How can the kids defend them self of the bullying?

I probably will involve the teacher and even the school principle if the bullying can not stop after a parent is intervening on behalf of her son by asking the bully to stop. I may have to make a police report if matter is getting out of hand and the school authority is not taking any proactive action to confront the bully. It is illegal for a bully to continue his act in school with the passage of anti-bully law recently, so by reporting the activity, the parent may have diverted any potential violent in the school directed at students, no one can tell for sure how a victim or even the bully will act out in light of so many school shoots out and student tragic ending in our school nowadays. SO if your children is being bullied, it is time for the parent to intervene and act proactively to find a solution to this rising problem facing our students today.

This is a touchy subject. It is a sad fact of life that kids are going to bully another. Most kids bully because of several reasons. 1. They want to feel superior. Bullying someone weaker than they are makes them feel good, and makes them think they're at the top of the chain. 2. They're being bullied at home and are taking it out on others. Some kids won't admit to being bullied by family members, but will instead lash out against another seemingly weak student. The list goes on and on. I've noticed that bullies tend to pick on kids who are unique and don't conform to the norm. They also appear to pick on those who are not well confident in themselves. Is your son confident of himself? Or is he the type that walks with his head down or always looking over his shoulder? I can understand his desire to hit a bully for calling him gay, but I'm glad he held back. Hitting is not always the answer. It makes things worse, and it should only be used in self-defense. Actually, if you can afford it there are classes that teach self-defense, and some of them enable you to defend yourself without physically hurting the opponent. It may be something to look in to for your son. I also believe that schools and parents should be more involved with bullying. If I were the Principal of a school I'd suggest for a program where the bully and the victim had to work on a life stimulating assessment. Two trained counselors would be on hand to monitor their every move and to watch how they handled the situation. The counselors would not be in the students' view, but would be close by to see and record what is going on. How? With hidden monitors and microphones. If schools enlisted the idea, it might work if given the chance. Parents would have to agree to it though, and be updated on all accounts. The students may not like it, but it would give them a chance to really know one another for better understanding. I am a firm believer in positive reinforcement to turn students around. I've noticed this with one of my nephews who has anger management problems. Whenever he gets angry, or can't settle down I put him to work and keep him busy. When he is finished, he is calmer and more willing to listen. As for bullying, oh yes. I was bullied ever since I began school.I was bullied because I looked different and acted different. I was bullied because I believed in Jesus. Or because I talked to my dog. I used to cry every time it happened, and I'd lash out in anger. I'd pretend to be sick just so I could miss school and avoid being made fun of. When I got to high school and in the tenth grade... I had enough. I fought back by quickly standing up to the bullies, and no longer caring what they thought. You know the saying, you can only take so much before you snap. And I took it since elementary school. Today, I am not bullied. I understand the difference between gentle teasing and flat out harassment. I have been attempting to forgive those who have long ago bullied me, although I am not certain of what my reaction would be if I met them face to face today. Hopefully, they have grown wiser and understand the harm bullying does. Hopefully your son will find peace and have the courage and strength to handle bullying.