could you still be happy if all the things around you went wrong?
September 17, 2011 3:37am CST
one day there is a child and she sees her family as a perfect one,a loving mother and a responsible father!!!she grows full of love from her parents until one day she found out that everything is a fake,everything is just a front just to show to other people that everything is perfect...her father has a mistress!!!she don't know how to face it ,and every time all her friends insults her she just sit at the corner and cry she doesn't know how to fight it,as a child grows older she's afraid of the term "TRUST"...she doesn't know how to regain it, she don't know how to trust people around her!!she believes that all men are just the same...everything about her father blind her to see the positive outlook of life!!!
17 Sep 11
I am thankful my mom did not agree to my dad Before when he was caught with a mistress.he said they will pretend as if nothing is wrong and that the family is still intactfor the sake of business,etc. Otherwise we would have been devastated when the truth finally comes out on its own. I think your friend is really hurting right now and all that she thinks was perfect is crumbling down and the most painful part is accepting the cold truth happening so fast right before your eyes.
17 Sep 11
this is so sad :( but you know what yes you can still be happy even if things around you went wrong. how? by trusting your God. If you have faith and believe that everything in life has a purpose then you would feel at peace even if things around you are falling apart. remember nothing in this life is perfect. it is really up to us on how we see and live our life. some other people has worst problems that this but somehow they are still surviving. dont let your problems overcome you instead take control of your life. learn to forgive and let go because that is the only way to move forward. if you dont forgive, this will only burden you down. it will always weigh and pull you down. the longer you think about the mistake of your father, the more it would grow into hatred, fear, mistrust and other negative emotions. start to learn how to forgive and trusting in God more.
18 Sep 11
well, if that happens to me then probably it would be too hard to handle since i am used to the perfect life. there would be pain that is really painful. thinking of my family now it is too hard to handle that kind of situation because we are happy in the family we might have some problems but we all have gone through that together. well with this life i believe things are changing.i always look forward for tomorrow for it is never the same with yesterday. just keeping the positive attitude this will keep me live on life. and if ever things may seem wrong still i have one person that i know who would never fail me if i only call for Him and that is my God. it is important that we keep our faith because it is the only thing that would make us hold on. everything may be gone or would fade but never should be our faith.
18 Sep 11
During the darkest moments in our life, we must not forget that GOD is always there. We just have to trust him that everything would just be fine. Though its hard to be happy when everything around you are not going well, we must always be strong for GOD is always watching us.
18 Sep 11
poor girl.. who should be blamed? it must be her parents. maybe her parents just wanted to hide their relationship problem between them to create a conducive circumstances to raise their children. that's why the parents pretended to be a perfect parents, cos they didn't want their little girl knowing what actually happened. I think it's a common action of parents when they're having hard problem. but what they don't know is that they is just like hiding a big bomb behind their back which could explodes every time. and for the girl, the bomb has just exploded.. bad parents, poor children..parents should aware about this..
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 11
hi jessicabiadora yes we can be happy even when things go wrong as we all have a spark of God in us that tells us He cares for us. Myself I have been through three years of upset and things are not exactly back to normal. but I have only two options, be happy today or be sad and cry my eyes out. Being pretty intelligent I chose to be happy for this one day.take it one day at a time no matter what miserable things have happened. You can be happy for today.
2 Oct 11
Seems like she is in a big psychological problem. She has fear over man and even a bigger fear in trusting man. But to be honest, what is the worst thing about his father, having a mistress? Is that really that bad? Is really the end of the world that your dad has a second wife. Why you make yourself miserable when it is your dad is one to be suppose to be miserable? I take you didn't mention her mum because she has already moved on with it. Guess you should learn from her and move on in life.