i feel your pain...

United States
September 3, 2011 7:42am CST
Whenever I see someone crying or in a lot of emotional pain, I literally feel like the same way I would imagine they are feeling at the moment, even if I am not going through what they are going through. I just start crying and think about how I would react if someone I loved died, or if my boyfriend broke up with or cheated on me, or If I stopped talking to a really good friend...I dont feel like this is a weakness but im just so overcome with emotion with other peoples problems..My mom says I have a really clean heart thats why and I see what she means. I feel extremely empathetic.Anyone else feel this way??
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@mindym (979)
• United States
3 Sep 11
It is definitely not a weakness to be empathetic. I am a caretaker at heart, so I consider it a strength and an important personality trait to have. I am the same way. I can get really emotional if I see someone else's tears. It makes me sad to see someone else hurting. Some people do not have a support system when something bad happens to them, so if they can come to you, at least they know that they can rely on you being their support. Sometimes it can be overwhelming and draining, but overall, at least to me, I feel rewarded knowing that I was able to be there for someone.
• United States
3 Sep 11
I'm the same way.People tell me I have a big heart.I feel the pain of my family and friends.I even cry for people I don't even know that well.I put my self in their spot and feel the loss and sadness they are going through.
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@libramie (563)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
Yeah, I also feel the same way. I admit and agree with your mom that you have a clean heart so am I, no hard feelings hide at all. Even I watching movies, I feel the situation somewhat I can relate it even I'm not gone with it.
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@xtin1207 (13)
• Philippines
4 Sep 11
I do. I often tend to put myself in one's situation that is why I get emotional whenever I encounter people who are weeping. Pity is oftentimes the reason why I react this way.
3 Sep 11
Yes, i feel like that only when it`s someone close. Hearing their problems and knowing i can't help or fix it is what hurts the most... But i have to admit that sometimes when i watch t.v. certain things pull at my heart-strings.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
3 Sep 11
No I don't feel that way. I think there is nothing wrong if you care for others and have empathy for them but the way you describe it. I think this is too much and it won't do you any good in the end. I also wonder if this is only empathy or if you have also too much imagination. Do you have time left over to live a good life? The world is full of sadnes, pain, problems, you can't carry them all on your shoulders. But I also don't think this is a sign of weakness. I really hope you will never think that. To be honest I also don't believe people who tell me they feel my pain and sorrows because this is impossible.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
I also had the same emotion as I saw some kind of crying scene.. I was get affected by them and my feelings is the same as they are i really feel them. I know they are in pain and it was hard to be in that part of life. Now i am suffering from my sad emotion and really dont know when it was goin to end.. Most of the time i feel this things when i saw some people in deep pain..
@rafiholmes (2897)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 11
ya i know what u mean.. it is all due to compassions and understanding of other peoples feeling..or sensitive to other need etc.. i got a friend few days ago coming to borrow money..he was telling me this story about his kid and wife need some money to g back to home town etc.. stuffs like that..i feel so sad.. not so much of his story..more to due i cant lend him money ..because i aint got enough for myself too..
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
It means that you are longing for that extreme emotions. Maybe in your life there's no reason to cry hard so you react to somebody's pain in order to release that feeling inside you.
@hafiz008 (450)
• India
3 Sep 11
Yes of course, most of them have such feeling. Most of them means only those who are kind hearted.The term empathy helps to know the other feeling. If our friends got bad moment or feeling we should think what will happens if such incidents occur to me. I am a commerce student the empathy should be needed to businessman and manager to know the feeling of his employees, and take action accordingly. Unfortunately there are also a lot of person who misuse other feeling.
@koperty3 (1877)
3 Sep 11
It seams you are very empathic. I was too before when I was working in nursing home and I felt the pain of my patient and their loneliness. I had to distance myself in other way I would never done the job properly. Now I work at home and deal with computers but sometimes when I watch films I cry when the character suffers.
@nezavisima (7418)
• Bulgaria
3 Sep 11
so really. quite often we suffer when our loved ones also suffer. when some friend of mine cry I also cry because I can not stay indifferent. life is such that sometimes you can not stay indifferent. This is one great truth that you have written. very nice discussion. nice day!