qualities that you look for.

@ljames85 (294)
Canada
September 19, 2011 5:58pm CST
A previous post of mine was talking about online and offline dating and what you prefer or if you have tried both and what the outcomes have been. Lately i have notices that a lot of people ask what qualities to you look for in a partner? Well fellow mylotters what do you look for? I am always interested in different point of views. What i look for is very generalized but include such things as caring, affectionate, likes animals, likes kids, not an alcoholic, drugs depending on what it is is not normally an issue as long as there is respect with them, loving, well mamnered. End all to be all it depends on the feeling that i get with the person.
3 responses
@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I want a well mannered, tall, good looking, smart, caring, affectionate and a guy with a job is that so hard to ask?! lol My aunt once told me that you should always go for the good looking guy when someone is trying to court you. I know it's the contrary to what everyone else is saying but she told me that you should go with the good looking one rather that the guy who seems nice. This is because the 'nice' guy maybe just putting on a facade and maybe he is not that nice at all. At least the guy looking guy is still good looking and maybe he will turn out to be nice as well haha.
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
21 Sep 11
Apparantly in this day and age it is to hard to ask for, from my exlerience at least. I like your aunts remarks on that topic. Made me giggle.
• United States
19 Sep 11
I think almost everyone has a generalized idea of what they would like in a partner, some of which is changeable over time, some of which isn't. Some deal-breakers for me were always that my future husband would have to be an avid video gamer, an animal lover, child-free, straight edge, and a virgin. He had to be kind to everyone--a good way to check a person for kindness is to take them out to a restaurant and see how they treat the waiter/waitress, for example--and he had to be able to carry on a good conversation, regardless of how small or large the topic. I've been with my husband for nearly seven years now, and he carried all these traits when I met him or evolved into having them over time. There have also been things he's added to the list of qualities I can't imagine not having now that I have him. My husband's very awkward in social situations, his thought processes, and otherwise--and I love that. It makes me feel that much more connected to him because I can actually understand him when others cannot. Although he's talkative with me, he's otherwise very quiet, which fits perfectly with my very outgoing personality. He's also extremely, over-the-top romantic, which I never truly looked for but wouldn't do without now. Like you said, though, it also depends on how you feel about a person. Some things are deal-breakers, but others normally can be overruled by your love for a person. Also, people can evolve over time...I used to care less about politics, for example, but hearing my husband talk about it all the time back when I was still in college turned me into a person who loves talking politics. We've gained a lot of common ground throughout our time together.
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
20 Sep 11
All i have to say is wow!
@Fire10 (293)
• United States
19 Sep 11
Someone with character and strong values/boundaries for themselves... a sense of honor. Openness and genuineness regarding themselves and others. A person who trusts.
@ljames85 (294)
• Canada
20 Sep 11
Yes, character os a major thing. I can normally tell if they have character and.humor right away because of the things i say are usually out there and strange. Not many understand or go with it, the ones that do always get browniebpoints :-)