I am in shock!

@free_man (7337)
United States
August 24, 2011 8:43am CST
I told you about my ex passing away. Well talked to his sister she is pretty well off and thought she would have him cremated. Well she said she just plain didn't have the money to do anything and she would let them do what ever they want to with him! She is even letting his property go she is letting theives rip him off and doing nothing! I can't do anything we haven't been together for several years. I have remarried and am happy. I contacted his family so they could do something and no one wants to even have him cremated! We don't have any extra money we work from pay check to pay check and barley get by so we can't do anything! I don't know what else to say to her to get her to realize that I can't do anything to help. He still has stuff of mine and I asked her to let me get it but she hasn't said yes or no. I have my own life I want my stuff but I don't have any rights. So what do you think I should do? What would you do?
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@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
28 Aug 11
dearest free_man I can understand you are shocked now as your ex's family wont even give real thoughts to a decent burial for him. I have to admit it would bother me too but if I didnt have the funds to help out with the expenses I would just inwardly let it go. I would sure let go of these material things which still are my belongings and are at his place. I am in a similar situation but wont tell more here in the forum for personal reasons. Hugs to you
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@free_man (7337)
• United States
28 Aug 11
Hi RitterSport. They finally cremated him which is good. As for the tools I am just plain pissed he kept them from me when he should have given them to me. As for his sister she can kiss where the sun don't shine she will face God one day and know she did me wrong for no reason. What's up with you hun? Tell me in an email okay? Hugs and lots of love from us to you my dear friend.
• Lippstadt, Germany
28 Aug 11
hi dear free_man good to know that they decided on a decent burial for him now. I understand about these tools, I would be unhappy about that too....... mail will be on the way to you in a few moments, hugs to you.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I hate to say this but I would just let the chips fall where they may. Unless you have children with this man I see no obligation on your part to take care of his remains. As for your belongs, I would also let those go as well. You didn't need them up to the point. So realistically you don't need those either. Best Wishes!
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@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Aug 11
I think it is sad his family is letting this happen. How can they just leave him like that... But I think you can't do anything either. In respect to your husband now, I think you should not bother that much about him anymore. I mean, you can have your grief, but the rest is unto his family to do. I know it is painful to see what his family is doing now, but you can't change that. About your things, I think you can just let those go too. I mean it has been years and you are already married, I think you can just let him rest in peace leaving your things there as it is.
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@free_man (7337)
• United States
25 Aug 11
Hi Pbbbsra. My husband knows that I had 13 years with my ex and he knows that I love only him but it is a shock to lose someone you spent so many years with. I don't know if I will ever get my things back but if it is Gods will I will have my tools back. I am a carpenter and need my tools. My ex kept them unlawful and he knew it.