Offline employment not suitable or suitable?

Malaysia
September 2, 2011 2:54am CST
I began working in the year 2001. I join legal firm, insurance, telesales and many private trading chinese company. Above all none of them I like working with except call center you can talk freely as long as you make sales. But still there is target to meet each month. I wanted to earn money once again and going out to work I still have a doubt whether I will get along with them, I mean colleagues and bosses. I have worked at almost 150 companies and all of these some I work, I interview and don't work at all and some I work for only 1-3 months. I don't know what to say. I want to work at home but mom says there are kind people just that I not yet meet them. But Everytime I went out to try for an interview, all crap people will turn out to disturb me and mess up the situation. Really, do some people earn well and get along well with the colleagues and bosses. I have tried for many times and my heart can't take it anymore. Should I mend my broken heart and go out once again or should I just listen to my heart that offline employment is not suitable for me?
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8 responses
@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
2 Sep 11
Oh I didn't know we had such similar experiences. The only difference is that I have not worked in so many places b4. Now I have decided to work from home and work at my own hours after several heartbreaking experiences. In response to your question regarding whether you should listen to your heart, I would say go ahead and follow your heart. You are only young once and time waits for no man. So, if you feel that you have missed out on life (meeting up with your friends, etc) and if you really think that working in an office is not your cup of tea, then pls follow your heart for the sake of your own sanity and overall well-being. However, I suppose you might have to speak to your mom about the matter and get her see your point of view before making up your mind. Ultimately, you don't want your mom to worry about you and for you, right? Whatever your decision is, you can be assured of my support.:)
2 Sep 11
oh you work from home?? do you mind me asking what you do?
• Malaysia
2 Sep 11
@huilichan8 thanks for your kind support! You have my support too, my friend @chicksdigscars yea..me too
• India
2 Sep 11
Just follow ur heart ..i would suggest do what you feel like doing ... but with some basic salary and part time that will grow up and u will be able to freely what u want .... thats what i am doing ..i am having my own firm at the same time with the small risk i do invest money in online i have invested in 2 companies and i am waiting for the payment once i received i will post on mylot so that with me my other friends from all over the world can also earn
@francesca5 (1344)
3 Sep 11
oh wongchoiyee, its very difficult to answer this question. what sort of work are you doing? i know you are in malaysia, and i don't know much about working there, but maybe you need to look for a different type of job. i think you are probably quite a caring person, as well as being sensitive yourself, is it possible to look for something different, that would suit your personality better. and then maybe you could then develop your online work. the danger of working online all the time is that isolate yourself, and as someone else here has already said, even working online you still have to interract with people.
• Malaysia
3 Sep 11
Right now I am not employed. I work at home but sooner I want to go out and seek for job so that is why I posted this discussion. I am more suitable in call center whereby the work is not so difficult comparing to office paper work where you have to do follow up and deadlines. There is only achievable target in call center which I like and feel happy when every sale is made.
3 Sep 11
as long as you are happy in a call centre thats fine, i was going to say more but mylot keeps on deleting any longer messages i write today, i think its ill!
• Malaysia
3 Sep 11
Why mylot do this? I never experience this before. Why don't you send a message to admin?
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
2 Sep 11
In India offline jobs are better or suitable here after completing education like Engineering. BSc etc immediately got job till 15 thousand to 30 thousand...but for less educated men not offline job is good.. But they start their own small business or work as a worker in any small company or shops.
• Malaysia
2 Sep 11
That is different here. Graduates are too many in our country and they compete for a high salary. Some are successful with high pay but some are not. Many also set up own business as you said and there are large graduates who works freelance too.
• India
2 Sep 11
but we don`t get the right person who pays the money i have done the copy paste work its pays a lot also but its donkey work so i have stopped that ..i invested in speak Asia i also got good cash in hand but the Indian government has stopped it for the while and my hearts says it will come back because the Bangladesh government has given the approval why not India ? getting finger crosses if speak Asia bounce back than i don`t have to do any other Job monthly i will be earning 75,000 Rupees
• India
2 Sep 11
Ohh you are also invested in speak Asia here in India even my town lots of people invested in it except me.. I dont know friend why the Indian Govt. banned on speak asia. I dont know about payment procedure of speak asia.. but I think the Indian Govt. think this company will fraud I not know very well
2 Sep 11
i've worked lots of places and i was never very comfortable anywhere. i fought with a lot of the people, i didn't like the authority.. i just didn't really like it all in all.. and i changed jobs over and over and over again. until i found my current job. i like the people, i like the work, my bosses are ok, i can do my own thing! just keep looking, you will find where you fit :)
• Malaysia
2 Sep 11
You are such a lucky gal. I have not yet find any workplace that I feel comfortable working at and I hope God will give me one workplace to work at so that I can earn money and I promise I will be loyal and hardworking.
2 Sep 11
whats the problem you have with the places you work? is it the people?
• Malaysia
2 Sep 11
yes. I think they all have bad impression on me.
