Love at the first sight

@sunli123 (538)
China
September 1, 2011 12:43am CST
Do you believe in "love at the first sight"? The first day when I was in college, I fell in love with someone at the first sight. I confessed my real feelings two years later but were rejected. Well, it was so sad but I didn't hate him, till today. I just don't know why I still care about him so deeply with no love returned back to me. Or do I just fall in love with my own feelings and illusions? It has been eight years since we met each other. I know that there's no possiblity for us to be together. I am just wondering if there's any way for me to get rid of the addiction?
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21 responses
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
Well, that happen to me before. I am fall in love with the person whom I first meet. She also fall in love with me...but ending of the story will meant nothing. She married another man instead of me...
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
Hello starrose, long time no chat. Yup I agree with you, friend. But sometimes that somebody who match us will be our trouble... Hello sunli, don't worry even if you response late. The important thing was you do your best to reply...
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
Hi Aerous, sometimes it just happens. The one you love does not love you back. Anyways there will be always somebody out there for you that matches you. I'd like to think that they are similar to two peas in a pod or Ying and Yang. Two different people, coming from different backgrounds united together as one because of love. Wow! It seems your romantic spirit is rubbing on me.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
8 Oct 11
It has been more than 1 month since I started this discussion. I'm sorry for my late comment. However, I feel better now on this issue and I do believe everything happens with a reason. Thanks for sharing your experience and good luck to you.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
1 Sep 11
"love at first sight" is something out of a Disney movie. The modern world doesn't exactly work that way and love has it's ups and downs. It hurts when love bites back at you and your feelings aren't returned but don't give up. There are so many opportunities opened to us everyday. If love at first sight truly existed, people wouldn't be cheating on each other or have divorces. If only love is like a fairytale.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
?
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
agree with you
@conbill (369)
• United States
2 Sep 11
I believe in love at first sight. I met my boyfriend 14 years ago and from the time we met he's been the one. As each year goes by our love only growsstronger. I would definitely have to say it was fate.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
8 Oct 11
That is so nice. Good luck to you and your boyfriend.
• Mexico
5 Sep 11
Absolutely. Actually, I believe there's no other way for love to come into being. When you are going to fall in love with someone, you know it from the very first time you see him/her. It's such a wonderful thing because there's an electric show between you and that person. It's something you cannot explain by means of words, you just feel it, and then everything else follows.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
6 Sep 11
It's really wonderful when both parties have same feelings. But if only one has the feeling, what he/she could do?
@CSR2007 (63)
2 Sep 11
I have the similar experience as you, but i did not confess the feeling to him, i just hid it in heart. Now, i havn't seen him for a long time, and i get married, i still remeber him from time to time, but i must say i don't feel any love to him, just memory. I cherished it as a your girl's awakening of love. I hope time's passing can weaken your missing.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
I am confused at this, love or not love? The thing is I feel sad most of the time when I think of him.
@JL_Beldua (102)
19 Oct 11
Many people do not believe in love at first sight. But maybe because i myself also experienced first love at first sight turned out to be so you feel you floating in the air of the lightness, lightness inside you like nothing you have problems and blooming always and every time you see him happy always, you cannot imagine him in and illusions you. so for sure! but we know also lost because someone else shovel shovel's heartbeat can be too much like the beginning. Because the mind as we are because that can change who we want to think or put over the hearts and minds.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
20 Oct 11
Thanks for sharing your view and experience. Though the guy didn't have the same feeling with me and I had been sad for a long time, I still appreciat this experience. Now I know more about myself and grow up through this. Good luck to you!
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
1 Sep 11
Well there can be a connection made that can lead to love but it is not certain. Also not all love will sadly not be returned as some people rather do find out the hard way. There is someone that you could seem to notice in a certain way, but there are many times where they might as well think that you are just part of the wall to say the very least. It is extremely difficult to move on when you feel a connection for someone but is it really as secure as you thought? That is something to really consider. It is truthfully a process to slowly tear away, to slowly reach that final point, to really deal with everything. Just got to break away sometimes and deal with everything.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
I usually thought in the past years: was there any chance for him to thinking of me, even a while? I never asked him about this as it was useless and somehow ridiculous.
• Malaysia
1 Sep 11
I am quite skeptical about love on the first sight. I do believe in working on the feelings and reality. To hang on for eight years is a very long time. Maybe to get rid of the addiction what you have to do is to move away from the situation. To my opinion if you are a female confessing about your feelings to male is a bad move cause by nature the male would do the chasing.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
Yes, I agree with you that I have to move on, shouldn't waste any of my time. I confessed just to know if he had the same feelings with me,so no regret.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
1 Sep 11
What is it about him that you love? have you seriously thought about why he rejected you? it is not worth your time to be wondering. You need to just move on.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
yah you are right. Maybe it is just a matter of time.
