They Start A Discussion, You Respond...They Don't Comment Back...You Feelings???

Wow great response once again and thanks for it friend and I am giving award for this means plus sign. You are right if the people dont comment back then their loss. I always try to comment back but now my seating timing is less so it is hard for me because my backbone is not supporting me and I am going for rest byeee.....

We all have offline things which make it difficult for us at times to be here but if, instead of starting more new topics, we concentrate on catching up with the comments to the responses on the previous ones, then that's ideal. No-one will then say that we are just 'response collectors'

Hello Dear Ms Diana!!!! I really fail to understand , what magic you have or Charisma you have with you, that you start gathering comments to your responses before I come to you! I must learn this trick of yours! LOL! I thought I would promptly come back to comment back to you before some one o the same, but this time it was our friend Surekha Rathi, who has taken the credit!Ha Ha Ha... Yes, I agree with you and I have had my own maternal uncle, whose job was to put some questions and then he would be busy with cleaning his ears with ear buds, instead of listening what we are saying! Now he is no more but I do have another cousin of mine who behaves in the same way! So having got experience from those people in offline life or real life I am really careful and see carefully if I am being listened to or not before expressing myself further! I really don't understand about the psychology of such people! Similarly here on this site I have noticed many members who are doing pretty well, are not taking interest in commenting back to our responses! As you said they are the losers at the end of the day! Though it has been repeatedly said on this site from time to time by some one or other senior members , to remind them they can make good earnings out of this, they are hardly paying any heed to it! Otherwise also I think this is a minimum courtesy and duty of the person initiating the discussion to appreciate the pains taken by the fellow Mylotter in responding to his/her discussion! This is what makes the question answer session into a a live discussion! What can I say about you participation! You are an expert discussion maker and people have got lot of things to learn from you, you include my name also in the list! I know your way of initiating a discussion, responding to it and adding comments to it! I also appreciate the way you leave some funny punches in others discussion to make it live and manage to get a big gathering in the discussion! I would live to participate in your live discussions but unfortunately I don't have that much of time at my disposal in a stretch! In spite of that I try to attend as much as possible to have some fun which means a lot to me , after some tiring job! Thanks for responding! Hi Surekhaji! Thanks for the BR, I know this is not a proper place to acknowledge! Please don't exert a lot and take rest as per the advise of your Doctor! Take care and get well soon , so that we all can have good fun! May God bless you!!!!

Oh Yes! Thanks for that! But it got turned back to Red yesterday for a while, then by evening it has regained its color to blue! Am I making some one angry? LOL! By the way have you gone through my comment oven to my previous discussion, it was toooo late to respond there! Thanks a lot! !!!

Hello Dear Hardworkinggurl!!!! Yes, may be you have become immunised to this sort of situation and you have prepared your self mentally not to bother about the members who really don't bother to comment our responses! But then, as you said many of us do some home work, if needed to refer a site to get genuine information and try to give the best possible response! We know that we have posted a best possible response from our side and it is really frustrating that the response is not even read, or if at all read it is never reciprocated in the form of a comment! Yes, stopping to respond to such members can be one of the solution to keep ourselves mentally fit! at least by avoiding such members we won't have the feeling of frustration any more! Yes, No one likes to talk alone! Because it is nothing less than talking with a wall! The hard work being incorporated in making a good response goes waste if the member is not bothered to respond back! It is a human nature, that we all like that our work should get appreciated! It is true that the members who are doing so are losing the earnings which otherwise they could have had by commenting the discussions! May be these members are interested in increasing their score which gets increased every time we respond to a new discussion!!!! Yes, dear friend, I am a person who really have hard pressed time! I can't really say when I will be having time with me and when I will be busy! So I take out sometime and try to comment back all my responses, may be some times I am too late some times! I recall commenting your discussion at the last one, with due apologies in my last discussion! I agree that people like me should not think of start a discussion, instead , responding to others discussion would be fine! But then dear friends, habits hardly die, I enjoy getting friends all gathering in my discussion and this gives me special energy and enthusiasm and for a while I for get my tensions and enjoy the site to have a nice fun! I think this may not be possible if I respond to others discussions, as you know...many of them hardly bothered to comment back! LOL! This time I am going to complete my comments and then only i am going to respond other's discussion! As usual thanks a lot for the detailed and informative response! All the best!!!!

