Should i get back for someone i have rejected?

China
August 25, 2011 10:32pm CST
There is a guy,who we have know each other for 7years.We are high school classmates.But now he has gone to abord and he told me he is gonna to marry next year.I am not sure wether i love him.hut i quite sure i am not willing to see him marry some other girls. What can i do?What should i do?
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7 responses
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 11
Yes, I think it isn't love, it is just about jealousy. Because he was in love with you, and now he is in love with another girl. Maybe because once he ever told you that he loves you, then you are turning a little bit "possessive" toward him. I guess you just have to let it go What should you do? Just move on. Because, even you are in love with him now, I think it is not a good idea to get back for him as he already met another people, even they are going to marry next year. Say, if you are pushing yourself to get back for him, then it would breaking the other girl's heart I guess you just have to find another man to be loved, and then soon, you will forget about him completely :)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
i agree with you varier, the main reason is that she is jealous..And she will surely forget about him for it's not TRUE LOVE..
• China
26 Aug 11
See,ther is no such girl exist.I am not jealous for any specific girl.I just cant let it go.I always think that 7 years is really a long time and the most beautiful time in my life.I maybe cant spend another 7 years to know another guy.
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 11
But if he is going to marry next year, then there should be a new girl Anyway, you felt that 7 years back then is your most beautiful time in your life? Wasn't it mean you already in love with him but can't say it? Or maybe because he is your close friend, so you are a bit jealous? I guess the one that can answered that question is only you :D
@livecenter (1138)
• Malaysia
26 Aug 11
@gr8jordan: Perhaps you are in love with him. Or perhaps not. It is more likely that that feeling of yours are not love - it is more like jealousy. And I think most of the girls in this world like attention (even my girl ^_^"), so losing a pair of eyes that will look at you will possibly reduce that 'attention meter' a way down. For me, I believe you should ignore that feeling. If (and I mean only if) you have a boyfriend right now and he knows what is inside your mind he will be mad. Just leave that old memories alone and get back to real life, my friend. If you care for him, it is best just to let him go off your mind and find his own happiness. Happy myLotting!
• China
26 Aug 11
truth! Sometiems i just cant control the mind.I know what is the best way.Ijust miss him so much.
• Malaysia
28 Aug 11
@gr8jordan: Perhaps you can still meet him every now and then. But as a friend, not more than that. If you think both of you ever going aboard, stop and leave the meeting place immediately. That 'miss' emotion is sometimes out of our control - but just do what we can to prevent it from going too far.
@kalinka1 (73)
• Belgium
26 Aug 11
You say that you are not sure that you love him, but you don't want to see him get married with someone else. How can you expect this guy to wait for you to deside if you love him or not. If you truly love him and he would get married and wasn't sure about this marriage, then I would absolutly say go for it and try to change his mind. But now he might be extremely happy with this other person, and you aren't even sure that you love him. In this case I wouldn't try and come betweem him and his partner. He deserve to be happy with someone who know that she is in love with him. I would even think that the fact that you don't know this for sure, already proof that you don't truly love him.
• China
16 Sep 11
yes,you may right.I should let it go.But the memory of the time we spent together will never wither.If therre is no wehere to go, just up!
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
I think you can't do anything about it if he really wants to settle down, its his life and you guys don't have any intimate serious relationship.So you do have feelings for him now or just a plain jealousy?That you don't want other women gets his attention. Don't worry so much about it your prince charming will come soon. But if you really like him and wants him so badly then win his heart, go get him!
• China
26 Aug 11
Thanks,i like your comments.
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
You have rejected him already so why would you feel that way now. I think, you are just jealous but not in love with him .
• China
26 Aug 11
yeah,maybe.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
You mean, you already rejected the guy before. And now he is going to marry someone and that will be next year. Maybe you felt jealous about his new girl. Maybe you remember that before he was in-love with you, his attention was all set just only for you. And things are not the same as before. He was in-love with another girl. I think you have to ignore your feelings because if you don't it will grow much deeper. But if he love you still you don't need to worry of seeing him marrying someone. I know that man will do anything to win your heart for the second time. Don't also hesitate to tell him how you feel about his incoming marriage. If you think he still love you then you have to say him what you feel. good luck my friend! Have a nice day ahead!
• China
26 Aug 11
I have no idea whether he love me or not.There is no new girl.He just told me the news.He said that he wish me happy.
@nezavisima (7418)
• Bulgaria
26 Aug 11
it all depends on your love. I respect you love this man I want you back together. first ask yourself these questions and then decide whether to return. I wish you good luck and nice day!
• China
26 Aug 11
Thank u!HE is really a nice guy!