Not appreciated by you're parents?

@araboi (41)
Philippines
September 1, 2011 11:27am CST
Have you ever felt that you're not appreciated by them? and the only one they appreciate is you siblings? I have experienced this since i was a child I'm the eldest of four siblings, and I always envy my sister for the attention she's getting from my parents. Up until now I still feel I'm not being appreciated even after I graduated from college there was still no appreciation from it. And I hated my parents for the way they treated and making me feel this way. Have you experience things like this? I really don't know what to think. Can you enlighten me on this one?
3 responses
6 Sep 11
I don't feel apriciated or even loved by my parents anymore. My sister is always the favroite. shes always the "special" one. She think she has authority over me and yet, im older then her. My parents don't trust me and they always nag at me and causes arguments.
@araboi (41)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
charleychrizzy we have the feelings toward our sister. Maybe it can't be help in a family to have the favorite one and the good for nothing one. Let's just accept our fate and be happy for our siblings. Even my parents don't trust me or not proud of me i will continue to live my life and find someone that can appreciate me.
8 Sep 11
That's what I'm trying to do. I mean sometimes they appreciated me but its mostly because I've done the dirty jobs like wash up or pick up dog poop etc... I think I've found that someone who appreciates me, he's my boyfriend... I feel really warm & appreciated by him. Its like i have a second chance to be loved as i am.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
1 Sep 11
Yes, i was not appreciate when i was a kid by my parent among my sibling, even after i grown up becoming an adult, the situation remain unchange, after face with all these adversity and unappreciative attitude from my parent, i go on graduated from university and remain loyal to my parent, and become a supportive child in their golden year. I don't harbor any anger or resentment against my parent, as a result of the fact that i am not the only child in the family, it is either i become the black sheep of the family or my brother or sister, stuff like this will sure to happen in a big family where some one has to be the black sheep, may well it be me that my younger brother or sister. it all come naturally to me after all.
@araboi (41)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
I think I'm the black sheep of our family they think I'm not good at anything, that i'm always wrong and whatsoever. Was it easy for you to accept the fact that you're not appreciated? Have you tried pleasing you're parents? I cant really help myself to hate my parents. Maybe that's just how it goes for me. I only wanted to be appreciated by them just as they appreciate my siblings. I want to have some fair treatment.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
4 Sep 11
Of course i will try my best to please them whenever possible and within my ability to do so just for the fact that they are the one that is responsible for bringing me into this earthly world, fed me and clothed me when i am still a child. There is no hatre from me just because there is no full appreciation from them due to the reality of having to live in a big family where all my sibling also deserve unlimited and equal love from my parent. I can understand the situation they are in and the difficulty they are facing, i still love them like myself with all my heart and soul, it is without a doubt it is never easy to be the oldest child in a big family where full appreciation is hard to come by and also it is difficult to be the parent of many off spring.
@Judy890 (1633)
• United States
1 Sep 11
Hello araboi, Before your siblings were born were you still being treated this way? But I understand because when my sister was born all the attention was on her and my parents didn't focus on me anymore, I guess because I'm to old any way and had my time.
@araboi (41)
• Philippines
1 Sep 11
Hi Judy, As far as i can remember I started feeling this when i was 13 i think I'm not that good in my academics but i never failed, it's just that my sister is an honor student in her elementary days and in high school days. But me i rarely got honors from my academics. When I turn 18 I only got this small party but now my sister is turning 18 she will be having a huge debut party this month and I'm very jealous of that. I know it's wrong to feel this way but it's just too unfair for my part. They are just making me feel that they don't care about me.