my daughter is my best friend

@pahak627 (4203)
Philippines
September 17, 2011 4:45pm CST
For the past 4 years I have been with my daughter always after my work. She's not attending regular school since she was 12 years old because of some problem. She's enrolled in a homeschooling program. She barely goes out of our house since then. She's always been my companion whenever we decide to go to Manila to visit her older brothers who are now working there. There were even occasions wherein she stayed with her brothers. It happened twice, the first one was 3 months and the last was about 4 months. Now that she's here with me again, her interaction is just with me and her father. She does not have many friends. She has only 1 or 2 friends who used to visit her. But now no one visits her for reasons they only know. During weekends we go to the movies and eat outside with a cousin. Have facial together and more. I even have no time for my one and only best friend not a relative. We only communicate thru text messages and sometimes we met during work days during noonbreaks. Now, my daughter becomes my best friend.
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11 responses
@edbuex (169)
• Uganda
18 Sep 11
your best friend yes good but she also deserves to get her age-mates since there are goods her age mates can teach her, play,joke among others which improve the mental performance you can not do at least let her go with some age mates for some plays games on weekends in your presence if need be and first understand her friends best before her for her to get the best thanks pahak
@pahak627 (4203)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Yes, she deserves to be with kids her age but she really has a problem of her own which I'm trying to help her out. Thanks edbuex.
@edbuex (169)
• Uganda
19 Sep 11
...After she knows better that problem you are protecting..it will pull her defense near her protection and she feel confidant than taking her good mom to have stopped her freedom best for both of you my dear so try to look for all the way rub that thing in her mind forcing her to think that mom stops her do what she wants pahak
@pahak627 (4203)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
After a year passed since I started this discussion, my daughter now goes out of the house but very seldom but at least she's learning to come out of her shell, shall we say. I let her go with her friend but most of the times, this friend of hers can not go with her.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
18 Sep 11
For me it is very good but the bad thing is if she had a wrong doing you are the number one tolerate your daughter to became worse because you cover her fault that's the dis advantage of it.
@pahak627 (4203)
• Philippines
21 Sep 12
I won't tolerate any wrong doing by my daughter however, I just made her feel that we care for her specially during those times of her problem. Covering whatever her wrongdoing is also a disadvantage of our closeness but for me she's a good girl. If you only know what her problem was, you will feel pity for her. It's not the cause of her wrongdoing. She was only 12 years old when she acquired it.
@GemmaR (8527)
18 Sep 11
I think that it is beautiful that your daughter is your best friend, and I have to admit that I am in a similar position with my own Mother at the moment. We get on so well, and we talk to each other about absolutely anything. Nobody else knows us as well as we know each other, and that's certainly the way that we both like it to be. I do have other friends as well, but I also love to go on days out with my Mother because we really enjoy doing the same things and I know that we'll always have a good time if we go somewhere out together.
@Judy890 (1633)
• United States
18 Sep 11
Aw that is so sweet. I wish my mom saw me as her best friend
@pahak627 (4203)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Thanks for your response and find my relationship with my daughter sweet.
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
17 Sep 11
Well it's good to know that you are there for your daughter especially at times when she feels alone and away from here peers. Nice job being a parent! Now since your best friends with your daughter try to go deep about her feelings as to why she's aloof with peers of her age. Friends outside the family are important too. It helps as become a better person. It develops our self-confidence. Maybe there's a lingering problem that must be solve and parents especially mothers should help. :) I wish the very best for your family. Take care. shadow41
@pahak627 (4203)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Thanks, your response really helped what I feel. I'm trying to help my daughter with her problem.
@Hatley (158019)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 11
hi pahak that sounds lovely but again I am a little bewildered that she goes no place and has few friends, Is she an invalid or ill in some way ? I mean its not really too healthy to be only with you all the time, how about kids her own age? the only problem I see with home schooling is the lack of social contact with other children of her own age. she is now in her teens does she nbot want to go out to things with other teens?. also you sound like you could use some me time for yourself.forgive an elderly lady as I do not really know your circumstances and I myself was always very close to my own mom.we were also best friends too. she is now about sixteen? she needs to socialize more with other teens and you need to see your best friend too,you sound like you are aksing for some help mayve?
@pahak627 (4203)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Hi hatley thanks so much for your response. I feel that I found a friend in you. I really like how you discuss and respond here in mylot. You sounds friendly. Wish I could be one of your friends. Yes she has a problem in her own way.
@chiwasaki (4678)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
That's very nice to know that your daughter is your best friend. My mom is also one of my best friend. We are open to each other and we share stories about our lives. It is a very good thing if there's mother and daughter strong bonding.
@moons286 (66)
• Pakistan
18 Sep 11
I think friendship is an ideal relation between mother and daughter. because a person can hide something from mother but not from friend...
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 11
i do hope my mom can be my best friends too
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
18 Sep 11
You are so lucky to have an amazing daughter but... YOU must be an amazing mom you know, it begins from the mom and she's very lucky to have you. As parents are older I think they are completely responsible for the relationship with their kids in the future.
• Philippines
18 Sep 11
I am glad that you look at your present situation positively. I for one am glad that I am bonding with my daughter but since I do not want her to be a spoiled brat I see to it that there is still a limit to our being best of friends and our relationship as mother and daughter. It is not easy when I need to discipline her when she compares herself to her friends. I keep an open mind and allow her to share her thoughts. Though there are times when she wants to follow her peers and she can be undisciplined. I ground her for that by not allowing her to go out to play. I know I was brought up somewhat differently from her. I believe that each generation should be an improvement from the last.