You're so niceThat it's too creepy

Calgary, Alberta
August 24, 2011 11:38pm CST
I really don't know if I can trust this person, one of the new supervisors at my place at work is really nice and polite. But it's too exaggerated. I really don't know but her I met so many nice people before but there is something strange about her. kindness is too creepy. She's like a woman in a toothpaste commercial that always smiles.I don't know if she really is just a nice person or she's just way too suspicious. How can you know if a person is just genuinely nice or a faker.The manager she replaced is someone you can call nasty and deceptive. He is someone I cannot trust. Now this new manager, I don't know if she is real, Can you trust the person who is exaggeratedly polite and respectful.
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@topffer (33147)
• France
25 Aug 11
Since I had an immediate superior asking me to use the familiar form with him, and I realized later that this friendly attitude was a disarming strategy when things were going wrong, I have always been polite and respectful with superiors. There is always a part of hypocrisy when politeness is too exaggerated, and I am not sure you can trust more this supervisor than your previous one.
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• Calgary, Alberta
25 Aug 11
she acts like the perfect housewife from detergent commercials and also have those saint like hand gestures. I can look her in the eye but I cant feel her soul.
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@topffer (33147)
• France
25 Aug 11
She would make a good poker player. Not reassuring. I would be very careful until she discloses her more.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
Could be a zombie. I'd hate to go against her on a heads up poker game.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
I always have this policy that too much of anything is really dangerous.
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
Oh she gave everyone a chocolate chip cookie, I hope it doesn't have poison on it.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
I don't usually get paranoid, and easily fall for those good moves. Now a chocolate chip cookie, can I have one?
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• Calgary, Alberta
16 Sep 11
I felt bad about myself now, I think I'm just being a jerk. I just realize she really is a nice person and working for with her is a breeze. She helps to make the environment less stressful.I heard rumors though that she nags a lot to her husband because he is unemployed.
@SydneyJ (903)
• United States
25 Aug 11
She might just be doing this becasue she's new and wants people to be able to easily approach her. I think she's just trying to find acceptance in the new setting but I would keep my eyes out for reasons not to trust incase it's all an act.
• Calgary, Alberta
25 Aug 11
I hope that I'm just being judgmental and she really is a nice person because I already have enough of them mean the evil managers I encountered in the past. The pass managers I met a strategic masterminds of deception.
@SydneyJ (903)
• United States
25 Aug 11
Well I hope this one is really nice to you
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
If this person is really trustworthy, then I can finally breathe.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
25 Aug 11
Well to go from nasty to overly nice must be unsettling. .I'd just observe and tread lightly. Maybe she is over compensating because she knows your former boss was nasty..or maybe not. Time will tell. The best indicator imo is how she reacts in times of stress and will she back you up. It may take awhile to find out..good luck to you
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
I think I might give her a month before her through colors shines through. I never saw a person who is is smiling 24/7. I do hope this person is a real professional and not a puppet master.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
26 Aug 11
A month is good. Let us know what happens. I hope it works out for you since you are kind of stuck with her.
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@louievill (18103)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
I think there is no definite way yet to know exactly with the circumstances you gave Albert but feeling creepy is a gut feel so you have to be extra cautious and trust your instincts. I think time is the right element in certain situations, give time for things to reveal it's true self, wish you the best on your job and good luck
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I agree a gut feeling is a good indicator for many. LOL it hasn't always worked for me but others swear by it
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
I'm not the only one who was creeped out of her. Everyone already notice that something is exaggerated about her actions. It's really screams fake.
• United States
26 Aug 11
It is possible she is faking being nice but it's not always good to assume things about people. You can tell a good person for real not by their act of being nice but by their actions and deeds. If her deeds are good you will know she is for real. And time will tell also. You wouldn't want to put trust into a person to hastily.
• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
I'm still trying to observe before giving a final verdict regardless of her true self.