@crisce (25)
• China
2 Sep 11
maybe you are the kind of people who like to stay alone and can not get on well with others, it is just because of your own charaters. The best way is to be a witkey online for you and you can try it.
• Malaysia
2 Sep 11
Yes I like to stay alone when working so that I can think of what to do and how to do it. But I also like to see there are colleagues that are working too. As a conclusion, I like a peaceful environment. At home I found it but mom is against me. Now what should I do?
@ankitbhat (269)
• India
3 Sep 11
rather than mending your heart you should mend you ways because in my point of view life is all about compromises specially when it is for money and belive me there is nothing better than offline work ....trust me on this .sitting all the day in front of computer would only cause a headache
3 Sep 11
It sounds like you're sensitive to the opinions of other people, like my partner. She's had similar experiences, where in every job there's someone (or several people) who make life hard because she takes their attitude personally. I've gone through that as well - I think we all do - and it took me years to find a job with good people who wanted to work together. Personally, I think there are two parts to the equation: management and us. Good managers are very rare: most of them are only interested in power or are stressed because they are expected to meet unreasonable targets. They push their workers, they make hard decisions and, unfortunately, a lot of them don't have the man-management skills they need, so they don't know how to motivate people, they don't know how to encourage teamwork and they focus too much on the figures instead of the people. The second part of the problem is in our attitude to work. We all want to work somewhere with nice people, a friendly environment and a job that motivates and encourages us to do our best. The management problem plays a part here but there's also our own view of things: sensitive people like you (and my lady) always feel as if every comment is directed at them personally, when they can just be bad management expressing what they want us to do. Taking those comments to heart destroys morale and makes us feel victimised: learning to understand the other person's point of view and get to the real problem is an art that can take years to achieve. I found that I enjoyed office work a lot more once I stopped all the confrontation. I stopped taking everything personally and started asking questions to understand the problems. There's a rule in business process analysis that says you need to ask at least three questions before you get to the REAL problem. The example they give is of a company that decided they needed to replace a very expensive statue because it was being eroded. This would have cost a lot. So they asked questions: "Why is the statue being eroded?" Answer: "Too much bird poop, which is acidic." Question: "Why are there so many birds there?" Answer: "Because there are a lot of spiders living on the statue and the birds eat them." Question: "Why are there so many spiders there?" Answer: "Because the flowers planted around the statue attract a lot of insects that the spiders eat." They replaced the flowers with plants that attracted fewer insects, the spiders left, the birds went somewhere else and the statue didn't need replacing. Ask enough simple questions and you get to the REAL problem. In a hostile office situation, this can work as well. It's a part of the technique of selling - you don't confront, you don't take it personally, you are understanding, you ask questions and you get to the real trouble, so you can fix it. In the end, most of the bad feeling at work comes from FEAR. People are afraid to lose their jobs. They're afraid of being blamed. They're afraid of someone else doing the job better than them. They're afraid of not meeting targets. They're afraid of doing the wrong thing. They're afraid of everyone and everything, all day, every day and they express the fear as aggression. Take away their fear of you and a lot of the problems go away. Be nice to your 'enemies'. Be understanding. Encourage other people. Be enthusiastic about the results other people get. Compliment people on a good job. Smile. If someone says your work is crap, don't take it personally: be understanding and ask them why they think that. It's incredibly hard for colleagues to be horrible to someone who's understanding, non-confrontational and wants to do better. If you can let all the bad stuff slide off you, like water off a duck's back, the people throwing the bad stuff will realise you're not a target and it'll stop. In my best ever job, my (excellent) manager absolutely adored me because I didn't care who was to blame. She knew she could blame me if higher management needed someone to blame and I'd smile and laugh about it. Blame is not important. "Whose fault is it?" doesn't matter. I would say "I don't care who's to blame. Blame me if you like, even though I had nothing to do with it. It doesn't matter. What matters is fixing it and finding a solution. Let's focus on that. How can we fix this? What can we do so that this doesn't happen again?" Of course, now I work part-time at home, so all that's finished. But my clients like me for the same reason. If something's wrong, I'll ask why, I'll accept that I messed up (even if I didn't) and I'll do the work again. They go away happy because they have a solution instead of a confrontation - and I create an environment in which they know they can tell me when something's wrong, they know I'll do my best to fix it... and I know they'll come back to me for more work because they're comfortable telling me when something's not right. Just my opinion, hope it helps.
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
You should not give up. There are more advantage of working outside than working from home. You get a lot of benefits. Like insurance, healthcard and so on. I went to 3 different jobs. You really get to interact with a lot of types of people. Some are nice but most of them are hard to get along with. But, I would rather focus on my job than keep dealing with this kind of people. I just ignore them. Right now, I'm working in a good company. I can't say that I have found the perfect company for me. I'm planning to resign soon. Some of my officemates are hard to get along with. I've been sacrificing for two years now. So I suggest, that you should not give up. Good luck to you.