August 26, 2011 12:58pm CST
How do you react? I use to stand and fight for my point of view. But I must admit that I don't so much anymore. I am much more passive these days, I find that there is very little I am willing to get upset about. When I look back I see all the things I was willing to fight for have either come to pass or not, my energy in the fight for conservation, fair wages, women's rights, clean air and many, many others has done nothing to move these things forward or back. I should have saved my breath, but I did enjoy the fight. Now I feel the only true difference I can cause is to say just the right thing to someone who needs it at that particular time. I can help or heal just one person at a time and only if they are ready for it. Are you a reformer or do you know one?
26 Aug 11
Yes, you are right..At one point of time we would feel that all the fights and struggles we did for a noble cause were in vain. But as u said, help one person at the right time is much better and that too, only if he asks for it. As we know, free advice has no value..When someone asks for our help we can do our best to bring a change in him/her. Same with conservation. It's better if we do our bit to conserve our environment and maybe pass this message to kids who are the future. A strong base would lead to a strong structure..I always believed environmental conservation should be taught to kids when they are small.
27 Aug 11
Most things that will benefit Mankind should be taught in school. Catch'em young and everything becomes second nature to them by the time they are grown. I wish I had been taught more about the environment and our impact on it than facts and figures that didn't help anyone!
26 Aug 11
Hi savypat, I guess I'm like you in a lot of ways but I find that there have been many improvements in my community, province and country. I like to think too that my voice, added to that of others, may have helped in some way. I know there are still many more issues out there, but I guess someone a bit younger will have to carry the torch now. If we can help just one person now we will have done our part. I try to post a cheerful message on my facebook profile every day and I look for people who look like they could use a smile. Blessings.
• Nairobi, Kenya
26 Aug 11
I like fighting when I know I have proof for what I fight for. If someone says something misleading or just a talk without valid reason or proof for his/her words then I would question the source of that story. We are here to learn, and none has a right to tell lies about something. What I usually avoid is fighting for a certain religion or belief. I have respect for this sensitive topic, but I would stand to defend mine if someone tells lies about it.
• United States
27 Aug 11
I feel the same as you. I was 18 when I went and joined the Army. Man was that a fight to get in. I was underweight. Later after I got out of the army and thought I had good credentials, honorable discharge etc, I found out I was the same level in medical field as I was before I left because I had not been in a certified state school. For Sakes alive I served in the US Army as a WAC during Vietnam at Walter Reed Medical Center which in 1970 was THE hospital to be working in. And come home to find out I was nothing. Married only to have my husband decide he wanted a divorce after I am 7 months pregnant with our second daughter. he was dating a Captain that I had trained in the Army. So men became not a priority in my life found out they were not worth being part of raising children. During the 90's got involved with the HIV/AIDS and became the first state counselor and took care of 7 men until 6 passed (one is still living!) So I think I have been quite the rebel. Now I have frustrations over the US government, jobs, welfare of people, but either I am out of steam or don't want to be slammed because someone else thinks differently. I just want some peace for everyone for a little while. That would be my one biggest effort to see if getting on my soapbox would help. But words, the way someone reads a discussion or replies to a discussion can be so misconstrued, you do not dare most of the time anymore bring out these feelings. I understand how you feel perfectly! Put me in your corner. I am exhausted too.
• United States
27 Aug 11
I agree that many of the things I fought to see changed really haven't changed a lot during my life time. Sadly, women still make less doing the same job in many occupations and it was one of the things I wanted to see be equal. In my early years, I was a welder and had a hard time getting jobs, as many times they would hire a man instead of me. It didn't matter that I went to school to be a welder.
30 Aug 11
Disagreements and conflicts arises due to our lacking in acute observation of situation with which we are dealing and lack of patience which results into hasty judgements without considering all points. We are psychologically very anxious and willing to express and assert our vies regarding the ongoing matter without sincerely analysing the matter being discussed and secondly fighting for proving one's point of view is a very clear cut indication of his short tempered nature .I agree with you that instead of indulging ourselves in verbal conflicts we should try to conserve our energy and utilize it for other important and useful activities especially some sort of creative work .I believe involving oneself in creative things add a new dimension to our life and brings happiness and joy which we cannot get through verbal disputes and disagreements .
27 Aug 11
I think you are right Pat, when I was younger I was very fiery, in fact as you already know I even entered politics, I would never pass a debate or let people know what I think inside, as I aged I sort of toned or mellowed down and at some points even withdrawn, I don't want to waste my energy anymore on useless talk that gets nowhere,for me it's more action now, so when it's an environmental concern, I just do things on my own based on my perception on how I could help the environment minus my youthful bravado