Do You Re-respond to the discussion when your earlier response was REMOVED?

@thesids (22455)
Bhubaneswar, India
August 30, 2011 3:18am CST
Hi Lotters and friends Sometimes, we make a mistake and violate the rules at MyLot... and that results in the removal of our response to a discussion. Maybe not all but many of us have experienced this. I was wondering - Do you go back to such a discussion and re-respond ensuring that you dont violate any terms of MyLot Again? Hmmm... I think, there are many positives in such a situation - Maybe I was rude and the starter had just read the response... The starter would be hurt and my re-responding in a polite manner will definitely soothe the hurt. Again, while re-responding, I would be clear on not violating the rules which might mean that I re-read the Rules - The Plus point - Re-reading the rules help me understand what MyLot expects from me Better and I stay update with the Rules and guidelines... And hey, did I mention - those who are here for money only (I am sure there is no taker here) I can try to recover the lost cent too Did you ever think on these lines and re-respond? Have a great day and month end Cheers Sids
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30 responses
• United States
30 Aug 11
Hi thesids Yes this has happened to me where my response was deleted for guideline violation. Actually about two times. It was for helping a new member with how myLot works. Although the question was not about how to earn but more so about how much does one earn. I was watching the members continually making mistakes, so I though I could be helpful in giving tips. Apparently either the discussion starter felt it was not relevant and or someone reported them. I was not unhappy about them being removed and hoped the member did get a chance to read the response so that they properly used myLot. I don't enter myLot how to's with the sole intention of earning so it really didn't bother me just a bit surprised. No I never returned to add my response again because really it was helpful information and I really don't feel it was a loss to me, as I really was helping. I would do it again, with the intent for other members to learn and be successful here. But as far as returning back to try and gain the cents, nawwh, see my response would be the same.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Aug 11
Hi GF That must have been quite a sad feeling - when you try to help someone and they take this with the wrong approach. I have felt that many a times in the real world. I know there are many great peole who are here for fun and other things and not to earn any cent or money. I know that you are one of these great members. This is why I keep saying that you are one of the best - in fact among the best 3 of MyLot.
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
30 Aug 11
Hello Thesids, I never had a response deleted, unless the whole discussion was deleted. I still fall in such traps and I respond to discussions that later are proved to violate the guidelines. Though I don't remember if I received any notification for deleted discussion this month. Assuming that one of my responses got deleted for violating the rules (which is not 100% impossible), I don't think I would come back to the same discussion. Once I wrote my opinion and it was against the rules, what would be the use to come back? Should I come back with a mild response? No, it is not me. Once I affirmed something, it remains like that. I wouldn't change my opinion for one cent. Would you?
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi inu Of course not for that cent... I am sure of that. But yes, for the sake of happiness and pleasantness around, in case my response ever got deleted because I was rude, I am sure I would return back, maybe apologize and also re-post with better wording and try to patch up with the starter... because in such situations we never know if that earlier response was read by the starter or not. In case it was then s/he would have been hurt and I am not here to hurt anyone. For other cases where the opinion cannot change, I would be more polite.
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@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
30 Aug 11
If I said something rude to someone, it means he/she really pissed me off. So I wouldn't change my message once I wrote it that rude. Luckily I don't get angry too often, I rather stay away of "hot" subjects than tell my opinion that is totally against the one of the discussion starter.
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• United States
30 Aug 11
I can't remember my responses/comments being deleted unless the discussion or original response that I was commenting on got deleted (with the exception of the occasional accidental duplicate response due to connection issues, that is). I have been warned a couple of times by GoAskAlice about "playing nicely with the other children", and I think that my further responses were more appropriate as I neither got any further warnings nor deletions. If my response were to be deleted, then I guess that it would depend upon the reason that it was deleted. I was accused by one member of being rude, and she was very ... let us say "aggressive" and "accusatory" in her remarks. I apologized, even though I did not feel that I had said anything wrong, because she was obviously very upset. She got nasty about my apology as well, and I just left the situation alone. Our responses were not deleted (nor did GAA make an appearance), but if they had been deleted I definitely would not have responded there again.
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@topffer (29495)
• France
30 Aug 11
Some members are exploding with no obvious reason. I don't know if it was the same, but I have been attacked for a response by a member who also accused me of being rude, gave me several nice qualifiers, and reported the response : it has not been deleted as I was not rude at all.
