my dear my lotters i need your own opinion about this matter...
@jessicabiadora (44)
Philippines
September 16, 2011 9:20am CST
i have a boyfriend but my parents wanted someone else for me...what will i do???should i fight for my boyfriend or i just follow my parents decisions for me???
5 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
16 Sep 11
You have to do what is best for you. It's hard for me to give you advice in this case.
What will be more important to you in the end? Pleasing your parents (who won't live forever) or following your heart/stick to yourself?
Keep in mind that nobody lives forever and love can end.
I think there is nothing wrong with meeting the one your parents have for you but it has to be clear to them that you are the one who will decide in the end, since it is your life.
@primaryway1 (14)
• United States
16 Sep 11
I agree. At the end it is your decision. Remember that at one point your parents have told u that u need to start making decisions for yourself. They may want what is best for and they love u with all their hearts, but sometimes u have to do what is best for u. Let them know that this is up to u to decide. Don't be aggressive with them. Thank them for caring so much about u, but at the same time stand ur ground.
@jessicabiadora (44)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
thank you guys for all your advises...i really need time to think about it!!!hope everything will be alright...god bless
• United States
16 Sep 11
It's great that you have loving parents that care for you but you have to make your own choices, whether good or bad. I have a daughter and I try to encourage her about choices. Parents oftentimes see stuff that you can't see because of the things that they have experienced in the past. In growing up you have to still make your own mistakes or sucess. Life is too short to be unhappy. If the one you love makes you happy and adds good to your life and not tears than I say go for it! God bless you, I hope you the best!
@jessicabiadora (44)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
thank you so much madam for your advises!!!i hope we can be a good friends...i don't know how to make my own decisions especially if it is related with my family!!lucky your daughter to have you as her mom...
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
17 Sep 11
Hmmm??? Let's use simple logic. If this boyfriend was true love, you would not ask if you should fight for him. We should never settle for anything less than true love regardless of what others want us to do. True Love is a Spiritual Thing sent by God. It is meant to be. There lives life itself.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
well, parents only wanted what's best for us. but if it affect our lives in the future then maybe we should weigh things out. we are responsible now and i think we should not totally rely our decisions with our parents. if you think your boyfriend now is worth fighting for then you should fight for him. maybe you should try more efforts of making your boyfriend close with your parents then maybe with that their relationship would deepen then your parents would realize that their little girl has grown up and they don't need to worry on the choices you make. i hope you find yourself cause as what i have perceived you are confused now. also if you are unsure of your decisions always seek help from the One above. He knows more what is best for you. if you only pray then certainly he would grant answers to your prayers. Godbless you!:)
@gratisfaction (25)
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17 Sep 11
That depends on your age and a lot of things, especially if it's a religious matter.
At the end of the day though, it's your life and you don't want to be with someone who's going to make you unhappy. Do what's best for you, no-one can force you into anything. Remember that.