@Fire10 (293)
• United States
26 Aug 11
I wouldn't be so quick to judge. No reason to look down on it. Time will tell. If you're a trustworthy person who does your job right then there's no reason to distance yourself from a supervisor. One possible reality that came to my mind was that people tell others a little piece of themselves by how they feel about certain types of other people. I agree that I don't think I would take praise to seriously from someone who says everything is 'fantastic!'... but what reason would you have to distrust or fear a happy person? Is it because the only way you'd present yourself in such a happy way is because you'd be faking it and using your friendliness to deceive people? I don't know... but really, if you follow the rules, do your job well, what would anyone have to fear in a kind boss?
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
Come what may, I don't really just a person it's just that something in my guts and tells me not to trust this person. If she really isn't an only nice person, then more power to her and I hope that people can work with her professionally because the person she replaced is unprofessional evil heck of a person. I guess I just get used on working with jerks.
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Huh! I remember myself with your new supervisor coz I am a bit like her that always smiles and polite (but not too much) at work especially when I am new, I think even in school that's why some people misinterpret me. Some actually don't like me coz they says that they are not able to see what's behind those smile! Well I can't do anything about that and what they think as long as I know to myself that I'm not doing anything wrong and that its just me. In your case, maybe you just observe her and be kind to her as well, maybe she's just like that and just want to appear approachable to people specially that she's new. And besides we can't really judge them right away, so just be careful in dealing not only to her but to all, we can really never know who are true and fake, only time can tell it.
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
According to her she is religious so that might be a factor why she acts so perfect to the point of being a robot. I do cross my fingers that she is not like that guy she replaced. Because the guy she replaced is really evil. He did everything for self preservation and he ruined lives of many. He sabotaged people because they were threat to his position.
@kaplya (1578)
• India
25 Aug 11
This is the way with some people. I to really feel creepy when I see fake smiles on the faces of air hostesses but then when you think it's only their job it makes you normal! Perhaps your new supervisor also got some training at her school Btw, there have been many times when people commented on my being too nice and some were worried about my poker face!lol But hey, I am perfectly normal and I just do that out of nature no conspiracy there, mind you!
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
One of my coworkers, joked that she is a robot said by the aliens from outer space to spy on human beings. Maybe she is just a person who is raised by some perfect parents that's why she acts that way.Yes she is like those flight stewardess, exaggeratedly friendly, respectful and she is more polite than a boy scout.
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@Porcospino (16425)
• Denmark
25 Aug 11
Some people who seem extremely friendly and polite have a different personality when you get to know them better. I have experienced that a couple of times. Some years ago I was looking for a new job and I went to a job interview. I talked to the manager and she seemed very friendly and polite, but I had a strong feeling that I didn't like her and that she didn't show me her true personality. I don't know why I got that feeling, but later I discovered that my first impression was correct, her extremely friendly attitude was fake and her real personality was very different. On the other hand there can be other reasons why people are really nice. Your new supervisor could be extremely nice because she is shy and insecure. Sometimes people smile a lot because they want to hide their insecurity. Or she could be very happy and friendly because she is in love
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• Calgary, Alberta
26 Aug 11
If she is in love, I do hope her heart would be broken because she might end up like the evil managers she replaced. I do really hope she really is nice because my subordinates had been through so much in the pass managers.On the other on the other hand, I had never saw a person who is that unrealistically polite. If you watch the youtube show The annoying orange, she reminds me of that character marshmallow.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
Trust your instinct. Even Shakespeare knows that there are people who are like that. They're all smiles and yet you always have this feeling that they're hiding something.
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• Calgary, Alberta
25 Aug 11
They said women have better instincts so I don't know if I can trust my instincts and gut .feeling.She's like a stepford wife.
@nezavisima (7418)
• Bulgaria
25 Aug 11
anything no matter how good we must be careful. because sometimes excessive politeness is irritating. Rather, find out about all this in detail and makes no sense to feel frightfulness. I wish you success! and calm. nice day!
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• Calgary, Alberta
25 Aug 11
I think I just got used with the crabby and grumpy managers I had in the past. Her approach leadership is really different, she is always polite, and she smiles a lot. What makes her creepy as her giggle and something about feels not human. It's hard to explain except if you met her.