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@topffer (29495)
• France
30 Aug 11
I hope you removed the fishes from your bathroom.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi PA That seems strange and confusing but I am sure that no one reported those interactions. Good for us. From the small set of interactions we have between us, I have found you and your responses quite jovial and I think that would definitely have been a case of misunderstanding or misinterpretetion...
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@nishant5n (1067)
• India
30 Aug 11
Hello Sid, Hope you are doing good. Like Akp said, I have also never had my response deleted due to guidelines violations. Yes, I did have a few of my discussions deleted which I re-posted after appropriate corrections. In future, unluckily if this happens and my response gets deleted, I will definitely re-post it in order to show and indicate that I understand the guidelines and respect them and here it is a new, improved, updated, and better response for you!
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Oh my dearest nishant Where had you been? I really missed you dear. Hope you are doing fine and My email is still pending. I wish that I could meet you in person... someday. I loved your response - in order to show and indicate that I understand the guidelines and respect them and here it is a new, improved, updated, and better response ps: bro I know you earn more and better in your medical transcription works but dont you thik it is somewhat unfair to leave your loving friends for so long here? Hope to see you more often buddy.
@nishant5n (1067)
• India
30 Aug 11
I am extremely sorry Sid, I feel the very same sometimes... Really, I do want to be here at myLot more than anyone...I have been here many times lately in order to check if you are online or not or presently active in some discussions or not, but unfortunately I was unable to found you online and active at that particular time. I will keep your advice in mind and will try to be here more often...
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Thanks buddy... convey regards to bhabhiji. I was quite irregular over the past 4-5 months here and missed many of my friends. Good to be back
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
30 Aug 11
Hi Sid, To be very open, if there is some situation, I never go back and try to correct it at point of time. Once it is gone, then it gone for ever and I may interpret the same in a different fashion if the topic is so sensitive. But so far nothing happened as such. Regards Thank-s
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi Thanks Good to see you back on my discussion buddy. I am quite happy to see you. I had once encountered a situation - where the starter seemed quite rude - you had mentioned her with "dear" and she had a good suggestion but put it quite wrongly. Certain situations do hurt people and we (epecially me) I think are more suceptible. Anyways, lets forget these and move ahead... When a situation like this happens, I am quite sure that I would re-respond changing the tone of my response... But I do believe it is something quite not easy as it would be the same me, and the same discussion... as you say - difficult to change my stand or viewpoint... but I think I can manage to be simpler
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• India
30 Aug 11
You too..... remembering!! Yes, I cannot forget it ever. Though it is just a simple comment for her and she must have guided me. But for me it is just as equal to give slap on my cheek. It was really so painful and beyond tolerance. Later on I decided not to respond any of her discussions and still, when she delivered and got a new baby, I greeted her. I think this incident I never forget. Because it is one of my speciality that if I get blamed for such incidents, it would severely hurt any one. However, we who take it seriously can understand the real fact. Forget it, and that is the only way out. Regards, Thank-s
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Yes, I remember the things that are hurtful to me and also my friends. Good news that now she has a baby. Lets forget that and move ahead...
@akp100 (13169)
• India
30 Aug 11
HI sid.. Actually I have never experienced anything like this. Few of my discussions got deleted because of violating rules in past but none of response got deleted because of the same.. About future, If i will break any rule by chance then i will surely like to revisit that discussion and response again so i can over come my mistake.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi akp Bro it is really nice that you have not lost any resposnes because of violations of Rules. I am quite happy to know your views that you would not hesitate to re-respond to the discussion in case any of your responses got deleted... I am sure that is because you are a great person who believes in happiness and good relations
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@akp100 (13169)
• India
30 Aug 11
Admin's referral !!!!
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
I can agree as you keep changing your avatars more frequently than anyone else I have met here at MyLot
@kavya06 (373)
• India
30 Aug 11
No,i will not do it because i have much experience,when i was a newbie here i had replayed many disscussons look like aganist mylot t&c,but i found that all this disscusions including my responses has been deleted for violating mylot rule, know i only respond to disscussion which is not aganist any rules here..,mostly try respond only the top disscussions.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi kavya Oh that is quite a bad experience but the rules are for good of the community. Never mind, I would suggest that one learns from experiences and you have rightly done so... But this time, this discussion is neither that good nor on top but I believe you are confident that this one is not any violation of the T&C... that does give me some hopes now @praaji:
@kavya06 (373)
• India
30 Aug 11
Yes,thesids now i'm very much confindent,because now i only to the disscussion starts my the top or medium level user and stop responding unwanted disscussions mainly starts by the new members here...!
