oh don't be so bothered if you find it hard to make lifelong ones because the ones who stayed are those worthy to be your friends and the rest that vanishes maybe does not deserve you. It is good to have good friends. I have plenty too, but only a few are the best and I am glad they are there no matter how few they are. Welcome to mylot Helensa.