What do you do when your partner is sick?

United States
September 7, 2011 9:36pm CST
Today was the first day I've seen my boyfriend actually sick. We've been together over a year and this was the first time I've seen him really sick. He was running a fever and had a sore throat and told me he felt awful. He literally slept all day and eventually I brought him some chicken noodle soup since I figured he hadn't eaten all day. It was so strange to see him like that since he's usually so strong. It made me a little sad so after he ate I just laid with him and scratched his hair (his absolute favorite thing). He kept falling asleep so I just stayed with him. I felt bad because I didn't want to bother him and I kept asking him if he wanted me to leave. He's such a sweetheart and said no and that he wanted me there with him. Lol so I literally laid with him for hours just playing with his hair and rubbing his back. I took care of him and got him everything he needed until I left. For some reason, taking care of him today made me love him even more..which I never thought possible but my boyfriend proves me wrong each day when I realize I love him more and more. After I had left, he texted me saying thanks for everything and that he loves me. I swear it's the simplest little things like that that make me fall harder for him every time. I didn't mind taking care of him at all, I actually enjoyed knowing that I could be there for him and make him comfortable. What do you guys do when your partner gets sick?
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
11 Sep 11
I think it's the vulnerability that you saw in your boyfriend while he is sick that made you love him more. I think that down the road, he will always be taking care of you. And this time it was your chance to show him that there would be situations that it would be you that would take care of him.
• United States
12 Sep 11
I think you're right. Seeing him so unable to do things really pulled on my heartstrings and when I left, I felt as though my love grew for him even more. It was nice to be able to take care of him since usually it's the other way around..even if I'm not sick.
• United States
10 Sep 11
Aww, that is sweet of you to take care of him. I always worry when my boyfriend gets sick. The first time was nerve-wrecking for me because I wanted to do everything right. I fix him soup, give him medicine, try to make him feel better but I still feel helpless. :( When he get's sick, he REALLY gets sick so you can understand why I panic. Keep up the good work, I wish your relationship the very best. (:
• United States
11 Sep 11
Thank you :) I wish the same to you and your relationship!! I'm the same way. I'm extra sensitive about my boyfriend and I worry a lot about him. So seeing him so sick the other day really got me sad because I just never see him like that. lol This made me want to take care of him because I wanted to see him get better so I brought him soup, made him take medicine, and I just relaxed with him and played with his hair while he slept. He didn't want me to leave so I stayed as long as I could.
@Judy890 (1633)
• United States
9 Sep 11
Aw how sweet, well when I was in a relationship and he was sick he'd b o sick to talk to me so I'd lay on his bed with him and caress and kiss him. I think guys are even cuter when sick lol
• United States
9 Sep 11
They do get pretty cute, even though I feel so bad. To me, it also seems they get a bit dramatic when they're sick and act like it's the end of the world. It's kind of funny since they seem to have that tough guy persona in front of everyone else yet when they're sick they act like big babies. I don't mind taking care of my boyfriend when he's sick though, he really appreciates my help and he just looks so cute and helpless lol
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
8 Sep 11
Hi, courtknee525. I have enjoyed reading your discussion. You are an amazing woman! You sound just like me. I have been placed in many situations where I had to tend to my husband. I will have to admit that it has been very scary at first, but after I got used to taking care of him, I felt more at ease. I think that hardest thing for me to deal with was the fact that I was more worried about him being in his unstable condition. I wanted to help him so badly, but I just couldn't. I was just recently in a situation a couple of weeks ago with my husband. He was having extreme shoulder pain to where he could hardly move. I made sure that I fixed him something to eat and to drink. I continued to check on him from time to time. I always asked him if there was anything that he needed me to do for him. I felt so hurt because I wanted to take away his pain, but I couldn't. All that I did, during this whole entire time, was prayed. I prayed to God to heal my husband and to take away all of his pain. I was so desperate for him to feel so much more better! I also helped him to reach for his medicine since he was in pain. I did so much of that, plus more. I also had to take care of our three children together, so it was so much on me. I have been through this situation of aid, many of times in our marriage. The circumstance may be different this time, but I assisted my husband greatly each and every time that he was sick or unable to do for himself. I hope that your boyfriend is feeling so much better now. With your love and attention, I am sure that he will get well quickly! Hang on in there!
