Have anyone needed to take the time to find themselves?

United States
September 20, 2011 8:17am CST
I mean it is so much out here that can get you to lose yourself, it's like sometime you find yourself falling apart and not knowing who to be anymore, you start to follow what everyone else want you to be and not yourself, after a while it starts to sink in and then you are lost not knowing who you are. Really one thing about it, is the fact that it start at an early age it don't start when you get older, because you have your piers who are pressuring you in to doing this and doing that so to be cool you want to be popular or whatever then you start to fall into their life style, then when you start to act out your parents are not happy with you because they want you to be this person that does wonder with his/her life, so how do you figure out who are you? you need to separate from everyone and take the time to make your own choices about what you want to do, and you have to make these choices without everyone in your ear saying no this or that is a bad idea, you have to make up your mind and be firm about your dicision, and whats best for you and whats going to make you happy, because if you start following everyone elses dicision you are never going to be happy. Because at the end of the day you have to live with the decision that you have made weather it was bad or good.
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@Zamara69 (130)
• United States
20 Sep 11
Yes, I read books for self improvement. Only you can connect with yourself..
20 Sep 11
do you find self improvement books actually help? i thought they were written by morons and creeps who wanted to make money by telling people things they already knew?
• United States
26 Sep 11
LOL that is a funny thought, but I can never finish a book I will star treading then get occupied with something else.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
this topic is very timely today. I meant to find a good conversion or discussion here in mylot about decisions, about what we do with our lives and what our decisions would be and will it matter if we take the advices of our parents, our loved ones, or friends, etc. The more i am feeling better now that i should jreally follow what my heart is saying, give it time to recover, give it time to not wander around too much, give it time to become better and give it time to accept things that i will not be able to change, and to yearn for better things to come to me.
• United States
26 Sep 11
I could not agree with you more on that one, because for me there are times where you have to coach yourself in life, sometime you can't help the cards that was delt all you have to do is learn how to play them. Everyday we are delt a hand to deal with, you can look at it and take it or you can fold and give up...
20 Sep 11
Ive never needed to take time to find myself as such.. but there was a period about 2 years ago.. where I felt a little lost. I didn’t quite know who I was. I spent so much time around my friends and stuff that i didn’t know what I liked, and what I just liked because they did. Have you ever seen the runaway bride? With Julia Roberts, and everytime she meets a man and gets engaged, she never makes it down the aisle because she runs away? Well a guy goes to do an interview on her and he asks all her ex boyfriends what way she took her eggs, and they all said “this way, same as me.” .. she didn’t even know what type of eggs she liked, because she always just used to eat the eggs her boyfriend liked! She didn’t even know what way she liked her own! Well I was like that.. and I took some time to learn more about myself. But I didn’t like, go into hiding or anything lol.. I just tried more and broke away from some people slightly for awhile. Now everything is fantastic. AND you know what I realised? Me and my partner are actually virtually identical lol. It wasn’t just that I copied her. Which is nice :)
• United States
10 Nov 12
Wow that is something, I am glad that it took you there, to be happy and realize that you and your boyfriend are a match made together. LOL it is funny how you put that though.
@bnpraveen (172)
• India
20 Sep 11
hai friend every one struggles to find themselves what they are, and what are they going to be,friend i can say that it is not a easy job to find out that "what iam" but in market there are many books that which shows the path to find out what we are have a great day friend.
• United States
10 Nov 12
Thank you for responding. I know. There are many books that people read to improve their life and self. Have you ever heard of the book " act like a lady think like a man" written by Steve Harvey? That is a funny book and he also has a movie out to go with it, it's very funny.
@Dep1593 (73)
• Indonesia
20 Sep 11
I still trying to be my self, and didn't take other people decision but I got lesson also experience from what other else saying and doing, I learn every cause and effect from it... I think that's the way to be detachment person
• United States
26 Sep 11
Yeah I can understand exactly where you are coming from on that note. But do you ever wonder sometime, what was the action you caused to get the reactions that you get?
• India
8 Nov 12
every body is so sacred in today's life that its not a joke and when some elders know that they can allow us to be our self and they don't they are actually committing a sin, they are tampering our immune system with which you fight evil actually. its all control. the more people you control the more powerful you are. the answer comes after you have seen it all and understood how special you are, for people to try and throw you off, it just shows your achievement as a powerful human being who acknowledges truth. we some times give in there is no other way, there are many after one. many bullies against one nice person. but but but .... the whole story is yours in the last and you always knew it was yours.
@bachyyy (195)
• Bulgaria
30 Sep 11
Every person`s life is a jorney,and in this jorney we`re trying to find ourselves.We look for who we are,and every day we find more and more about us.I think that some people find themselves in the end of their life,but there`re people who can`t do this for their entire period of living.
@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 11
I am a person who is not easily affected by environment, people who do not want to, controlled by someone else. I do what I want to do. In fact, I often do not care about other people's advice. I do, what I thought was right. I do not want to, controlled by others, and be myself. And here I am.