Which is better , Married life or unmarried life.?

@mohkanari (1957)
India
September 10, 2011 10:39am CST
I am a chronic bachelor.My mother is compelling me to get married.I am in confusion.Does married life bring happiness in life or some bits of happiness with a lot of problems? Am I a fool wasting life unmarried and waiting for a miserable lonely aged time? Please advise. [Mohkanari]
8 responses
• India
3 Apr 13
for me, i am married but i really wish the time i was single and happy, marriage has taken all my happiness as that happened to a wrong one.. well, marriage is good if you feel that you have true and perfect partner and you have become that much mature and responsible for couple life... otherwise, till we are weak in those points then better to be single.. married life should happen just with understanding honesty and respect, loyalty and all responsibility, it depends when a person is ready for accepting that..
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
5 Apr 13
Getting a life partner having great consideration and love with matching views,interests,attitudes etc is the greatest fortune of life indeed. But in most of the cases reality is opposite to it. Even, most of love marriages turn unsatisfied married life. I made this discussion about 2 years back when I just joined MyLot. Still I am single man, but it feel to me that generally nature promote married life. Living as a single become tougher and tougher as years pass by.
• India
12 Apr 13
marriage is good but just in the time we feel we have become old and need somebody to take care and talk.. if i was knowing what marriage is i would never do it... wish those who are happy single.. or those who are happy married..
@ajay3949 (66)
• India
12 Apr 13
Interestingly marriages are like walking on a tight rope. and comes alongwith pack of responsibilities. It's indeed a challenge for lifetime where one has to prove the self to atleast the partner on a day to day basis. Trust my word life has no fun without challenges.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
14 Apr 13
Certainly married life of persons is a well planned social set up promoted by all religions and civilizations. But persons having different ambitions and view about life can select single life if married life doesn't suit to it.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
10 Sep 11
A miserable lonely aged time? That is very insulting to those who love their single life! I been lonely in my life but these times were as I still was married and this was a very miserable time (20 years ago) and it's still a very big relief I get out of that marriage. There is nothing wrong with being a bachelor and I think it's hypocryt to get married to someone just because you don't want to be alone or you are afraid of a miserable lonele aged time! I talked to many elder people and esp. women say they would never marry again if they could do it over again. It doen't matter they like to feel lonesome but it doesn show marriage is not one big paradise. It is hard working, lot of compromise, less time for yourself and you will feel not only your sorrows but also someone elses which means you can feel miserable, loney too many, many times. Just marry if you feel the person you want to marry is the one that makes you feel complete. Not because you are afraid, your mom is telling you so. According to me then you are a fool.
@arya007 (306)
• Tirupathi, India
10 Sep 11
According to me unmarried life is too good because we can enjoy the life to a great extent.that's it.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
3 Apr 13
There is freedom in unmarried life,but old age, illness, loneliness these are big problems faced by so many unmarried persons towards more aged time. After 2 years of making this discussion I am a bit in favour of married life in normal case.
@MrGhost (550)
1 Apr 13
To me, married life is better than unmarried life provided the relation is firm enough, otherwise, life may be miserable if there is strained relation between the two.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
5 Apr 13
This a discussion I made about 2 years back when I just joined at MyLot. Thanks for making this response, since at that time I was shy to comment on responses. Though, still I am single man my view have changed a lot. Married life is a bit better to select. Nature too promote such life.
@gljcleeve (147)
3 Apr 13
Like everything else in life, this is a tricky question that can only be answered by you. Marriage is different for almost everybody and it's success or failiure totally depends on the types of people you and your spouse are and how much effort you're willing to make in order for it to be a success. Even in the best marriages, there are times when you could quite happy kill your partner and in the worste marriages there are times when you'd be lost if it ended. All you can do is find the best partner you can and keep your fingers crossed that you're both willing and able to make things work. On a personal note, I'd be lost without my wife, even though there are lots of things I'd change if I thought I could. But there are far more good points than bad so I'm happy to be lucky enough to have her with me.
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
5 Apr 13
I made this discussion about 2 years back. By this time my view in this matter too changed a bit in favour of married life. As you said getting a good life partner is a fortune. Willingness to control or adjust "ego" by anyone of the partners can bring more peaceful and pleasant moments married life.
@amreen_b (70)
10 Sep 11
I would say that it depends on the person that you marry. If the person you marry is good and you love them then naturally married life is going to be blissfull. If on the other hand they are the sort of person you can't stand then an umarried life is going to seem much better. I think you should try and find someone who you know you can spend the rest of your life with otherwise you are going to be miserable especially if you marry out of compulsion.
@Judy890 (1644)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Hello mohkanari, Your mom is not suppose to pressure you to get married. You have to be in love with someone to get married. Do you even have a partner? Marriage does not equal happiness. I know many people in marriages that aren't always happy. They argue, even fight physically with each other and disagree. Marriages are not perfect and aren't always happy? don't get married right away and think you're going to be happy. You can start by looking around an meeting new people you cant just wait hoping so one will magically appear you have to go out there and look around.