A difference of opinion between couple is irratating ....

Malaysia
September 19, 2011 12:12am CST
The whole weekend was a bum .... just because i did something which my hubby disagreed, we did not communicate well at all. He was in the house going about his own things and me too. The remote was in his hands and i had to watch all the programes that only he chooses otherwise we are able to switch between programs It is unavoidable, i had to do what i wanted and he wanted me to do what he wanted .. so i told him, you go ahead with your plans and i will meet up with you once i am done ..... Not all things has to be done together right ?? I have somethings that i want that he may not aprove or like ..... as long as i know it is not a bad thing
3 responses
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 11
Not surprising as it happens in all marriages. When two people from different upbringings are put to live under one roof there bound to be different opinions on some issues between the two people. Here we have to make some adjustments to compromise otherwise the house will turn into a battlefield.
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
zandi .... no battlefield at my home only silent treatment ... i cant get hold of tv remote or the laptop ....(i end up sleeping)
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
Silent war is no better than a battlefield.
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
i know .....what i dont understand is .... the war starts in the morning (kind of end in middle of night ~ he will make me his bolster) then start again in the morning ...... i feel like Bolster Mania ... (dont worry dear he loves me ~ its kind of our joke too )
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• Philippines
19 Sep 11
Its just normal my friend. All it takes is to understand each other, give and take, maybe you can schedule the viewing in favor of who is going to take control of the remote. You just need good communication with your hubby and develop more sense of making fun out of that ugly conversation. One should give way, but both should be equal and more giving. For example last night for me I want to cook a dish which is my own recipe, but hubby insisted he wants to cook his recipe even if I was already used of what he cooks and I feel like I don't like it, I said, okay hon, your wish is my command, cook your chicken biryani . I realize that he cooks only during his off day and most of the time I do the cooking, so I give him favor and made him happy for what he likes. So we didn't end up hurting each other because I insisted of what I like and there was no friction at all. Just give and take is the solution.
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
hei ... i like husband who cooks, i believe it calms them down, hv tried training him but he is simply lazy bum .... Let me share wt u the situation yar !! he said lets go temple ... i said ok ... On Fridays we normally go to 'Temple A' temple (normally Temple A serves dinner so i dont cook).. suddenly the car turned other way .. so i ask where ... He said 'Temple B' ... (Here was the catch) Oh! my niece is coming there with my sister and brother .....(well in the morning the sister called me to watch some medical programe ~ yeah i know i dont have baby but its gods wish ~ i have already exhausted my bank balance for treatments). We rushed to Temple B and they still havent left their home ..... We rush back to Temple A ...(food was finished) ... (during the time there was special chariot due to arrive and people were ready to dance and sing to welcome it) after our prayer ... we waited for them to finish Temple B and come to Temple A ~ (i hated to see my SIL face that time) ~ Once they were done they wanted to go for dinner ~ i told my hubby i wanted to wait for the chariot (actually i told him earlier already of my wish) ~ well he wanted to buy dinner for his family, so i said you go ahead i will wait and go home my self .......(i did not want to spend much time wt his sister either) .....
@labli09 (70)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
this problem is really common to couples.but this can be handled easily if both understands and either of you give way for the other.so i think you also have to be patient if there are things that your boyfriend doesn't want and tell him to be patient too since you both don't think the same..
• Malaysia
20 Sep 11
he is my hubby of 5 years and lover of 14 years ~ he is good when we communicate he can push me to a corner to believe that i was selfish for my choice to happen .....i will follow his choice but, i hv to fight for mine which are simple are rare most times i use reverse psycology to get my way and he thinks its his choice