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
1 Sep 11
No I don't believe in love first at first sight you cannot be in love with someone you just saw and know nothing about. Some people who think they felt love at first sight may have felt the person was very attractive looking but I wouldn't say love. Love is such a strong word.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
Well, it did happen to me, though I cound't tell clearly what kind of feeling it was when I saw him the first time. But you may be right, maybe it was not a real love, just like infatuation etc.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
1 Sep 11
I believe in it but it never happend to me
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
It's OK as love is love, no matter how it happens.
@ennylrak (30)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
i honestly do not believe in love at first sight with a person. lust at first sight, now that's more likely to happen don't you think? love at first sight with a marvelous place, that happens.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
So you must like traveling and photographing, don't you?
@araboi (41)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
At some point I do believe in love at first sight because I already experienced it when i was in high school. I saw this boy in my class he was seated at the front and I was seated in the middle, at first it felt weird it's like you always wanted to see him, and years have past I did not confess my feelings for him but on our third year of school he suddenly called me on the phone and we started chatting about thins then all of a sudden he told me that he like me and i told him i liked him since first year, he was shocked he told me that he start noticing me on during our sophomore year.After a month of talking on the phone he courted me and I answered him yes, to be his girlfriend. And after 8 months i broke up with him because of some reason. I graduated from High school, I graduated from college but still he was still on my mind and still loving him even though we don't talk to each other after we broke up, And surprisingly he added me on facebook then we started chatting last year and guess what now he's my fiance. So i think love at first sight is real. or let's just say true love. Maybe you can get rid of the addiction if you will find a new guy that will not reject your feelings and will love you back, someone you can give your attention.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
It is fantastic that both people have same feelings with each other. I'll learn to love myself to meet the right person.
• India
1 Sep 11
Its not love.Its infatuation
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
Maybe you are right.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
1 Sep 11
Leave alone love at first sight, i am yet to find love even after many sights.Yes its possible to fall in love any time,first or any time. Love follows no rules .Age,race,colour,time and place are not factors to be considered to fall in love. It is an emotion that happens at that moment and one doesn't know what will be happen after that. if we are lucky we may end up getting a favorable response from the other. If not its heads-down like me
@sunli123 (538)
• China
1 Sep 11
So don't be disappointed, the best always comes at the last minute.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
1 Sep 11
I do believe in love at first sight.I do have several times meet the guy and i fell in love with him the first time.I don't why and it's maybe because we body produce a kind of chemical things and the guy attract us.Everybody would have the amazing experience.You should also be happy that no matter what the result is ,you guys could keep in touch with each other.It's also a great relationship.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
1 Sep 11
Yah,you are right. Maybe the most important thing for me to do is learning to know more about myself and love myself.
@ARShams (82)
• Pakistan
1 Sep 11
Love in the first sight may create often awkward situation as an ultimate effect. One can be seen lovable on the very first sight, whereas, his or her character is the first and foremost thing to consider to proceed further with him or her. Rest of the qualities in a person to love are of secondary importance to have in consideration. Those who fall in love and establish relationship forthwith on the very first sight have been found most often repenting rest of life as 'all that glitters is not gold', the wise universal say goes thus alarming us to be cautious while choosing anyone as the companion for the rest of life.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
love,marriage,life
@naseemkum (1803)
• India
1 Sep 11
Yes i believe love at first sight because its not a business to plan but its a sudden feeling happens with anonymous person we meet in the streets. If im feeling for those girl im sure that im love about it. If ur really feels that u miss him in ur life that u already keeps him in ur heart.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
Anyway, it is a beautiful thing.
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
I don't believe in Love at first sight. because I want to more about the person and then that's the time will admire them if they are good. Maybe you just stop thinking about him. It's been 8 years I'm sure you will forget him.
@sunli123 (538)
• China
1 Sep 11
I didn't believe in it before, too. Actually I have tried many ways to stop missing him, like working hard, traveling around, reading psychology books etc. The problem is, I still couldn't date with other person even I tried all these ways. Do I need to go to see a psychologist?
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
I think the person is subconsciously your ideal man in the physical. So you think your in love. Let us say said person is a total jerk, would you still love him after getting to know that he is a jerk? Getting over him would be to meet new people! So go out there and meet meet meet!
@sunli123 (538)
• China
2 Sep 11
I may just fall in love with "love".