To all Mylot mother, I need some advice

United States
August 29, 2011 12:23am CST
Hi everyone. I would greatly appreciate some suggestions. My little daughter is four months old. My dear family is so wonderful and are always willing to help out. Fortunately I'm able to spend most of my time at home working and taking care of my daughter. However the times when I do have to work outside the home she gives everybody a hard time :). She will pretty much cry the whole time I'm away. A few days ago my husband and I went to a wedding and her great grandmother and great great grandmother watched her. We weren't gone long. About two hours. They said that she did good on the ride to their house. But when they got there she cried pretty much the whole time. I nurse and she uses a bottle with her dad. But with my in-laws and my mom she will not eat from the bottle for them. I've tried Nuk bottles and glass bottles. I'm running out of ideas on how to get her to eat for them and to help her not be so fussy when she's with others. I guess fussy isn't the word:), she uses her lungs full force.There family and friends who are willing to watch her and give me a little break, but I'm hesitant about it because I know how she acts even with her grandmothers. And she sees my mom at least once a week. If you have any suggestions or advice I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks so much.
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@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
hi dominique25 my daughter was really like your baby when she was yet at that age. She can cry the whole day when I was away. She's now a teen-ager. During those times when she was yet a baby, we really had a difficulty on where to leave her during work. Fortunately, my husband lost his job again. So he did not accept offer for job just to take care of the baby. That was really difficult. But for now, you baby will become used to her grannies. Just don't hurry she will soon get used to them. You need to relax your mind don't think so much of your baby while working.
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• United States
31 Aug 11
Thanks I will keep these things in mind and work on them. I greatly appreciate the extra help and ideas. I hope that with time things will improve. I have another question at what age did your child stay the first night away from you? Our anniversary will be coming up and I was wondering about if I should plan a night out for us or wait until next year. There was a hotel that I looked at but they are not at all flexible unfortunately. I asked if it would be possible to get a room for the day (that way she doesn't have to spend the night away because I'm not sure she will do good with that) and they said no. So i'm still looking around. But I will work everyone's suggestions and maybe perhaps by the time our anniversary comes up we can do something.
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
29 Aug 11
hi there. i am not a mother but i am a father. and i work at nights and sometimes i work out of town. my son is 5 years old already but when he was an infant he is awake all night waiting for me. when i tex message my wife that i am headed home our child will sleep. at first i did not believe what my wife was telling me but she video taped the events at home when i go to work. and if i dont work he will be sleeping at night and not be crying. he wont give us hard time. my first advice is dont sleep with your child. if she gets to comfy with that she will sure be giving the people with her a hard time. when you need to go out without her leave your blouse or shirt that you took of. i mean the one you wear that say. leave it near her. she would be smelling that and think you are just around. bring toys that she wants and enjoys like a mobile or something with music. i hope this work. i am sure there are a lot of moms there would be happy to help you... and dads too.
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• United States
31 Aug 11
Thanks so much. These are all good ideas. And thanks for sharing your experience. Your little son missed you so much. I appreciate all the help that you have given me. I will work on all of these things. Have a wonderful day.
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• Philippines
29 Aug 11
Hi ! I also have a daughter and she will be 2 years old next month. I think another reason why baby act like that is because we are always thinking of them that much when we are away from them, although it's very natural. Some elders says that when we are not around we should not think of our child that much because they will be affected. They also said, before you leave the house, leave your child the used dress you wear and make it their blanket, at least they will smell your scents. I don't know if it has any scientific basis but I followed their suggestions when my child is still a baby.
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• United States
31 Aug 11
That is a good idea. Thanks so much. That would be neat to find out if it has scientific basis. Because I think babies really do miss their moms when they are gone. So having some type of comfort item will probably help a great deal. Thanks again.
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@ladygator (3469)
• United States
3 Sep 11
I know this all to well. And it is a heartbreaking thing to see your child so upset. Some children are like this. And its great that you are looking into finding these times to be more pleasant. Its a huge demand on you to feel like you are the only one that she is comfortable around. Its so tiring on moms. I do however recommend that you continue to work on this with the ones that are willing to help out. Try out first by maybe bringing the person whom is willing to help over. Have them sit with you. As your baby feels your comfort with them around then maybe she will feel more at peace when they are around. Then have them feed her while you continue to talk in the room so she can hear you. Only come and comfort her a few times and then work to longer periods of allowing the other person to help her. Have them change her, play with her, read her a book. Take her outside etc....whatever else you do with her each day. Also an important part of this is to make leaving a quick and consistent routine. Assure her you will return and gradually increase the times that you are out. I would recommend actually going somewhere tho. Its hard to hear your baby cry and not go to her. But as long as you know all her needs are met and she is content initially then she will learn that you do come back and it will become easier for you both.
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• United States
4 Sep 11
Thanks so much! You know exactly how I feel. And I will work at your suggestions. They are really good ideas. I think they will help a great deal. I'm so going to try and get a different bottle top so that way maybe it's the bottle top that she doesn't like too much. I feel that with time and these suggestions things will improve a great deal. I do feel that it is stressful for mothers when our children are this way. We know that they love us which is great. But we don't want them to get so upset when we are away. I will work on this.