Aww - MOM!!!

@ElicBxn (60884)
United States
August 24, 2011 6:40pm CST
Have you ever felt that way? Growing up, did it seem that you folks were set on keeping you from ever having any fun? Did it seem that your mom knew what you were getting into, even when she was across the house? I swear that's the way my brother felt about things. He ended up getting into quite a bit of trouble when he was a teen/early 20's because he was getting into illegal things, because he felt he HAD to push the envelope. I remember that he would get in fights with our folks because he wanted to do something and they told him no. Not even things that would get him in trouble, but because he really was expected to stay home for some family obligation and he preferred to out with his friends. Not uncommon, actually, I remember the first time I met my brother's wife's family, her youngest brother was acting the same way, I knew he preferred to be hanging out with his friends to seeing his family. Honestly, this why that age used to be sent out on raids and the like - the smart/careful ones would come home and reproduce... So, did you feel that way? Actually, I was hiding in my room when I wasn't at school or horseback riding... but I also felt bad most of the time, this was SO before we discovered my food allergies, so I really didn't do the teenage years right...
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I had a blast my teen years mostly just wen to movies but the a big bunch of us would hang out on a corner and just mess around never got in to trouble like theydo now
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
25 Aug 11
My bro got his driver's license early and I do believe that was part of what got him in trouble...
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
25 Aug 11
we had friends with cars we just then drove up and down the main drag
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I know people would drive up and down "The Drag" as the stretch of Guadalupe is called in front of the University, but I sure didn't see the appeal of it... guess I always figured I could be reading a book...
• United States
24 Aug 11
I already hear that and I don't have teenagers yet. When we are teenagers we totally feel we have better things to do than hang out with our family. But sometimes I feel that same way now visiting family as often as they'd like. There's only so much one wants to listen to about medications and how their spouse is tick'n them off.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
24 Aug 11
Its not like we had family visiting all the time, after all, they all lived in New Jersey and we lived in Texas - so, its kind of understandable that we were supposed to be there when we had visitors...
• United States
25 Aug 11
That is true. I think the only time I truly ditched my family was a graduation from high school. In my family we didn't get visitors really. Spent alot of time with my Grandmother and Aunt. Only saw my half sisters and other Aunt a few times a year always at restaurants and they lived close! I still don't see my half siblings much and I don't really care to take the time to sort our what's a lie ect.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I would say that if it causes pain, just don't do it - that's why I don't bother trying to "mend" the problems I have with my bro, I just leave it along - he won't admit he has any blame and I won't let him close until he can admit some...
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
25 Aug 11
Sure it seemed like my mom had eyes in the back of her head. I remember trying to sneak a cookie out of the cookie jar once, my mom was on the other side of the house and I was being as quiet as a mouse but she heard me and told me to get out of the cookie jar. I am the same way with my kids now. I don't mind my kids doing most things as long as I know where they are. I prefer to drive them though. It drives my son nuts because he wants to walk, but I feel better knowing they got to where they need to go if I drive them.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
25 Aug 11
ya know, if you had been noisy, but not with the cookie jar sounds, she might not been as suspicious! I don't blame you for wanting to make sure they get places safe - but imagine - a kid who actually wants to exercise!
25 Aug 11
hi:) that's already my expression nowadays "awww mom" well maybe they are just like that, because what they said they don't want us to do the same mistakes as they did and said that they've been there so they know better and everything that they're saying is for our own good. well it's better to follow before the allowance is gone.. LOL:D
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
25 Aug 11
its true they don't want us to follow in any mistakes they made, but don't really understand that some we just have to make ourselves... tho my brother was a great example of what NOT to do!
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I went through my teenage years in my early 20's. I was slow at growing up! I do not remember my mom knowing I was doing something wrong before I did. I did get in trouble but we all did as children! My brother Mike got in more trouble then me but he then got married at 20,had three kids and he has been married 27 years! Go figure! I do rmember fighting with my folks,mostly my mom. I felt like they didn't understand me and didn't want to! Back then I had no idea most kids feel like that! In some ways I was sheltered,not nurtured right and sometimes babied growing up. No wonder I took the longest to get my sh*t together as an adult! I lived at home until I was 24. Everyone else was out by the time they were 22! Besides Mike I have an older sister and an older brother. Life sucks sometimes!
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
25 Aug 11
That's true, most kids think theirs are the ONLY parents who don't understand them... well, unless they have friends doing the same stuff - my brother really got off easy compared to some of his friends...
• United States
24 Aug 11
I was not raised by my mother but can say I have two of my own, now young adult kids and to date I still get the aww mom, but why bits every now and again. One thing they did learn is that when I said no, it meant no. lol Teenagers are tricky and sneaky and it does not change with the years. I now have an 11 year old step daughter who visits for a month in the summer and it is like OMG here I go again.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I hear ya, even if I had already decided I didn't want kids, after my brother's teens, I REALLY didn't want kids!
@GardenGerty (99354)
• United States
24 Aug 11
I watched my older sister mess up her life and make bad choices. Because my sweet little self felt the need to prove that I was better, I usually did the opposite of what she did. It worked out. If I was not "miss goody two shoes" I made sure that it looked like I was. I was more of a secret rebel, but most of the stuff I did not want to do anyway. I guess you could say I am an observer, and when I saw something that did not work, I did not bother trying it.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
24 Aug 11
I hear ya, I can say that my brother was a real education on how to eff up your life! He improved after the arrests...
• Regina, Saskatchewan
24 Aug 11
Lol, if I had a penny for everytime I said "Aww....Mom!" I'd be rich and so would my kids! And I still can't decide if I did the teen age years right. It depends on whom I''m talking too.........especially my Mom! lol
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
24 Aug 11
Right, wrong, probably depends on the POV. I wasn't out getting in trouble, but I also barely had any friends...
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• United States
24 Aug 11
My mother was like a mind reader. she could tell we were up to no good from across the street. It was so funny how she would scream out our names from so far. I use to run and hide from her.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
24 Aug 11
I know what you mean, when we were little mom could catch us even THINKING of trouble!
• Bangladesh
25 Aug 11
I know about this. Its just look like a boom.
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25 Aug 11
Elic, yeah, my Mum was the same with me, my brother can go out but she wouldn't let me go out with my friends although it was just two streets away and I always stay at my friend's house, we just used to ply records and chat, but have to get back before tea time and have to stay in in the evening, I often argue with my Mum about that, but now I know that she really didn't want me to get hurt or get into trouble, I turned out alright and so did my borther. Tamara
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I did not have a good relationship w/my parents after ten years old & it never got much better after i got grown. Sad but true.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
25 Aug 11
I was a revolting teen. Even then I must have known it. But I think I got myself into a position where backing down and admitting to being foul would have been a defeat.
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@SIMPLYD (79764)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
Moms tend to be so nosey of the activities of their children. But that's natural, because they love their children and they don't want them to be in trouble. Luckily , my mother is not like that at all. Although, we would ask for her permission to go out , she would always permit us to. I guess, she saw us siblings as responsible growing teeners so she wasn't that nosey.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Aug 11
My mom was totally clueless...
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