Long Distance Relationship, does it really works?

Singapore
September 13, 2011 7:49am CST
I wonder if long distance relationship really works. I've come up to a situation that there's this girl who have a suitor in her hometown. This girl has a plan of working abroad and don't when she's coming back home. A guy whom she really likes court her and ask to be his boyfriend. The guy knew that the girl will be leaving very soon yet he still pursue his courting for the remaining days. The girl dump her because she doesn't like to have a long distance relationship. She thinks that really won't work. Does she do the right thing? WHat do you think..?? hmmm.
15 responses
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
If she did the right thing if she does not love the guy but if she loves the guy, well she's not. For me long distance relationship may work. I haven't experienced that. But I still guess it works.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Sorry for my sentence construction, I haven't deleted the If in the beginning of my response.
@rosie230 (1696)
13 Sep 11
I think to have a long distance relationship you need to have trust for starters. But I guess it could work, but for me, I don't think I could cope with it. I would want to be able to see my partner whenever I wanted to, without distance stopping me :)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
hi Rosie, you have to see him and if you can do it then it has to be everyday..:D
@dimsumz (143)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 11
To be honest, I have experienced LDR (long distance relationship) before, well 2 actually. One where it didn't work, and the other actually did. The most important thing that a couple should have when experiencing LDR is TRUST. If you have that, then one way or another, it will work. Of course on the other hand, each person must also keep the trust of his/her partner, don't misuse the "TRUST" that your partner has given you.
@kry893 (222)
• Canada
21 Sep 11
Maybe that girl thinks that there is no hope in having a long distance relationship. Not many people can actually have that even so they are committed to each other. It lacks alot of activities that offline couples do together. It is possible if both are willing to find a way to be living together eventually.
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
yes we all know that its really difficult for the two person to be separated by the distance but still its depends on them on how they handle it...if the guy really love that girl then he will wait for her no matter how long will it takes, its the only way he can prove his love to that girl!!!she will never knew it until she gave it a try...if she really love the guy then why don't she gave him a chance to prove to her how the guy really loves her right?
@HanaHun (13)
• China
18 Sep 11
It's not the distance that stays on the way of love. It's the doubts.
@GemmaR (8517)
13 Sep 11
I think that it very much depends on the types of people that are in the relationship. For me, I value being with someone physically, which means that a long distance relationship wouldn't really work for me. I have had to do it in the past, which I stuck with because I was in love with the man, and I didn't really enjoy it because of the fact that we had to be apart for months at a time without seeing each other at all. Where he was didn't really have a mobile phone signal either which meant that we were literally apart in every sense of the term.
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
It works if we recognize that love knows no distance but no one knows tomorrow so the two individuals must work it out so relationship will last until they decide to marry each other. It's a difficult situation for the two for there are always new things that may happen everyday.
@cow_boy29 (236)
• United States
14 Sep 11
hem it is depending to you all, if you can keep trust each other and consitency with you commitment to not have a relationship with another and have a good communication.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
14 Sep 11
Nah.... Long distant relationships always fail, especially in a very new and fresh relationship lie the one you've mentioned. They just became partners and now they're going to leave each for a long time. That's not going to improve the relationship and it will eventually die. You're going to feel really empty and you tend to find someone else to fill the empty void. The lack of communication will eventually make you guys strangers. Though, for couples who have been together for years or married, they can overcome a long distance relationship because they're really committed to each other.
14 Sep 11
in my own opinion and based on my own experience, it CAN work. the only thing that matters i guess is that both parties have to be sincere in what they really want. it all depends on both of them anyway. I know a couple of people who have endured years being in a long distance relationship because they really love each other and willing to try it and never give up.
• India
16 Sep 11
well certainly this is true that long distance relations dont work .there are cases where people loose that initial spark in between them when they are far apart .the basic phone and internet chats dont do any good to the relation .Because people are not able to meet and spend time .This shows the importance of touch in a realtion.when you sit and hold ur fiance hand it give him or her the feeling of warmth and satisfaction that there is someone who is there for him or her no matter what hapens think about that
@labli09 (70)
• Philippines
14 Sep 11
hello..long distance relationship works for those couple who truly in love with each other..if that girl doesn't have any feelings for that man, then she did the right thing..its better to hurt him than to let him wait for nothing..love, trust and communication can make a long distance relationship work..
• United States
14 Sep 11
I can speak from personal experience, It does not work. I was in a 7 year long distance relationship and that was with visiting 5 times a year. There are so many doubts that start going in your head, the loneliness, the lack of physical attention, not being able to see a movie or go out to dinner, it takes a toll on your relationship. It was the best thing she did by breaking it off because you would of set yourself up for failure. The way I look at it is if it is meant to be it will be. Personally I wish I would of done that because now we are not friends and I wish that at least we could have remained friends. Good Luck!
@Kish2328 (71)
• United States
13 Sep 11
Me and my fiancé are one of those who had a long distance relationship and a living proof that yes - love conquers all - no matter how far and how long. Sure it needs trust and constant communication to make it work and of course, the faith. We have come this far and now, no distance can separate us anymore. I moved from another country just to be with him and that is one of the easiest decision I ever made.