I came back to check on that blueberry above your sweet horse. back up again. Hooray!

Dear Ladygator! That is OK if we fail to understand what a response means and under such circumstances it is better to avoid giving any comment as this may create unnecessary confusion! Yes I understand there are situations where the response doesn't have enough stiff to warrant a comment! I appreciate that you are sincerely attending all your responses and making the members realise that you care for them and their responses are duly read and appreciated! This is a basic courtesy and this is what required on this site to make it a discussion forum and not to keep it a just question and Answer type of site! You have forgotten to say how you feel when the people are not responding to your responses in the form of comment? It is OK you are commenting without fail, would you just ignore if you don't get comment for your response or feel angry or frustrated? Kindly respond!Thanks for responding, I liked your participation and I sincerely appreciate it!!!!

Hello Dear Jazzsue! I can understand your problem very well as we are sailing in the same boat! I too have lot of commitments and I am hard pressed of time! Inspite of all this we are having the intentions of responding back to the responses we are getting in the form of comment, which we are getting from fellow Mylotters! We sincerely appreciate the efforts taken by them and care for their opinions or advises and duly acknowledge them! Yes, every one here does have a real life or offline life and we need to take care of it as that is main thing and we are required there to be present physically! But at the end we are taking pains and reciprocating the efforts in the form of responses, though sometimes they may become bit late! I think you must have attended your 'Other work and must be free now?!'!!! LOL! I really get frustrated and some times even get irritated when people just initiate a discussion and they never come back to see what is going on there! I get tired of getting to their discussion now and then to see if I got any comment, as I don't follow discussions through my e-mail! Hopefully after this discussion we may expect to find some change in this aspect?! Thanks for responding and I sincerely appreciate your efforts which you have taken in spite of having shortage of time! !!!

There You are dear Jazzsue! You got my point and that really irritates me! It is just like a mere formality followed to ask our opinion and then wander off to someone else! Thanks !!!!

I agree - especially when it's on a volatile subject. It's like someone you know striking up a conversation in a bar, asking, maybe: "So, what do you think - " and then the moment you say, "Well, I ..." they turn their back and wander off to someone else. Roood!

And Why Not to take the advantage when we have been provided with! I am also of the same opinion of yours ,while making some learning we are making some one happy,what else can be so satisfying and rewarding than this? Thanks!!!!

Hello Dear Beingwell! I understand your point that every one is having their own right or freedom on this site! And I agree that it is their sole discretion whether to comment back or not! But then I feel that Mylot is a discussion forum and to make a question answer session into a discussion forum we need to have responses and comments in return so that there is a dialogue between the two members and thus a discussion can take place! Apart from that I feel that it is bare minimum consideration one should have to reciprocate the efforts taken by fellow Mylotter in spending our discussion! This not only encourage the member t participate in subsequent discussions, but also boosts up one's Morales too! Lastly by commenting back one can make earnings similar way as in case of posting a new response! So I feel that commenting back is in fact a beneficial thing as creates a good will and also helps in increasing the earnings! Thanks !!!!

Yeap, I do agree. Of course commenting and commenting once more adds to our earnings. Others however don't appreciate that side of MyLot. It's their loss. As for me, I'll keep enjoying this site and maximize it to its full potential, as much as I can. hihihi...

