Get Back Up, Dust Myself off, Start all over again?

@Hatley (164654)
Garden Grove, California
September 12, 2011 10:31am CST
No a rant exactly as I don't need to break any more rules, but since I was the cause for all my good friends to lose earnings through my stupid error and lost discussion, I went whole circle as I have been her almost five years, now doubt myself, thought of just quitting then remembered what my mom used to say quitters never win, winners never quit so here I am back up on my feet, and starting over. Most of this is just an apology to all who lost earnings.your take, maybe I should quit but I need my earnings.
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58 responses
• United States
12 Sep 11
YES!!! Now this is the Hatley we all have come to know so well and love. What did you mean you were planning on quitting. HA! We will not allow you to do this, we love you Mrs. Hatley, we would never want to see you sad let alone leave. Don't forget when you told me about your past struggles and this should continually remind you that nothing will stop Hatley again. I am sure it was just the moment of what was happening and now back to business, and or I mean back to having fun with your friends. Don't worry about my having lost anything my dear hatley, I am not here for the earnings. I see them as a bonus for having fun amongst friends and or helping members. I am thankful to have a great deal of free time so I choose to spend it here with you and the many wonderful myLot members! Carry on! lol
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi HWg oh I soon got over it but was embarrassed at how in the wrong I was as I commented back to this angry responder who told me how awful I was in a very insulting way I lost my cool , flamed her like she flamed me, and of course the discussion was deleted for a flaming war.Now I know this certain person dislikes me so will not comment to her responses at all.
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@surekharathi (14134)
• India
12 Sep 11
I feel sad really how much responses are on your discussion and I asked to HWG friend please explain me your discussion..but I am here only due to some mylotter and always wait when they came and join my discussion so please please never leave it if you love me.... You are right and this words is helpful for me quitters never win and winners never quit wow! I want to see you or HWG friend at least once in day..Madam read today funny discussion on toilet no water is coming in the tap when you are in toilet lots of mylotter are enjoying there... and I started daily one funny discussion so you will read and laugh and remember me...
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi surekharahti oh I blew it because I lost my temper when I should not have commented back to this person's insults. but I am okay now and am dusted off and am starting over again. I will find your funny discussions and read it as I need a good laugh. Oh I remember my mom saying dont lose your temper cause I sure don't want to get it;.lol
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@2wicelot (2948)
12 Sep 11
This is the second time in a few weeks that I thought of just quitting mylot. The first was when a discussion I started that was quite popular and had 30 plus responses with lots of conversions was deleted. The second was this weekend when many of my responses were deleted because the discussions they were under were deleted. But I guess I am still here because of the friends I have here on mylot. I am now very wary of starting discussions and even responding to discussions because it seems it is not clear cut which have broken the rules. I guess I would try to carry on as long as I can manage it. So I know how you feel and it is admirable that you have found the strength to carry on.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi 2wicelot yes this week has been sad with five resonses deleted' because of being on a discussion that was deleted. I think I need to reread the guidelines and rules myself as I too came a cropper. I felt so low yesterday I wanted to quit and forget I ever saw my lot but then I remember all the time I have put in and all my friends and decided I can do better again.
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@2wicelot (2948)
12 Sep 11
I have read the dos and don'ts over and over again but still can not understand why some of the discussions were deleted. I thought I was being careful but I guess mylot admin knows better.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi 2wicelot you know I got an anser from Alex once and he said that on some poll type discussions that even he and o ther admins are hard put at times to decide if the discussion can be deemed'a poll or not.so guess we are in the same boat too.
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• United States
12 Sep 11
You have no reason to quit. I been here 6 years and I still make mistakes. Life is just that life. I got two removed today and lost my earinings. I am back to my posting and responding as normal. good day friend..
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi gifts I think it was because I lost my t emper when this responder really attackedme so I forgot and attacked back' hence broke the rule on flaming so it was my fault. I dont know why I could not have kept my cool especially in a situation like that. so I will try to reread all theinfo and keep my' temper. lol lol I guess I am a human bean thats why I make a mkistake occasionally.