@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 11
Honestly, I haven't experienced this kind of situation. Usually if my response was deleted, then it is because the discussion it was under, was deleted though :) But let's imagining things.. Yes, I would re-respond it. If I was being rude back then, I would apologize in my "new" response And yeah, like you said before, I will try hard to not violating any guidelines now I think every discussion starter would be happy if there's someone leave a response(it would help to increase their earning, though XD), especially if it is polite and good response. So why should we bothered to make a re-responses? :)
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi varier Good that things are so far pleasant for you and you never had an opportunity where the need to re-respond arose. Normally when we respond we are always within the pleasant boundaries but there are some odd timings when our response may gettowards the hurting edge... So we all should take care to be providing an open and healthy discussion
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@varier (5699)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 11
You are right! We have to try our best to make a pleasant and polite response. But, if sometimes we failed to do so in a rare occasion, I think all things that we should do is just apologize and promised that we will not repeat it again..
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• Chennai, India
30 Aug 11
Hi Sidhu. This situation hasn't happened for me so far. That doesn't mean I'm perfect. In some instances, the entire discussion was removed so there's no point of re-responding. And, I'm not vividly active here. So, the chances of deletion of my responses are less. That's it. If it happens, I have no idea. (I just come to Mylot and browse through some of my responded discussions. If I have time, I'd respond to the comments. Sometimes, I leave without responding due to time constraint.) Cheers. - venki
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi venky Good to see you here buddy. I know that you are quite occupied with offline work and make rare appearances here at MyLot. So the time contraints work for you... I have experienced these time constraints over the last 4 months or so and realised that it is not always possible to even reply to all those you want to so during these times, the chances of re-responding are lesser.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
30 Aug 11
Honestly sweetie, no. If my response was removed, i won't respond again. I'll probably give the same response, it gets removed... I'm sure you get the point.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi Saphrina Has any of your repsonse got removed in recent times? I will not believe if the answer is yes. I have known you since I joined the site and your responses are so appriciatable... I am pretty confident that there is no necessity for you to think on such lines as your responses will rarely get removed.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
30 Aug 11
Thanx sweetie, but 2 has been removed last week, actually.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
c'mon, that day I am sure the admin didnt have his/her quota of vodka then... I mean how could that happen? You are always so loving and caring on the responses
• United States
30 Aug 11
Hi Bhai! I haven't had a response deleted . What happens is I go back to comment on a comment and the whole post is gone! If I ever got deleted I wouldn't go back. I would just move on.I wuld assume I spoke the truth and they didn't want to hear it!
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi behen That is some great thought... in case something got deleted. But I am sure that your responses and disucssions will rarely get deleted as they are mostly fresh and out of the normal discussions that one finds at MyLot.
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• United States
30 Aug 11
Thanks Bhai!
@pergammano (7756)
• Canada
30 Aug 11
Good morning,sids. Very seldom am I contrite, as my Father taught me very young...the bitter taste of "humble pie" of which I seldom care to indulge in. BUT, if the situation should arise whenst I misinterpreted or responded inappropriately, YES I would make a sincere attempt to "right my wrongs!" I do know how unabashedly defeted I feel when I am trounced upon, sometimes by the author..and OFT times by my own sensitivities...so I appreciate the value of logical/non-confrontational reply! In other words, a great BIG YES to your question!
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi pergammano Honestly, I wound never expect that any of your responses got removed because of the violations - the responses are so much filled with a sense of understanding and closeness. I am glad to have known you and your views match mine for sure.
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• Canada
31 Aug 11
As my centuries old, dear mentor so wisely penned; "all our words are crumbs that fall down from the feast of the mind." So, what I gleen from that if the mind and heart are pure, the words will be a feast, too! LOL! Keep up your wonderful work!
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
31 Aug 11
Hi there my little namesake, I've actually only had one response removed due to a violation and I really was not meaning to be rude or violate. I felt bad but did not return to the discussion. Maybe I should have just to try to make things right. I did make ammends with the person on another topic. We both have a tendency to misunderstand each other. That's a great idea though, sids. I'll keep it in mind if this happens again!