Warm welcome to Mylot Dear CharityHobbs! Yes, many of us have joined Mylot initially for making some money! But very soon we realized that this site is not good for making fast money but it is something very special than mere money making site! Here we have members from all parts of the Wold and they come from all walks of life. We have members of all ages and with different professions! The members are quite matured,understanding,well mannered and most important sincere and helpful!!!! Yes by visiting this site I bet you will get hang of it within no time and I am afraid you won't get addicted to it! There are many things you can learn from this site! We discuss here anything that is happening on the surface of the earth as there is no restriction about the topic of discussion! The language being used is very polite and there is no role of unparliamentary language or abusive language as we are having a strict admin. to look after this site!!!! Face Book is a site which I used it for two months and I discontinued the use of that site! Presently I have hanged a Board saying 'The Shop Is Closed' in place of my profile picture! I find faceBook as an artificial place and I refer this as a 'Fake Book' instead of face Book! Yes regarding the topic of our discussion, I appreciate that, though you are a newbie you got the point and appreciate the importance of the comment in the discussion! Hope to see some interesting topics of discussion from your side soon! Thanks for responding! !!!

You are most Welcome dear friend! But definitely not on Fake Book...I mean on the face Book! LOL!!!!

Ha ha Thanks so much, I call Facebook 'Fake book' too, I had to laugh when I seen that. Talk to you soon, Thanks.

Hello Dear Thoroughrob! I understand your point, You will interact with the member who is responding only if you have some thing say to his/her response or otherwise you you don't comment! Most of he people they do it like that only! Yes, I can understand because of shortage of the time we may not be visiting this site frequently because of which there can be a lapse in the regularity!!!! But my point is until unless there is an interaction between the two or more members on the site on a particular topic, there can't be a discussion as a discussion requires minimum a dialogue! So to convert a question answer session inti a discussion we should start with a comment to the response we get and if done properly we are likely to get back another response to it, thus taking the conversation a step further to make it a lively discussion!!!! Basically Mylot is a discussion forum and we have fun and enjoyment in discussing a matter here, just like we do in our off line life! What you say? Thanks for the response!!!!

Hello Dear Don't Pick Your Nose, you are right, it is really an frustrating experience, if we see that our hard worked response on which we have actually spend some good time before posting is falling on deaf ears! The indifferent behaviour of such people who never bother to come back to see what is happening to the discussion started by them, really irritates me! If there is no interaction the sole purpose of this site which is a discussion , gets defeated! Then the site would be another question answer type forum!!!! I appreciate your views and to some extent I also do the same as far as resolving the discussions is concerned! I wait for sufficient time and having gone through all the responses and having commented them back and if I feel that I may not get any further responses I resolve the discussion by selecting a Best Response!!!! How can people boost their earnings if not commenting back? I think on the contrary they can make money for commenting and this becomes much easier for them as they are in touch with the topic and they need not waste time in searching for a new discussion to respond! I think for commenting also we are paid as good as for responding a discussion! Thanks for the response!!!!

Hello Dear Sammy! I understand your point! If people don't have time to comment back to their responses, them how come and why they are starting some fresh discussions or participating in responding in others discussions? I think basically people may find it boring to give same type of comment to each and every response they are getting to their response! I don't get any better logic to justify, if you say that people know that they can make money by commenting a response and still they are not interested in making one! Now if I don't get a comment I sometimes gets despair and frustration also, may be it varies from person to person how we take the situation! But for me I like some one commenting back to me, as I sincerely comment back to my responses, may be I am late some times! Thanks for the response!!!!

Hello Dear Stanley! You are absolutely right! I agree with you and I have already experienced this I responded few of your discussions and I got the feed back from you in the form of comments! Feed back only makes this site different from other sites which are simply a question answer type ones! Mylot is basically a discussion site and o make a discussion there should be continuity in the conversation, and commenting is on of the way of keeping the conversation on!!!! I agree with your views that it is a minimum courtesy and it is sign of appreciation for sparing some time to read and respond back to our discussion by the member, if we comment back and reciprocate the same to him/her!!!! Every one of us do have our offline life and that is having more priority than this virtual life, is having attended the day to day work we can rspond back as per the availability of time with us! It is always better to be late than never! Thanks for your response!!!!

