How do you get over your most painful relationship?

Oh my God! I'm still not over him and I hate the feeling. Just when I thought I'm already over him, he will reappear and stir my thoughts again - an implication that still, I am not over him. Well, its been two or three years? But, I just can't get rid of him. We even have the same birth date. Goodness.

Wow, it must've taken a lot to overcome that. I'm in my first and last relationship and I couldn't imagine having to get over him. I love him so much that it would be nearly impossible for me to move on. I think you're very strong to be able to overcome what you did and I think it's great :)

I spent time getting to know myself again. I spent so much time in a bad relationship that I lost track of who I was. I went out with my friends, I grew closer with my family, I spent time doing things I loved and learned how to be myself single and then I started dating again and learned how to be myself in a relationship without losing sight of who I was again.

I would probably find a job in a place that would never remind me of him because in our province, small as it is, especially in the city where I live in, everything will only remind me of him. I have not experienced breakups. I get curious sometimes but wish it would never happen to me.

How do you get over your most painful relationships? I think it just takes time. I recently had to break off a friendship with a friend I have had sincce our kids we're 2 years old because of her lying and her messed up health. It hurts me because I really cared fo her and her son but it was for the best I did not need to deal with her stressful life on top of what was and is going on in my life right now.

You are strong and I admire you for that. Fortunately, i never come up with this kind of situation and I don't want that to happen. And if ever it also happens to me, I'l just do what you did to forget him completely..

Personally there will be times in your life amd situations in your life where you will be with someone to often be mistretes, etc. to were in time you find yourself busily looking for s NEW place to live. When this happens you just need to keep on believing and thinking positive and know in time everything that happens is for a reason as their's always someone upstairs waiting to help us.

oh geesh, i am in a painful relationhip. i have not gotten out of the relationship yet, honestly. my bf has cheated on me, admitted to making the mistake and has choesen that he'd be with me, make me happy and make it up to me and never to let anything destroy the relationship we have. sure it was painful, can still be painful at times when i remember the situation i was put on, and the feeling i felt for the time ever.. wow.. but i am trying to get over it... slowly but surely...

I never did get over it. It just hurts less... and it took meeting someone new showing me that relationships aren't supposed to be an easy breezy ride; and that if you take the time to try to work through problems, it can greatly improve the situation.

As they say physical pain will diminish with passage of time,but emotional pain dont.So we need to find the solution ourselves. Each one is different. Friends may help by giving suggestions to overcome the problem. But what suits us best only we know. We are our best master and servant.

Hi, nice discussion my friend. Well its kinda hard getting past your relationships, when we are dumped or due to any personal reason or any other reasons when our partner leaves us the pain makes us so numb, It is during this time that we tend to do dangerous things like sucide, or may be just cut off from the daily activities, we don't want anyone around us that's the basic thing we desire. Well when my relationship got ended with my GF which was for the very first time, i was gone in different world, for weeks i could eat, sleep and concentrate on things properly it was very hard to cope up with life. Even when there were beautiful things around and everything seemed good, my life was like a snail slow and steady. I read this book called Getting past your breakup. This is an awesome book which helped me how to copw up with a breakup relationship. slowly praying and taking care of myself i got from the relaitonship. The main key was staying busy in my activites and getting boomed up with friends. So that's how i got throught my relationship.

I think I loved my ex-boyfriend dearly. SO much that I couldn't get over him for years. I was so devastated when we broke up and thought i couldn't go on but with the help of my friends I did! Anyway it took me couple of years to forget him. I don't have any feelings for him now but where ever he is I wish him good. I have not been in another relationship after that. It's been about 4 years now.

I think a person's first love is always the most painful. When you fall in love with another person for the first time, you expectations are so high! You imagine a perfect life with one another. You imagine growing old together and if things fall apart, you can be left with almost unbarable emotional pain. You get so comfortable and accustomed to relying on that particular person that when they are gone you are left with a lost and hollow feeling. I think that time is the only thing that can heal these kinds of wounds.