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• United States
12 Sep 11
I am so glad i did not read that post. I might have got into trouble as well. Your one of my best friends here. I would never want to read anyone tearing into you for any reason. Your human you lost control and I am not glad you flamed them. but,very happy you stood up for yourself.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 11
hi gifts yes my son says so many times when I do not fight back mom don't be a wuss. meaning stick up for yourself and this pereson I had thou ght was my friend but boy she sure opened my eyes when sh told me just what she thought of me and my discussions. she hated to read them and thought I was mean and on and on.My o pinion is why on earth did she bother to respond then?.
@louievill (18648)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
no need to apologize Miss Hatley, not so sure though if I was a victim of that discussion you were referring to. Yes "quitters never win and winners never quit" I like that too, it was the motto of one of the most popular sweepstakes ticket outlets here before the computerized lotto took over. Don't quit , it's not only you who need to earn but most of us, go go go
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi louievill I guess we all make mistakes because we are human beans as the little kid daid. so I goofed so I can start over. I also need my earnings as they help me pay for my cable internet bill, one person here sniped at me once that Gold Crest gave me free internet which was so not true. Time Warner costs me forty dollars a month so if I can make at least half of that here I can m ylot and afford to be here.
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@louievill (18648)
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
yeah and what business does that person have to snipe you and say you get things free out there, why does she live there? let her foot the bill so she will find out on second thought, perhaps she's just a human bean so she said that.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
right louievill and she just made a mistake.She is not my friend' that much I have learned the last few days. anyway I am back up and will try to do much better.no she is a mylotter a l ong ways from where I live and seems to dislike me. well now I have news for 'her that goes both ways..lol.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 11
Respond at your own risk! That is what we expect from other mylotters. And being here for many years does not give us any special privilege. No special immunity accorded to seniors as ignorant of mylot laws excuses no one. Earning and learning are the reasons why we remain united in mylot and quitting should never cross our minds when discussions get deleted. It is but part of mylot challenges.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi zandi yes of course but still does these excuse being rude and insulting to some one.and I did not think I ever assumed any special privileges because i have been here for years, so I dont quite understand you. look I am not complaining because I had my discussion deleted as I was in the wrong,yes I admit I lost my cool and flamed back when I should have just reported her again and not said a word. I was not ignorant of any thing' and why are you judging me, did you see my discussion? did you read it before you condemn me for asking any special favors., I have never done that and you know it. I have prided myself on reading the information and keeping the rules but I am a human being and human beings sometimes do err. I claim no privileges at all. I do not want any. but why are you judging me at all as you do not really know me.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
12 Sep 11
Hi Hatley, don't quit us. You are a good friend. We specially me don't want to loose you. Don't be disappointed.Your mom is right. You will be winner.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi bhanusb thanks I am not going to quit after all. I have as mu much right to participate in mylot as anyone else. I just need to refresh my mind on the rules.I am wondering now if this person has made others quit mylot due to her nasty tongue.
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@fantabulus (4005)
• India
12 Sep 11
Woooo aunty what a thought quitters never win and winners never quit I like this words..and thanks for sharing..yes I got a notification but I know this was not your mistake..and you are more elder than us so not apology...only blessings are required... have a nice day...
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi fantabulus Yes I am getting up, dusting off , and not quitting as I do need my earnings and I need the relaxation that mylotting often gives me when I am really stressed. Oh I feel it was at least half my fault' and now I have learned and will profit from it.
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@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 11
Hello Mrs.Hatley, your spirit is great. many of us here make a mistake but that is not a reason to quit. with this mistake we can learn and take a lesson so we can do better in the future. those who are success can stand up after fail..
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi ifa yesterday I vowed to quit but to day that seems silly'so I got up, dusted myself off, and am trying now to stay wit hin all'rules, have fun and keep on earning enough to pay my internet bill and to have fun again with all my internet friends here.
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@akp100 (13328)
• India
12 Sep 11
Even I made such silly mistake yesterday and lose my first discussion here.. And I feel sorry for all who participates in it. Yes winners never quit. We can always give another opportunity to them for more earning. Best of luck to me and to you and to all.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi akp100 you are making me feel better already.I am not alone then and that helps. so I can smile some more and laugh at myself, and just start over. good luck to boeht of us and all our mylot friends.
