when your parents did not like your lover

There must be some reason for that. Ask our parent about it. If reasonable, why not. This happen to me once, not my parent who disagree with my relationship but my girlfriend parents and their reason undeniable.

i choose to ask my parent, why? so i can thinking that why my parent doesn't like my girlfriend, and i can make my own chioce. well, sometime, we must thinking like a parent: what we choose for our son/daughter. that can make me thinking why our parent do like that. but actually, the decision is in our hand. just choose wisely.

There was a time where my parents and my brother did not like the man I was dating and eventually got engaged too. I fought with them on a regular basis and after 4 and a half years I broke up with the guy for various different reasons. But now that I look back on things I realize how right they were about him not being good for me. He was a bad influence and was hiding various things from me.

I think when they disagree with your partner they must have the reason why they dont like your partner, They say the parents know best, i once experienced that, when i dated once they dont like, not totally they dont like but a hesitant for him, but i ask them why, and they reason are the guy has a heart problem he undergo a heart surgery before and they concern is if the guy once again had an attack and during in our time it makes me cry and unhappy, and another reason is he's younger than me, and a younger man is a easy go lucky, as they say. but for me, if you really like the person and you prove to them that its worth it, then no matter what they say, what really important is that you happy with what you chose. Even if in the end they right in someways, atleast you been able to experienced that moment of happiness.

I have never been influenced by my parents’ opinion of the people I dated and I believe that is how it should be. In my case it didn’t take me long to become aware that my parents were not going to like anyone I went out with! It is your feelings for the person you may want to spend your life with that count not your parents'...

It's not easy making a decision between the two because a lover or partner is for life, while parents are the ones who brought us up. It would be good if i'm able to find that who can get along well with my parents, but at the same time, it's not necessarily, since i ought to live with my partner's parents. It's more important that i can get along well with his, than he getting along well with mine.

Parents, do not like my lover, would have a reason. I will ask the reason for that? And I'll see if the reason my parents were right or not. If my parents were right, I certainly I will leave my lover.

Hello adhyz82.. My parents don’t like my boyfriend cause the different ethnic.. That’s why I’m in long distance relationship with my boyfriend.. I’m the one who will live with the man I’m marrying with, not my parents.. I’m the one who will got all the consequences with the person I choose, not my parents.. And I’m the one who live my own life and future, not my parents..

first, I'll ask my parents, the reason does not like my girlfriend. If there is an attitude that is not liked by my parents, I would say to my girlfriend, and asked him to change it. If my girlfriend, do not want change, I would ask why.

sometimes we will always hear our parents saying..you should have listen to me..or im telling you he will be just like this or that,,,or you would end up being like this and that..haha they are parents and you cannot take those worries they have for you..its just that sometimes we tend not to listen and see it for ourself..haha and thats good atleast you see it for yourself and maybe when you have your own children you will know what tactics to do..haha My conlclusion is family will always be with whatver happens..and parents will always be paretns..

hi, parents are always have good intentions for us,but there are some times come to our life that we need to convince them that we have the right decision,especially in the field of love,though they have the right to choose and decide we must follow our heart too when can we seek happiness and contentment.

I don't care about what my parents, kids, family or friends think about my partner/boy friend. I expect from them they will respect my choice and respect the one I love. It's my life not theirs. It's important I feel happy with him. Not to make my parents be happy with someone of their choice. If they can't respect my choice it will be the end of my relationship with them. Not with my boyfriend. I would never convince my parents or anyone else, or try to convince them, this is the right person for me. Why should I convince them or should I or he prove that to them? If they can't see it themselves or are not willing to see or believe it, it's just a waste of energy.

I think that parents don't have any influence on which person should I pick. If I like one person I will stay with her, noone will change my mind. Maybe they are just scared that if whe lefts you you will get hurt and thats way they are looking at her like that. Or maybe they just don't like her. But you cannot pick a girlfriend that will be your wife because of you parents.. Come on man.. Maybe they need just to get to know her. Maybe they will realize that she is not bad person.

may their parent do right they keep in mind their children life.

Parents, do not like my lover, would have a reason. I will ask the reason for that? And I'll see if the reason my parents were right or not. If my parents were right, I certainly I will leave my lover.

Hi adhyz: The first thing that comes to my mind is that we should listen our parents. Their experience is valuable. But at the same time parents should understand that their sons and daughters have their own criteria and they should take their own decision. I think I'd listen to them but if I don't feel convinced about why should I break up with my girlfriend I'll say no and keep my relationship. I'll value their opinion but I have to make my own choices. ALVARO

Actually, your parents wish you have a good future someday before they fade to live on earth... no such parents want their children to be miserable someday... when you are going to be a parent soon, then you'll realize the reasons why your parents are sometimes over-caring to you because your parents love you so much... and the only thing for you to do to make your parents happy is to finish your study or schooling first so you may have a bright future.... or have a good permanent job first because all things now are very expensive... or have a business stable business first... either one or two of that you achieved... then be come back to your original lover because you promise to each other that you'll be waiting both of you and your lover until such time is a perfect time... then i am sure that your parents will voted YES!!! for your previous lover (that your parents not liked before)

The question is why do the parents dislike the boy or girlfriend? Perhaps they don't like the lover because of his personality, age difference, race, background, life style or perhaps the financial status. If the son or daughter is still young, the parents will surely feel they deserve an active voice in your choices. The parents only care about what's best on their child's life. I suggest that you will not rebel against them. You should listen to them as they need to listen to you. Talk to them. After that, you might try sort of small informal gatherings with your lover and the rest of the family. You should try to persuade that everyone should be polite and make an effort to interact positively. When you are in the gathering, try to focus the conversation/talk on neutral topics that will not create tension. The parents will slowly by slowly be more accepting when they find that the lover makes their child happy. This might mitigate their dislikes on the lover.