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Aug 11
Hi sid (my namesake) Wow, I am so glad that someone out here did try to patch up and is planning to implement what I suggest... maybe the same name works out fine with our similar thoughts
@sjvg1976 (12674)
• Delhi, India
30 Aug 11
Hello Sids, I have never been in the situation that my response has been deleted.There have been instances when my responses got deleted when the discussion got deleted due to violation of guidelines. But Sids the idea is wonderful i would also like to re respond to the discussion to please that disc creator next time.hahaha
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Aug 11
Hi sjvg Thanks for appreciating this idea - I will use it for better relationships with friends - nothing about pleasing the discussion starter though because I know the opinions will continue to differ and many a times, it would be difficult for either of us to budge
@shaggin (24136)
• United States
30 Aug 11
If a discussion of mine was deleted I probably would try to correct the problem and write it again so it would not violate the rules. I have very rarely had any of my discussions deleted. If I saw someone put up a discussion and it got deleted but was reposted and didnt voilate any rules then yes I would go ahead and comment on that discussion as well.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi shaggin That is so nice a thought and an extension of my thoughts indeed. Thank you dear, for sharing that you would go ahead in case the discussion got deleted but was reposted. Not many on this discussion share a similar view though but I must admit, I loved this part of the response
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
30 Aug 11
My respond was once deleted and i did not bother to re-respond for i don't feel like. That happen only once. But if ever my respond was deleted then i will think of it. When my respond was deleted i felt bad about it and wished to did it a lot better.
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@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Aug 11
Hi nurseclare Aww! that happens with almost all around here... and I too feel bad in case any of my responses get removed because of violations. But then, as they say, things move on and I always neglected to re-respond. But now after a littlethinking, I have found that in case I can repost (I m not sure about the rules of MyLot in this regard), I will try to re-post my comment and try to patch up things between me and the starter... After all, we are all humans and can err at times and the best part is that we can also rectify our own mistakes quite easily
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@umabharti (3976)
• India
31 Aug 11
Once its deleted i never ever re responded,i never tried it.These days my commnets are not deleted,so it meant that i am going by terms.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Aug 11
Hi umabharti Well, if all is going fine, it is great. Thanks for sharing your views here.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
31 Aug 11
your welcome,let me tell u one thing your discussion had given an idea that we can re respond if its deleted once.Many would try this,thank u once again.:)
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Aug 11
Oh dear... you really made my day Let me share a secret with you - I will always feel blessed if any one single lotter ever took my recommendations and suggestions seriously and if they get implemented, I would be feeling thankful as I could change something for the good
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
31 Aug 11
Hello Thesids! It is a bad feeling when our response is deleted, but like everything in the life it has it's positive side, yes! because it is a chance to rectify our mistake. I have never thought about that before but now that you say that I will do it. Thanks for this great idea. Good discussion Thesids!
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Aug 11
Hi Rosa Thanks for appreciating my views and telling me that you would consider re-responding to any discussion where your response gets deleted. I know that feelings get hurt when someone's response seems hurting and I feel that the responder never knows about this until it gets removed. Definitely the removal hurts but for the starter, in case s/he has read that response, the hurt stays and carries on subsequent discussions... so for the sake of a healthier Mylot and a better relationship among all, I thought of this thing. Unfortunately, many didnt seem to agree... their choice and I respect them. Thanks for the appreciation again
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
31 Aug 11
You'r welcome!
@neildc (17255)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
2 Sep 11
i am very serious about violation. if ever i get notified of my response been deleted, i put it in mind not to respond to the similar discussion again. i try to analyze a discussion if it could be deleted or not. but even though, sometimes, our unconscious minds tell us to response without looking or reading the discussion thoroughly. we will know later when another notification arrives.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Sep 11
Hi neildc Well, I never thought it that way as I always felt the problem is with me if my response got removed. Not responding to similar discussions... I try to avoid many controversial discussions though
@haiershen (1084)
• China
1 Sep 11
Maybe there is once or twice were happened in the last period, i'm not so sure, two reason: one is i never care this before,two is i'm too lazy to go back my responds.to be honestly,i will not re-respond to the discussion if my earlier response was removed. because new discussion is more interested than the discussion i had already offer the answer. Tks!
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Sep 11
Hi haiershen I can see your reasoning for sure here... but just a thought - what if the starter of the discussion read your resopnse and felt hurt?