FAITHFULL

Ireland
September 3, 2006 7:39am CST
HOW DO I TRUST A NEW PARTNER WHO HAS BEIN UNFAITFULL TO ALL HIS OTHER PARNERS IN THE PAST,HE SAYS WE ARE SOUL MATES AND HAVE FOUND EACH OTHER after 15 YEARS APART I WAS HIS FIRST LOVE
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@skittlez353 (1404)
• United States
28 Sep 06
WELL, BEFORE FAiTHFULNESS iS HONESTY. HONESTY iS WHAT BUiLDS UP trust AND faithfulness SO TALKiNG SHOULD TELL ALL WiTH YOUR PARTNER.
• United States
27 Sep 06
Well, you can give a shot for one last time and see if he really changed. But If he really was unfaithfull to his all other partners, I dont know if you can trust him but being his first love, you never know, it might work. Good luck.
• United States
27 Sep 06
try to live for today not the past. you deserve happiness just like he does. He is getting older I hope. So this should be subsiding by now. If your gut feeling does not change say goddo bye. Remain good friends if possible
• Australia
27 Sep 06
Do you LOVE HIM? You should look inside yourself and ask why are you with him? If you need to ask others a question like this then you should seek inside and ask why? If you are in love with your partner there are no questions as to trust you love someone you trust them till they loose your trust. If they do? Don't live in the past...I found my man again after 23 years. what happened in each of our past is history what we make to together now our time. look within....
• Australia
27 Sep 06
Do you LOVE HIM? You should look inside yourself and ask why are you with him? If you need to ask others a question like this then you should seek inside and ask why? If you are in love with your partner there are no questions as to trust you love someone you trust them till they loose your trust. If they do? Don't live in the past...I found my man again after 23 years. what happened in each of our past is history what we make to together now our time. look within....
@labatt113 (401)
• United States
27 Sep 06
It is a very very difficult situation to deal with. I would first avoid the short leash method. As you keep a dog on a short leash they just want to run more. I have always judged people on their past actions and 9 out of 10 it has been right. Until that person hits a breaking point in life and wants to change they will follow the same pattern. Sad to say most people do not reach that beaking point some of us have reached. Anyway people are easy to read. Unless they are a black hearted person with no morals at all they will show signs. Everyone hass a tell. Watch for body language and speech patterns. Once you catch a lie any liet remember how that person acted when they were asked about it. This is prob the best I could say. Plus going through a realationship and having to worry is not worth it. I would just assume be single. I should note another charcteristic about some people I have seen was the following. Some guys and girls as well I knew always would meet people that would become attached once the opposing party would show signs of attachment they would do the opposite which included cheating as well. These people did not show any faith within a realationship until they met a dominating other half. The one that didn't show interest. This I think is an unhealthy trait as well but just food for thought.
@bhchy1 (6052)
• United States
27 Sep 06
I met a guy who I knew had been unfaithful in his past...we became friends then more...and he is my soulmate in more ways I knew possible..Will he stray...maybe..but I accepted him for who he was and no one has ever treated me better...In the long run...how many couples do you know who really been faithful to one another?? Most won't even admit to straying..but the percentages are very high that they do at least once..
• United States
27 Sep 06
It is called faith. My boyfriend use to be a huge cheeter, but he has also been honest with me from the begining about it. That in itself has helped me believe him, I am also a good judge of charecter and I know he is afraid to loose me. Liers may be good but men hate cryin, and if he thinks he's gonna loose me he bawls like a baby. He has been faithful, we live in a small town, so I would know if he did cheet on me. People CAN change, in his case he was like me. His girlfriends liked to fight, and physically. They were never nice to him. I treat him the way he should be as he treats me the way I should be...Therefore we are happy. If you two are happy, give him the benifit of the doubt, he just may have changed because you bring the better out in him.
• New Zealand
26 Sep 06
well for starters how do you know hes been unfaithful in the past has he told you and if so why would he tell you that who wants to know that does he want you to doubt him and another thing thats his past it really shouldnt concern you but it would plague my mind if i was in that situation but the thing is hes with you and what matters now is how he is with you and strong yous both are and the big question is do you beleive yous are soulmates if you dont then maybe you should move on if he is then forget about it hes with you after all the time yous have been apart you have been bought back into each others arms for a reason weather its good or bad you just have to figure what it is you want who cares what anyone else thinks all that matters is what you think cause your the one dealing with it sorry bout the big speech
@Stiletto (4584)
25 Sep 06
Well personally I think it's unlikely he will change. He's a serial cheater and, let's face it, you are never going to completely trust him because you know that. However, if you do decide to go for it I would give him one chance and once chance only! The second he puts a foot wrong kick him to the kerb and move on.
25 Sep 06
He sounds like the father of my children. He will always cheat, I’m sorry but these men will never/can’t change. In my circumstances the man is so insecure he needs attention from other women to make him feel good. He lies constantly; nothing, not even hurting his children has an effect on his behaviour. Soul mates have respect for each other and understand each others feelings; this is just a line to my (experienced) ears. Don’t fall for it. I agree with Starbright, run from him and stay strong and true to yourself. Good lu
@amiksinha (1961)
• India
22 Sep 06
As u know its not true that 'Once a cheater, always a cheater'.. so may be in ur case also it may prove right. U dont keep any doubt in ur mind and respect her without thinking of the past. Wish you all the best
@sandoo (223)
• Jamaica
22 Sep 06
do you really believed him? its just hard to just trust a man. they say what you wants to hear. trust me.
@noorasie (686)
• Pakistan
22 Sep 06
No never trust him. No soul mate... all these are old stories.... A man who is unfaithfull to all of his partner in the past .... can't be trusted.... since nature..... never change............. Be very very careful...... Dont give him a chance.....life is not for experiments....
@MySpot (2602)
• United States
19 Sep 06
Faithful is as Faithful does.
• United States
15 Sep 06
Wonder if he used that line on all the others?
@Sandy85 (473)
• India
15 Sep 06
Think hard before you commit to anything.
@chalmette69 (3011)
• United States
13 Sep 06
Trust is one of the main things that keeps a relationship together, so if you don't trust him it is going to be hard to keep your relationship going. I wish you the best.
@shaggydog (648)
• Canada
11 Sep 06
i went through the same thing my husband of today fooled around on his wife and his girlfriend and they once a cheater always a cheater that is not true in all cases i have been with my husband for six years and i can honestly say he hasn't stepped out on me, give him the benefit of the doubt don't dwell on something that hasn't happened or you will make yourself sick enjoy your honey unless he gives you reason not to trust him remember without trust you have nothing. have u talked over fears with your other half if not seat him down and tell how you feel and what your worries are
@StarBright (2799)
• United States
11 Sep 06
When a relationship is not working, you walk away, you don't cheat. Being unfaithful is a sympton of another problem - being a liar. There, I said it. So, my dear, soul mates is horse puckey. This guy is a loser and a fast talker. If you talk to some of his other partners, I am sure you will find that all of them could not have been wrong. Be smart and put another 15 years between you and him and save yourself the heartache.