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
12 Sep 11
I'd miss you if you quit but that is totally up to you dear. We all know the risks of responding to certain things and we do it anyway so that's on us too, not just you. I have responded to things written and thought, well this ones likely to be deleted but I'm answering my friends post anyway. So that was on me. Yes, if we take a chance and write things it's on us too. But many times I think it's a slip up and people just don't think what they are writing is a rant or they forget to add a question when writing, that's all part of it. Then again some just need an answer to something bothering them, and we are there for them just as they would be for us. So I wouldn't worry about it if I were you, okay?
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 Sep 11
I too have answered some topics while unsure if they crossed the line of a "poll" I could have just skipped them, but they were so interesting and from people I have gotten to know. I agree when we answer a post we take responsibility because we are all familiar or should be familiar with the rules. If we are not sure we also have a choice and take a chance ..
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi moondancer and stary O h I did know better but I lost my tempe and forgot about the rules completely,it w as all my fau lt as I responed to an insulting flaming response when I should have just reported it and let mylot handle it. I did deserve what I got but still it hurt and mostly because all this person said about me was not at all true.It really was most hurtful.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Well you have done the gracious thing and apologized and it looks as if all involved are ok with it and I have a feeling you won't do this again...You have been here too long to quit now..we need to be inspired by your numbers...
@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Hi, Hatley! I'm so sorry it hasn't been the best myLot day for you, but having had the same thing happen to me once, I can definitely feel your pain, so to speak. No, absolutely do not give up. It's just a fact of life, and these things happen! Your mom was right! I consider lessons like these in my life to be some of the most valuable. I've made mistakes at work that cost a lot of money, and I mean, a lot! While I felt awful for them, there's nothing I could do after the fact; the deed was done. However, I learned valuable lessons from it, and was also very thankful the costly mistake was made at work rather than at home. In other words, the company could afford my mistake much more than I could lol. Yes, you're exactly right - the subject line in this discussion says it all. Please do "get back up, dust yourself off..." and keep going, my friend! While you have one discussion that didn't go as planned, you have so many excellent discussions that are true thought-provokers and priceless experiences for the rest of us. This scenario happens to the best of us, so I certainly hope through this discussion you'll be encouraged to continue on earning through myLot. It's time to stop feeling bad for those who lost money on myLot for responding to the discussion because it was an honest mistake, and those who cannot get over it and hold grudges as a result aren't true friends in the first place. The same thing could just as easily happen to any one of us! Take care and happy posting, my friend!
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi jj4ever I am going to rise above my stupid error, I was insulted and I kept it going by l osing my temper which is one thing in real life b ut not here in making discussions. I did know better but my humanness led me astray for su re.So now I have to get back up, forget that and go back to responding and making better discussions. I can do it and I will do it too.
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Your positive attitude and outlook is uplifting for sure! If I were angered by something someone else wrote to me here, I don't know if I'd be so quick to bounce back. I think I'd need a little more time to cool off, so good for you. I'm glad you're not leaving, although I knew in all truth you wouldn't anyway. I am an impulsive person, so I hope that someday if I must experience similar circumstances that I will have the decency and wisdom to handle it as you have. Thank you for providing such a great example for us.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 11
Yeah Hatley, I really appreciate your saying, I have to get back up I'm so glad that you are energetic with your positive thinking You are not only good in writing quality discussions in quick pace you are a fast sprinter in responding posts and commenting back to responses It's true JJ4Ever, I couldn't imagine what would happen to me as well if confronting any similar undesirable situation for sometimes we could hardly release from the pestering of the gloomy emotion then...take care and happy posting.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
12 Sep 11
Hey sweetie. What;s this then? Wait, i'll go and get the vodka and you go get your party dress, okay. When life throws you lemons sweetie, we use it for that vodka of mine. Now smile and keep your head up.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi sahy oh you have me laughing and thats good. I am just not going to fight when someone insults me again here.I will just not comment at all.I am laughting and it feels pretty goos too.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
12 Sep 11
Hey sweet. if anyone insult you again, let me know okay. You are our dearest mykot member here. I am good at teaching people manners. Here, my sweet, have some vodka. Bottoms up.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
12 Sep 11
I have just picked the limes off my tree. By my parrot is getting tired making all these trips to the US to help my friends.
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@buenavida (8010)
• Sweden
12 Sep 11
Hi, Hatley.. We all make mistakes and some of my discussions have been deleted too. I have become a bit wiser dureing the years, I hope.. Wish you a great day and many nice contacts with people here!
