Do you find yourself choosing a "crowd" or types of people you hang out with?

@chiyosan (30205)
Philippines
August 29, 2011 9:11pm CST
Let's just talk about who we choose friends, or how we are with our social skills, perhaps. Well of course we cannot always choose who we will be when we are at work... we arent the ones who hired all the people after all... but then do you somehow find yourself distancing from people who you think are not really good influences? or when you see a "crowd" or types of people hanging out together, do you first assess them from your POV before attempting to get to know them, and hang out with them? Is this necessary for us to do this?
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10 responses
• Philippines
4 Sep 11
Guilty! I am open-minded about a lot of things, but I oftentimes opt to be immersed in an environment that I feel comfortable with.
@allen0187 (34432)
• Philippines
31 Aug 11
hi chiyosan! i think of myself as someone who can hang out with different types of people. i tend to choose to be together with people who in my mind are highly successful. this goes for both my work and life altogether. i also tend to hang out with people who i share an interest with.
• United States
30 Aug 11
I will strike up a conversation with just about anyone. However, when it comes to those whom I consider actual friends (whether offline or online) or to have real friend potential, they generally hold political views that are pretty close to my own. They tend to have an interest in the environment and social justice. My "inner circle" is comprised of people with similar educational attainment (which I suspect is true of most people). They all vote the same way that I do when they vote. Despite having very different backgrounds, we hold a lot of the same views.
@thaMARKER (3093)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
yes i do, most of the time. I prefer to be alone and keep myself distant from friends or people around. Im organized and relaxed when im on my own. Im not in the sisterhood but i sometimes go out with officemates, mostly guys. Im easy to be with, i have no problems dealing with different characters. Its just that i value my independence and privacy.
@wongchoiyee (7477)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 11
I distancing myself from people who always bring negative thoughts to me even my mum who always pressured me with others successful life. I just hide in my room with my desktop and mylot. But in workplace we can't choose our workmates just tolerate them and do your best. If they are arrogant, just do your own work. If still they are opposing you then you should talk to your boss and see if you can still stay on the job.
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
I think we as individuals try to get along with other people, especially those in the workplace. Due to the to extent of time being spend, and same experiences and shared backgrounds, we try to at least form one, unified group. However, there are times that we are more successful in dealing and getting along with some people rather than others. We consider the first group of people as our family in the workplace. I believe it is a matter of choosing becuase we need some kind of support group whenever we are - in home, work or in life. We cannot help but be drawn more to others becuase of their personality and some of shared something. We like to have a crowd of own - so that there will be more no more need for explanation and more understanding from this group of people. We consider them as valuable as our own flesh and blood. I just every individual assess each other in terms of work ethic, personality and whether one can get along with another person. But only experience can prove and understanding can prove that and perhaps start or break a good relationship.
@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
30 Aug 11
Yes, I will distance myself from people whom I think are negative influences. And yes, I will assess people first b4 deciding whether I want to know them or hang out with them. I am very particular about who I want to be friends with, because friends can have a certain influence over me.
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
Hi chiyosan! Yes, I think that's a given. When we go into a group of people, we choose who we go with, who we make our own group. I think that's one of the strategies in survival. We choose who we think can help with our survival. I believe in the saying that "birds of the same feathers, flock together". It's easier to go into life with people who understand you, who will understand you because you are like them. Same things happened to you, so you can relate to each other easily. Happy myLotting!
@Judy890 (1633)
• United States
30 Aug 11
Hello chiyosan, I choose my friends wisely, I know who to hang out with and who to not hang out with. Ever since I was in elementary school until high school I hanged out with people who were similar usually quiet, polite, and smart. I hated the loud and rude popular ones (not necessarily popular) but the ones who talk to everyone.
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
30 Aug 11
I hang out with social justice orientated people mostly. This is because I have the most in common with those people and they tend not to be stupid, which is good because I can't bare stupid people.