Dating someone with kids
By Judy890
@Judy890 (1644)
United States
September 2, 2011 8:49pm CST
It doesn't matter to me after all who doesn't love kids, as long as he doesn't have 3 different women, a child should never put a thumbs down on somebody if you really have feelings for them you should be with them regardless of them having children but this is my opinion what do you think? Would you date someone who had kids?
3 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
i would say i will think really hard about this. i think i might not even bare to think that well some days he'd still have contact with the mother of his kid/s.. also i might be worried for myself because why would he, in the first place separated from the mother of his child, and why did he not want to marry the woman and start their own family... i might just be left in the same situation as her... right?
it would just depend on the situation, i guess but do not ever let your judgement be clouded when it comes to this... we might be easily fooled. and we'd always be on the losing side if we let ourselves be tricked by the man...(of course if would be a different case if you are the woman and you were left by the guy who was afraid of responsibility)...
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
3 Sep 11
You made a good point but just because the woman is alone with kids doesn't now mean it will happen to the next woman we wouldn't know unless we date him, he can also be a great guy who just had problems with his previous gf. If I had strong feelings for him I would give him a chance I wouldn't judge base on what happen with him and her in the past.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
3 Sep 11
If you choose to date somebody who has children, you have to be aware of the fact that you're not going to be the main person in their life. They will always have to come first, and might find it hard to adjust to their parent getting a new partner when they probably think that their parents should be together. You should do your best to be nice to the children, perhaps inviting them on some fun days such as bowling or maybe to the beach, and also make them aware of the fact that you're not trying to replace their other parent and that they'd still be able to see them just as much as they do at the moment.
