Why life is so complicated?

I think that if you have tried all your best for them and they don't listen then I guess it is time for you to move on with your life and let them learn their own lesson in case they flounder on the wrong decisions they made and not listening to you. You have been good and did your duty and since they don't listen, at least you have given them all your cares and did a good job as a sister.

thats is how life is supposed to be there are free lunches in this world as far as you question is concerned i think whatever is in your hand you are doing that .....all you can make them understand any particular thing which you are concened whether it is regarding future or something else but its is them who are gonna take the final decision ...thats in their hand i would rather suggest you to enjoy your own life to the fullest rather than thinking so much about life life is too short for these things enjoy it to the fullest

Helping others especially your siblings make you feel happy. And you can love yourself while helping them. In order not to feel overloaded in helping them, just give them guidance and support in every pace they make for their future. Don't forced them to do the things they don't like. Instead, give them freedom to select the path they want to go through.

I understand how you feel. The only thing you can do is give them the tools and let them build and design on their own. In other words.. you have shown what you feel is the right road for them to take, now it is their turn to take into consideration what you have shared with them and make their own decisions. Don't stop giving advice, when asked for, but do not keep trying to make them do the same things you have done, or wish you had done. All you can do is show them and tell them and they, in turn, need to take it upon themselves to adapt it to how they feel is good for them. You didn't mention how old anyone was, but I'm thinking young adults. If that's the case, then they really do need to make their own mistakes. If and when they do, they will know that you tried and will appreciate what you said and a possible failure on their part may make them listen to you more. Don't force them to listen, that will push them away and will never listen to you, regardless how good your advice may be. Do think about your self as well, but never give up on your siblings, ,they are family and all you'll ever have.. long after friends and loved ones have gone away! Enjoy your life.. as complicated as it may seem, because it is YOUR life and your siblings will come to realize just how caring you have been for them.

Who said life was fair? It's good to know that you actually care and doing your utmost best to support your siblings but some people just won't bother listening. Some people are very headstrong of their beliefs, opinions and goals and it will be hard to change them. I think it's best to let them experience and they will learn. And yes, think about your own life, feel stress free, don't let your siblings be a burden because they control their own lives, not you. =)

In my opinion you must not interfere in their activity. Let the go as they wish.If your advice is not understand to them it is not your problem. They will understand one day and they will come near to you. so don't worry just wait for the time to come. You must now concentrate on yourself. You must not waste your life and you have take good decision. As the experience is the best knowledge a man can have

I don´t think anyone can decide for another person. Let your siblings decide what they want to do with their lives. Even a mother cannot always decide for her children. She has to let them grow up and make their own mistakes. Relax

Hi Myn, Most parents can say the same thing. Kids are not going to listen to you because they want to make their own explorations of life and cut their own path through it. They will make their own mistakes and learn from them. I'm glad that you care, but I think you will have to let go a little bit and just let them make their own way and their own mistakes.

You did your best without any regrets, so you are not responsible anymore if their lives become miserable sooner. Since you did everything to your siblings I think it's time to give time for yourself.

You are right, Life is very challenging some times, in fact, every time. What you did for your siblings was good, and they will definitely realize it sooner or later. I suggest let them do what they want in life, but you keep track of their activities just to make sure if they are safe.

Being the eldest among 4 gives me the same dilemma. I am portraying the parent- role so they hear me say a lot of things, which some they don't seem to appreciate. Now that they're adults, I've learned to let go and made them make their own decisions. I realized that letting them think and make choices for themselves give them the opportunity to become responsible individuals. They learn from their mistakes and tend to solve problems on their own. I still check on them once in a while and I feel that they appreciate this kind of approach that the one I used when they were younger.