Hello Dear Bhabycatch! Yes, I know, I too have a big list of such members who are are simply the response collectors and they are hardly having any interest to acknowledge the response! You are absolutely true, though we can't demand fora comment it is minimum mannerisms or etiquette's which asks one to at least comment back to the response! If there is a dialogue, then only we can have some discussion otherwise a discussion just ends as a question answer session! !!! Well, generally most of us they do the same thing, that is not to respond to a discussion by the members who are not bothered to comment back! But this is not a good thing in long run. Instead we should make them realise the importance of the comment and converting a simple question answer session into a lively discussion, which is the main motto of the forum!!!! Yes, if they are not responding back in the form of comment it is their loss and not ours! Well said and it is so true, hope the concerned members are paying attention to your response! LOL! Thanks for responding!!!!

hahaha!Well let's see who will notice it have a nice day

Hello Dear Kavya! I agree with your views that perhaps people want to increase their scores by giving responses to different discussions instead of commenting on the responses they are getting to their own discussions! Yes, by doing so they are getting a point increased in their score, which is not seen if they comment the response of the discussion! May be this can give them some encouragement this anyway not going to help them in making good earnings! If you see carefully, there are many members who are quite senior on this site but their scores are not very big, but they are popular and doing well on this site, just because they won' forget to attend every response thy get and commenting them back! Though their score is not getting increased their popularity and reputation gets increased and their earnings are also good!!!! Yes dear friend, Mylot is basically a discussion forum and we should try to convert our topic of discussion into a long conversation by involving as many members as possible, which only possible if we start it by commenting to a response we get for our response, the way you do!!!! Well , you have not mentioned how do you feel if your rsponse is not commented back by the initiator of a discussion? Thanks for the participation! All the best!!!!

Dear Kavya! Though it is my style that I always try to be as elaborative as possible while posting anything! may it be a discussion, response or a comment! Now since you have asked let me tell you that by writing bid responses or comments we are likely get more earnings! have you paid interest to the statement we have left side of the box i which type- It says, be as descriptive as possible! This is a clear cut indication that by making some quality and elaborative discussions we are likely o get good earnings! Believe me this is true and I am telling this from my personal experience! Try to be elaborative and see the difference between your earnings!! In fact I was a free lance journalist when I was a student and I used to contribute articles to some local and national News Papers then! So I have got eh habit of elaborating the things1 Thanks for responding! Thanks !!!!

Nice to hear that your a freelance journalist., if i try to write much long response or comments,i will not get much time to responde more disscussion,thats why said that i can't do it..,i think you can do this because you are journalist.,and you must have good writing experience also...is'nt??

Hello Dear Rosa! I appreciate that you respond back all your responses in the form of comments! Yes it is obviously understood that all of us do have our offline life which is more important than this virtual online life and that is why we concentrate more there! Because of this we may become late in responding back which I think quite OK! So far we are having the inclination of responding back it is quite OK! But the indifferent attitude after initiating a discussion to it irritates me a lot!!!! I must say that you are too simple to think that person may not have responded back as he/she might not liked your views! I may differ with you a bit here1 In case if your response is not liked, then it should have been contradicted and the views should have been put across accordingly! But here you are getting only a cold shoulder!!!! Yes, responding to each friend is a difficult thing on this site but we can rate the discussions and responses we like as it would not take even a fraction of a second! And for resolving the discussions w require some time and this ha to be one carefully to avoid the injustice done to the deserving member! Inspite of all these and having a hard pressed time with many members thy are doing fantastically on this forum and I think we all should learn from them and follow their footsteps to make this site a place for enjoyment with a purpose! Thanks !!!!

It is true, there are a lot of members that are doing a great job here and I am trying to learn as much as I can from them. Thanks Akrao!

