My Friends Use To Hate My Boyfriends

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@Judy890 (1634)
United States
September 9, 2011 10:46pm CST
It seems like most of the guys Ive dated were either "ugly" "to big" or "to skinny" according to my judgmental friends. There was always something wrong with the guys i dated but when they are with guys I dont judge or make any comments about them. After all it's all about want I think. Do you have friends who judge or talk bad about someone you've dated?
12 responses
@nanayangel (7691)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Hi there Judy 890! Maybe your friends are just joking. Some friends are like that. I had an experience but it was a serious one, though. And, it was not just about the physical features of the guy but about his attitude and things that he does in life. I understood why they felt that way towards him but I don't know, for some reason, I still stuck with the guy. We broke up a few years later but I was thankful that my friends have been very understanding and never left my side.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
10 Sep 11
That is a good point. Friends that stick by you no matter what are valuable friends
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
I have only dated my current and only girlfriend, and have never heard anything bad about her from my friends, so I guess they like her. I know how you must have felt hearing this from people you treat as friends. I sometimes would like honest opinions from friends, but I could get overprotective if they would misjudge anyone dear to me.
• China
11 Sep 11
Follow your inner voice and intuition.The most important thing i think is your opinion.
@anonima73 (153)
• Puerto Rico
11 Sep 11
Well...I've only really dated ONE guy and it was for only one week. I dumped him on the day of his 18th birthday because he was too ahem stupid for me. I am too but he was too emotional while I am too cold, not a good match in any way. My family was judgmental of him because he was black, fat,tall and older than me. I was 15 , he was 18. My mom even cried when he asked her to let me date him, imagine how much he was not accepted. I didn't really care to be honest. I only asked him to date me because I was desperate at the time. Right now I have a new crush...just a little push to be my new boyfriend and this boy I really love. He's my first real crush and soon he might just be my first real boyfriend. My bff says he's ugly, short, skinny, boring but to me he's the most handsome, fun and charming boy alive.
• United States
10 Sep 11
I actually have had friends like this Judy890. It used to really bother me but the only reason I could think of as to why they were saying that about who I chose to date were that they were jealous. One of my best friends later confessed to me that she thought my boyfriend was going to take her bestfriend (me) away and that's why she didn't like him. Sometimes your friends may be joking and sometimes they may really like you can do better.
@chiwasaki (4679)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
I have some friends who express their comments about my boyfriend. But the comments are mostly positive. If there's a negative one, they tell it to me with respect and it is not offensive. They don't judge my boyfriend with his looks but on how my boy friend treated me. We've been together for so long and they know that I'm happy with him that is why they are happy for me as well.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
10 Sep 11
My ex boyfriend was actually a really good friend of mine and later on went and became my boyfriend. Anyway my friends liked him too but said he wasn't very good looking and stuffs but I never cared coz for me he was the most good looking person in the world
@judelen (429)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
Hello! May be your friend is not hated your boyfriend. But anyway if they are doing that to your boyfriend may be its only a comment or may be they know not good to your boyfriend that why they are like that. But as long as you love your boyfriend, no one can stop that feelings from you. Anyway physical appearance is not the hindrance of love and not a barometer for a real love. You yourself knows your boyfriend is, so you should be flexible and strong to your relationship.
@waflay (2729)
• Nairobi, Kenya
10 Sep 11
It's so discouraging to have such friends and I think that it's better to be without them.It was bad of them to make such comments and yet it's your boyfriend and you have chosen to be with him.
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
my Friends always had a bad comment on someone i dated. but i am not annoyed or whatsoever, i just think that they're just protecting me. ;)
• Philippines
10 Sep 11
My friends don't really have anything to say about my girlfriends. You can date me instead. I'm not too big, not too thin, but I'm big down there.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
10 Sep 11
I think it depends on why they don't like your boyfriends. If they are trying to protect you then they are being real friends, if they are jealous, you need new friends. As I think you already realized that There are so many great people you don't have to put up with those who do not have your best interests at heart. Take care..