do you have any realization with your encounter to some individual?

Philippines
September 15, 2011 9:14pm CST
I had a very interesting and touching conversation with my new found neighbor the other night. Small world, she happened to be my previous office co-worker's ex-girlfriend! whew! I've heard some about her before, but those are a not so good description. But when we talked last night, I could sense that what I've heard before was the opposite. She is very nice, though she has this attitude, but that can be considered, different people has different attitudes, and considering her status, she belongs to the upper class, but I could not see the social status in her, even during our first acquaintance, she is very nice and down to earth, 100% opposite based on the description that I;ve heard before. She told me about her life before, what a miserable and stressful life, despite of the money, fame and power. My quotes in life has been proven undeniably, that money cannot buy happiness, and that what we people need is love in order to live, though that so called money is also important in order for us to survive. She said that her husband now is actually her second husband. She had a divorce on her first before she met my previous office co-worker. Then after that relationship, that's the time she met her current husband. Now it seemed like all her pains during her pasts was being replaced with love and happiness. What touches me most is her undying declaration how blessed she is with her current husband, who is exactly the opposite to her previous men. Indeed, he is a very good man, family oriented, down to earth and exactly a dream man to every woman (am just glad I already have my own man! ;-) Now, I could say that whatever pains and sadness we may encounter, everything has really its purpose. I think she was allowed to experienced those pains and sadness in order for her to appreciate what she has now. My realization is that we should thank everything that happens in our life, no matter how bad it is, we may not understand it now, but am sure the One above already arranged something better for us in the future, we just have t bear with it. How about you? Have you had any realization to some your daily encounter with individuals, experience or anything?
2 responses
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
It is always pleasant to meet somebody and discover that all the things you heard about him/her are not true. Quite the opposite of my story. Our boss is a very powerful person in the whole of our organization, and to people outside our department he is this wonderful, intelligent man. But, people who've worked with him say nasty things about him, and the people from the outside say those are just lies. He looks too kind to be that. One girl in another department got transferred to our department, and she said now she realizes that those people they've called liars were all telling the truth. The reason they thought this man was wonderful was because he is so pleasant when meeting them, talking with them, etc. They don't realize that behind their backs, he says something bad about them, and that he's such a difficult person to work with. The only reason we put up with him is because we really need the job, and it's hard to find a new one with this unstable economy we have. So, what I realized in that situation, is that it is true what they say, that no matter what happens, the truth will be revealed. It doesn't matter how good you cover it up. It will just be revealed. I also learned that no matter how we mask bad attitude, it will blow up in our faces.
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Thanks for sharing glorycam. People are like a coin that also has two faces. People also have different attitude to different situations. Just like your boss, in which some may say he is good and some say the opposite. We would not know the real him until we get to know him better. In some other cases also, if we are asked to favor for some issues,I guess we need to know the real story first, both sides of the coin before making our decision. I guess this method should apply to all. We cannot judge the book by its cover. I think this is always true ;-) I agree with you, the truth will always prevail. When it comes to attitude, I guess that is hard to hide. I will surely come out no matter how you hide it. And with the kind of attitude your boss has, I guess you better be careful with him ;-)
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
16 Sep 11
Yes, we are all very careful. He has already caused divisions in our office and we know that the only reason he's trying to be kind to us is because he can't afford even just one employee resigning just now with the situation we're in. He's very manipulative. He screams at people alleging inefficiency, and then he calls for a staff meeting "explaining his side". He even asks for suggestions to make things work but in the end we discovered he does that to identify which persons are against him. Because the next time he flares up, he goes after those who "suggested" things to him. It's so painful seeing all of us trapped in this situation. I know most of us are searching for jobs elsewhere but only a few got lucky.
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
My Goddy! What a boss! He is so selfish and seems so insecure in his position and to everything. My gosh! i could not stand a boss like him! Having a boss like that is so dangerous! whew! Good for you, you did plan to have a strike or do some legal actions against him, he could be put to grievance. And I admire your patience for dealing with him everyday. You are right, finding a job nowadays is kinda difficult, since there are also thousands of people out there who are also seeking job,not to mention the fresh graduates. But if you have the work experience that is already an edge to other. Well my friend, i hope you will have more patience in him, and I also hope that one day, hopefully the soonest, your boss will gonna realize and change his attitude. Let me ask you, do you have a union in your company?
@Zamara69 (130)
• United States
16 Sep 11
I haven't had a personal experience like that, but I know of an individual who is going through some changes in their life right now such as your subject. I think it was a learning process for her and that she needed to find herself. It's funny how we as individuals will judge someone simply by what somebody else says about them. Most people will judge a person within the first 60 seconds of either seeing them for the first time or hearing something about them.
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
It is never too late to change especially if its for the better. Everybody deserves a second chance. Yes, how quickly we judge a person without knowing them deeply. I think we should just give at least some time to get to know him/her better, to be fair. ;-)