Controversy in family is well or bad?
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6271)
Vietnam
September 14, 2011 1:27am CST
I have got married for two months. I and my husband almost don't have controversies.
My neighbors are 4 families. They argue frequently. One family have two kids, three couples have not got married yet but they live together. There are about three controversies occur between them every week. They even fight each others. I don't understand why.
When we're talking about family life, the women said me that they argue many times but they won't never saying goodbye. They can say goodbye to each others, although they have controversies frequently.
People don't have controversies in married life maybe goodbye each others much more than them.
I don't believe this. But I sometimes feel puzzled about what they said.
How are your views?
2 responses
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Sep 11
Yes there are lots of families here who also have these types of controversies. It really has nothing to do with if they are married or not because I can see the siblings fighting too. My boyfriend and I never fight, we do have our disagreements but thankfully to date it has never escalated into anything near a fight and or controversy, this after almost 8 years.
Lots of families are under great stress these days and depending on their personalities they tend to take it out on one another, which is not good because it does destroy their relationships.
@tkonlinevn (6271)
• Vietnam
15 Sep 11
I think like you. Controversies are not well for family life. Special is fighting each others.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Sep 11
Although I was a single parent with so many stresses in life. My home was so quite and so peaceful all the time. My kids are young adults now and cannot stand to hear yap, yaps, as they call it. They are not use to having controversies in the home and I am so grateful for being who I was because now they are so calm and do not take part in yelling type of scenes.
Thank you tkonlinevn for the BR! 
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
14 Sep 11
It sounds like none of them are happy. You all need to change your situations, if possible. Why be unhappy if you don't have to be. I can't image rarely talking to my husband. On the days he works I usually get up when he comes home at mid-night just to chat a little bit. I get up early and I'm off to work before he ever get up. He goes to work before I get home. If I didn't get up we wouldn't see each other for 4 days. Best Wishes!
@tkonlinevn (6271)
• Vietnam
15 Sep 11
Oh, I don't say to "talking". I mean to "controversy". Maybe you rarely talk to your husband so there are not to have controversies between you and him.
I'm very happy with my life. I only have some puzzled because my views about relationship is different to some women here.