• United States
8 Sep 11
Awww, thank you so much :) Luckily he's much better today, so I'm really happy. It must've been difficult to take care of both your husband and your kids. You're very strong to have managed to do both at once and I think it's great. It's always sad seeing the one you love in pain or sick, especially when there's nothing we can do to take the pain away. The best we can do is just make them as comfortable as possible and hope that they get better soon :)
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• Philippines
8 Sep 11
I would do the same thing you did, take care of my partner. I would cook something like a soup or her favorite dish and stay with her the whole day until she feels better (that's if I not busy with work during that day). Hope your boyfriend gets well soon.
• United States
8 Sep 11
Thank you, he's already much better than he was yesterday :) I think that maybe having the one you love take care of you when you're sick can help you recover a bit faster. I know that for me, just knowing he was there for me would make me feel so great about myself and then I might be able to get better quickly. It's weird how it works but I truly believe in it
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Get well soon to your boyfriend. I also get worried every time my husband get sick. I don't go to work when he is sick. I just let him rest, cook food for him, and give him medicine if necessary. If he feels really weak then I bring him to the doctor. I also pray for his fast recovery.
• United States
8 Sep 11
Thank you :) He's actually much better today, thank goodness. I don't like seeing him sick..just a few weeks ago I took him to the ER to get something done to his toe and after that I took care of him too. So I've had my fair share of seeing him sick and weak and he can wait awhile before he decides to get sick again lol. I think that guys really love it when we care for them when they're sick, my boyfriend was so grateful yesterday it was really touching for me.
@vera0571 (167)
• China
8 Sep 11
You are so thoughful and you are muct a sweet couple.I almost envy you. I think you take care of him,stay with him,it's enough.he will understand and learn you. wish you boyfriend get well soon
• United States
8 Sep 11
Thank you :) We've been together for over a year now so taking care of him just feels like second nature and I also know he'd do the same for me if I got sick. Luckily, today he already feels much better :)
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Hi, there! I'm sorry to know that your boyfriend got sick.. I know he'll feel better and well because he have you to take care of him. My boyfriend got sick also days after he arrived here where we live now. He suffered from a high fever and his tonsils inflamed. I was so worried for him at that time because I really don't know how to care of a sick person. But what I did was I just did what he wanted.. Got all that he needed for himself that he can't do yet. I also gave him a massage because he was complaining of a back pain. I used to wake up at dawn just to massage his back. It was really tiring but I didn't had the time to think of it because I enjoyed it and I did it because I love him. It took him 3 days to recover.
• United States
8 Sep 11
Awww thank you :) He's already a lot better today. That's really nice of you to take care of your boyfriend like that. It sounds a lot like what I would do. My boyfriend is always asking for massages and yesterday I also massaged his neck a bit because he said it felt so good. Taking care of him wasn't too tiring because it was only for a day but I could imagine that after a few days it would get to be somewhat tiring. But, that's what we do for the ones we love :)
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
8 Sep 11
Aww that's really sweet...hopefully your boyfriend would get well soon. If my husband is sick, I do my best to give him what he needs and pamper him...make sure that he gets his meds on time and make sure that my little boy doesn't bother him..lol...his really playful and he just loves to play with his dad.
• United States
8 Sep 11
Thank you :) He seems to be getting a little better, I just have to keep after him about taking his meds. Guys seem to love getting pampered when they're sick. Lol they turn into big mushballs and act like the world is ending when they're sick. Still, I take care of him and make sure he has everything he wants because I just want him to be as comfortable as possible while he's sick. Oh the things we do for the ones we love lol..