your partner's friend is interested in you

Romania
September 14, 2011 10:46am CST
so let's say things don't go that well bnetween you and your partner...and you start to spend more and more time with one of his friends..and you realise what a wonderful person he/she is and that he is a little bit interested in you...what would you do in this situation? would you talk to your partner about it?
3 responses
• United States
14 Sep 11
This is a taboo area for me. While I understand that matters of the heart for some people cannot be controlled, somehow this is not an area I would explore. I would explain to the friend that because he and my partner are still friends and or were friends I could not entertain this area. Even if my partner and I were to split, and or my partner and his friend were no longer friends, I don't date the friends. Yes I would speak to my partner about it because I would not want him to find out on his own and or be hurt by it. I can see how some are okay with this but for me it would be a definite, no-no.
@GemmaR (8526)
14 Sep 11
If my partner's friend was interested in me then I wouldn't do anything about it while I was still in a relationship with my partner. I am an honest person, and would never be able to do anything behind his back. I don't think that I would tell him, as that would upset my partner, so I would just tell his friend that he had no chance at all with me and then I would be able to move on and do whatever I like with my life. If his friend behaved out of turn then I might have to say something; but other than that I think that I would stay quiet.
• United States
14 Sep 11
I would definitely talk to my partner and tell him how I feel. If you don't think your relationship is going anywhere its probably not. And its best to cut ties with him before you become unfaithful. I was in a similar situation. I was attracted to my boyfriends friend and when our relationship ended( I left him because he cheated) I did date his friend. We are married now with 2 kids and I feel like he's my soulmate. He says he knew he would marry me before we ever talked( we didn't have a conversation until my b/f went crazy) but you have to follow your heart. If you don't feel its right to stay with your current man, then don't. Life is too short to be unhappy.