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi buenavis yes I think I am a lot wiser now because I have to learn to keep my temper when insulted and not just insult back. I was wrong and now I will learn from my error and go on to make better discussions. I know who I am and I am not like what that responder said about me, so I will forget that and p retend' it did not happen.I have many frie nds here and enjoy the give and take.
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@buenavida (8010)
• Sweden
13 Sep 11
We never stop learning, do we? The Holy Scriptures gives us good advice if someone insults us - to not give the same kind of answer back.. I like this one: "17 Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable. 18 Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone." Romans 12 (New Living Translation) Take care my friend!
@topffer (34126)
• France
12 Sep 11
Hello Mrs Hatley, I missed your last discussions, so I lost nothing... from your discussion, but deletions happen everyday and I don't worry about a response or a comment deleted. I began with a discussion which is already deleted today, and it did not affected my mood. It is strange but I was writing to a friend before you began this discussion that all these deletions could affect new members, but I was far to believe that they could affect the most senior member at myLot. It would be too sad if you were quitting for a little "accident".
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@topffer (34126)
• France
12 Sep 11
Good decision. You said it : quitters never win.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
12 Sep 11
I was sad for you it was deleted but I do not now why! You are like me. I wipe away my tears and then just face the situation and just get on with it. don't spend another thought on it Hatley. Just move on
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi cynthiann o h now I know why I was flamed and I flamed back which got my discussion deleted as it was called a flaming war. I was to blame, if only I had not commented back on the insult and fl flaming myself.Live and learn . it hurt to do I was so royally disliked but then I guess everyone cannot like us. lol so I got back up and am going for ward.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
12 Sep 11
If you get flamed then just pm your friends and we will jump in to assist
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@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
12 Sep 11
Quit be damned or I'll dust you off. We all make mistakes and we need Hatley so end of silly talk Please. We can all help one another by rating our discussions and sadly I know a lot of people just simply don't bother. I have and will always rate all my responses with a + and for the ones that are not worthy I just do nothing, skip to the next one. Anyway hope all the dust is gone my dear, have a great week and Take Care.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi grandmaof2 oh I lost mytemper which is called flaming as I insulted back at the responder who insulted me. I am now glad as I did not w ant anyone to see that as it was not my best moment at all. I knew better as I should have not commented back to the insult at all.And I h ave found that its become a habit to rate as I go along in discussions. it has become secnd nature to me. lol
• Canada
12 Sep 11
Way To Go Hatley You're a Great Mylotter!!! (((BIG HUGS)))
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
12 Sep 11
Oh Hatley, don't quit, everyone makes mistakes.. So stick around, who else besides a mutual dog lover, can I have a conversation with in the same post for days or weeks on end?????
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
hi carm I did what I have seen others do and shook my head, I lost my temper because I was royally insulted. Instead of answering in the same way I should have bypassed her response as she is one who is like a bulldog, once angry she does not let go. So my discussion was deleted for flaming.I decided darn it I ha ve as much right to be here as she does.but I goofed and will not do that again. lol.
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• United States
12 Sep 11
Oh, is that what happened, you got caught in a flaming war? I save those for FB, that way I can delete or block the perp..
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• United States
12 Sep 11
Hi Mrs. Hatley! Yep, you are right about quitters and winners. Don't let some hateful comments spoil your day, or the fact that the discussion got deleted. Your friends are here for you, dear one. I didn't see that discussion. I would have defended you, had I seen it. have a good day. We need you here Hatley. You've become a grandmotherly friend to many of us here.. always the voice of reason!
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
ho pointless questions I blew it and insulted b ack so it was deleted for flaming which was right of cou rse. now I will reread the quideline and if this person comments a g ain , I will not respond at all. I have so many good friends and will come back and start over again.
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• United States
12 Sep 11
That's the spirit.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
12 Sep 11
I don't know the details of what happened but I have to say I admire your willingness to come forth and apologize. You have a huge number of posts here..almost 45k and that is quite a contribution to this site. It's numbers like those that encourage others. Your apology was very respectable and all can relate to having made a mistake.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 11
histary I knew the rule about insults and flaming, and having read the response that was flaming I should have not commented on it at all and just reported it to admins. but I blew it and now I have lost a discussion due to my stupid error. but I can rise above it as I know what the woman said about me was vile and untrue.