Hello Dear Ryanyuan! Yes, in real life also we may encounter such situation , where people forget to show a minimum courtesy when actually it is needed! I think just by few sentences one can make a World of difference to the opponent person who is trying to interact with them! You got my point and I appreciate your views!Thanks for responding! !!!

Hello Dear Porcospino! Yes, I understand you always get back to the responses and comment them, as I have got the experience of responding few responses to your discussions! Yes, it is natural and understood that if are getting many responses we are bound to take some time to comment back each and every response and i think here most of us understand this, as are having many things to be attended in our offline life which are more important than this site! Yes,the fun about this site participating and making the discussion a live one! talking with the members really helps in easing out our day today tensions!!!! I think you too have got adjusted to a situation when you are not getting comments for your responses and you no more feel bad about it! I think you have got a valid point that they miss out a lot of things if they fail to interact with the members , for which they simply need to comment a response to take the conversation further! Yes,it is of course their choice as that is their account and they have the freedom of using it, the way they want to use it!!!! Bit I think it is basically minimum duty and courtesy of a member to recognise and appreciate the efforts being taken in responding to his discussion! For this all he/she has to do is just give a genuine comment on the response! Thanks for the response! All the best! !!!

Hello Dear Maezee! In fact I never wanted to offend any one with my discussion! I just wanted make my view that the efforts taken by the respondents should recognised and respected and it becomes our moral responsibility to acknowledge the efforts! Well I can understand you if are not remembering to answer back many of your responses as you have tendency to lose your track of things very easily! Are you serious that you are a victim of ADD? I know such people can't concentrate on a thing for a long time! They have short attention period! Thanks for responding!!!!

Hello Dear LetranKnight! I agree that this is not a job and we are not bound to comment back! But the point is that this is a discussion forum or social forum and we are participating here to have some healthy discussions! you will agree with me that a discussion requires a dialogue and to have a dialogue we need anther person to participate and take the discussion further and this can only be done if we comment on the responses we get for our discussions!!!! Yes, I understand every one is having offline World and we are also no exceptions to it1 We are also having our own lives to lead and we are spending sufficient time there also! But the point is that, when we are here on this site let us follow the rules ofthe game and play the game delightfully! Yes, we always encourage the people who are, as called by you as, the 'Response collectors' and request them to comment back to the responses and make the discussions live ones! I never say that comments should be compulsory or mandatory! It is understood that it is their own account and they can participate the way they like! If they are not participating actively then it is their loss!!!! I personally feel that if I am doing a home work and responding to a discussion ,I will expect a comment for my response as it makes me happy! I think this is applicable to every one in general!Thanks for the rsponse and I appreciate your views! All the best!!!!

Hello Dear pbbbsra! Now,having got advised by one of the senior member of the site you are commenting back to the response you are getting! That is really a nice thing to hear! Initially most of us must have done the same thing, I mean just responding a discussion and leaving that discussion for attending another! Because most of us have the habit of attending some Question answer type forums. But however Mylot is a different site than other social sites and here we are expected to convert a question and answer session into a live discussion! So I think it can only be possible if we initiate it as a form of comment we get for our responses and encourage the member who has taken so much of pains to respond to our discussion! I think here shouldn't be big problem in keeping the track of the discussions as we have systematically arranged separate tabs for the discussions.We have the tab for the discussion we initiated, discussions we responded etc where by it becomes very easy to keep track of it! We can even keep the track from our profile too, as there are separate headings given to accomplish our job easily! Thanks for responding and sincerely appreciate your efforts! All the best!!!!

Dear Sydney! I agree that people may not have time to comment back to the responses they are getting for their discussions! But they are seen in participating in other's discussion or they are seen starting another discussion without paying any attention to the original one! I really don't think that is a system abuse as they in fact are loosing the earnings if they are not commenting the responses! In fact I think they feel that by commenting either they are not getting any increment in the sore or they may be having a feeling that commenting may not fetch them anything in return, which I say is a wrong notion they have, if they think so, as comments can fetch good earnings , if done properly!Thanks for the rsponse!!!!