friendship vs relationship!!!

September 15, 2011 6:59am CST
Hi there!! This is a story about my cousin. Yesterday, she talk to me about her problem, she want some advice from me but, unfortunately, I don't know what to say about it. Her problem is, she has a childhood friend, they grew together. They are classmates since elementary until high school. They've been very good friends, because they always have fun moments. And when they're together they feel very happy and comfortable in each other's company. And most of all they share there problems with each other. Until one time, my cousin saw her guy friend with other girl, she felt angry and jealous. So she didn't talk to her friend for a long time. So, the guy do his best to fix their problem. My cousin's agree to talk to him, to make clear whatever she feels for the guy. My cousin confess about her feelings. And the guy just look straight to her eyes and he also admitted that he love my cousin more than a friend but, according to him they should not fall in love with each other, because it will just ruin and affect their friendship. so, they should stay being good friends. What should she do? ignore her feelings about the guy and stay on what they are now? Or should she continue to love the guy?
10 responses
@viney17 (688)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
frankly speaking, the guy really doesnt like her as a lover but just as a friend, coz a realtionship starting with friends is the best i know of. it wouldnt affect their friendship, it will actually boost their feelings for each other more. tell your cousin to move on even though it is really hard to move one, later on he will find someone better than that guy..
15 Sep 11
thank you for commenting and also to your advice i'll tell that to my cousin...once again thanks...
• Saudi Arabia
16 Sep 11
For me, both of them should not restrict themselves from falling in love, in fact friendship is a very good foundation to start e relationship. They can still be friends even if they become lovers. There's no harm in trying especially when the feeling is mutual.What must be assured is they have the same perseverance to make the next step of their friendship worth fighting for. In life especially in love, we should never be afraid to take chances. Risks and struggles are part of it but at least u tried. Even if it will not work for them, the thing is they allowed themselves to share the feelings they both have. It's hard to fail at the end, because u will feel the pain, but it's more painful to have what ifs at the end because they became afraid to try. Remember, Realization is a mentor and pain is the lesson. So for me, i will never ignore the feelings.:)
@cupkitties (7372)
• United States
16 Sep 11
I can't speak for others experience but I have seen so many friendships fail after dating started and that is because the two friend were not honest about what they are really like. They hide their true self and cover up flaws to try and impress. They may actually have a good chance especially having been friends from childhood. As long as they're real with each other every thing should work out.
@legrande (68)
• India
16 Sep 11
i think the guy is nt that interested into getting a relationship at this point of time. may b he needs time to understand ur cousin!!!
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
I know how hurt it would be but if that friend of your cousin all he wants is a friendship then better accept it. She can still love him in her own way.
@cow_boy29 (236)
• United States
16 Sep 11
friendship is more important for me so i would sugges you to choose friendship
@meriel (101)
• Philippines
15 Sep 11
i think the guy does not like her.. or maybe the guy is afraid that he might lose the girl that's why he prefer to be his friend even if he loves the girl. to the girl if she continue loving the guy she might get hurt and continue hurting. the guy clear his stand already. he love the girl but he want to kept their friendship. i think she need to look for another love. to the guy.. if you really love the girl more than a friend you should stop thinking any negative things will happen because you might regret in the future that you choose your friendship over loving her as a girlfriend or lover. coz someday she might be vanish to your life without saying anything. and totally lost her.
@sideword (40)
15 Sep 11
If the guy has no girlfriend, then there's no reason not to level up their friendship to a love relationship. Especially that they already admitted to each other that they both have feelings for each other. They are comfortable and happy being with each other so they should really be lovers. Their friendship will serve as a good foundation. Their closeness will make them hard to be involved in other person because every time one of them link to other person, jealousy will be felt. So they should really be the one for each other. I am hoping that they will get married to each other. Good luck on both of them.
• India
15 Sep 11
Actually if they both have same feeling then should have no problem to accept their love they should stay as lover, Ya but if their relationship does not work they should tell before only if such problem comes then we will be friends again and firstly ask that guy what is the problem why should be remain as friend why cant we be lover
• India
15 Sep 11
Actually if they both have same feeling then should have no problem to accept their love they should stay as lover, Ya but if their relationship does not work they should tell before only if such problem comes then we will be friends again and firstly aske that guy what is the problem why should be remain as friend why cant we be lover