How much will you really reveal?

@saphrina (31552)
South Africa
September 21, 2011 8:43am CST
Okay, first of all, not revealing as in stripping. With that out of the way. Now we all have problems, good and bad things happening to us, crappy governments, in laws, the scary ones and whatnot. Now, how much will you really reveal here? Will you lay out your lives tail? Will you share everything right down to the core or will you just touch the basics to give the mylotters an idea of what you really want to say? I normally just give everyone a basic idea of the problem, because for some reason i cannot reveal it all. Now start revealing, in a nice way, of course.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Hi, saphrina. How are you doing? I hope that you are doing just fine! I think that I have revealed just too much of information about me at myLot. Since I have came back, I have been really considering not revealing too much. I don't want to put too much of my personal business about my offline life out there. There are certain things that I want to keep hidden away from the general public's eye. My picture may be the only revealing thing that many members may see. Plus, any of of my past discussions. Right now, I can say that I am dealing with a major stress issue right now, but I will refrain from saying anything about it. Most of the times that I have discussed about this issue at myLot, I have gotten several nasty comments. My situation, is what it is, and many people will take someone else side, because they refuse to see what me and my family may be going through. So, now, I have just decided to keep some of my personal business to myself. If I have to share my concerns, I will make sure that I share it with someone that will not look down upon me as being negative, so to speak.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Yes, you are right, saphrina. I have been sharing information about me because I was so comfortable in doing so, but now I am not sure that it is such a good idea anymore. I have so many things that I would like to share with everyone at myLot, but I feel that some people won't be able to take what I have to say respectably. I notice that you don't discuss so many things about you at all. That is a very good thing. I guess I look at life in a globe. I see all of us being human and having personal issues and problems that we may face into life. I don't look down upon anyone that is having a difficult time, no matter how many times that they may have it. It is just those persons that are dictators and speculators that are looking for something to talk dirty about, that's all. No one is perfect but God Himself, and when others that are fortunate, than less fortunate, will begin to understand this, then it will be easier for others, less fortunate to share their personal issues without any delay.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
Hi sweetie. I'm fine thanx and you? Anyway, revealing something of yourself is not a bad thing, no matter what other people think. We are all human and have basically the same problems. Some have the guts to share all, but some, like me, will only share bits and pieces. Nothing wrong with it really. And those who don't like it, should move along then.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
If you want to share it sweetie, please do. If people cannot accept that we all row in the same boat, they are on the wrong side of the river. Anyway, share personal issues if that will help you cope with it.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
21 Sep 11
I don't like to strip tease... Especially near other men. Well, it is a different thing with women though. I don't know but i am more comfortable with women but a little shy too. And i expect them to be a little uncomfortable with stripping too. Trust me, everything was said in the right sense. .... lol
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
21 Sep 11
Oh Saphy you think too much. How about an ice cream ?
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
Voldi!!! Stripping in front of men? Now, this is one revealing part i never expected. Kidding. Anything else you want to share?
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
Nope, i'll rather stick to thinking. Share Voldi, pplleeaassee!!
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@primeaque86 (8105)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
Do you want me share my problem here on mylot my B? well, its about missing the woman I love
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
I will think about it again my B :) can I then?
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
That's not really a problem is it, Prime?
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
Well, as i miss you so much, you can have all the time you need to think about it, Prime.
@allknowing (130088)
• India
22 Sep 11
I have observed that Users will come to their own conclusion even if nothing is revealed. In the course of our participation here we talk a lot when something about us is revealed though not intentionally. Our Interests say a lot about us.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
22 Sep 11
Hmm yes, about that...... vodka.
@allknowing (130088)
• India
22 Sep 11
And what about your love for vodka!?. Ask any user here and they will surely say saphy cannot do without vodka!!
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Hi sweetie. Whether we reveal it intentionally or not, we are all here to help each other. Interests we have here, really do say a lot about us. Have fun.
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@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
21 Sep 11
Hello Saphrina, I usually "just touch the basics to give the mylotters an idea of what I really want to say". For instance, now I'll tell you only that my mother had a stroke. I don't need to tell you more, you can imagine what we've been through these days.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
I'm sorry to hear that sweetie. I have a very good idea though. Let me know if you need anything okay. Luck.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
23 Sep 11
Go do her grocery shopping sweetie. Buy all the heart foundation approved foods though. She doesn't really have much of a choice then.
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@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
22 Sep 11
I could use an idea how to convince my mother to stop eating unhealthy food, to lower her cholesterol.
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
As for me, I am a very private person. I always try not to talk about my private and personal details, especially with online forums. I just go about with the impersonal and technical details in general. So maybe, I can consider myself as only sharing the basics of my life and environment in here.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
Hi sweetie. It seems a lot of us won't get to personal when sharing. Good, as we don't really know people, but i do think mylot is different as we get to know people and they become friends with helpful tips and they are a lot of fun to be with.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
I agree sweetie. The amount of interaction here is actually better than what i have seen on other forums. Here, people seem more normal, if i can state it that way.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 11
Yes, I do believe that the level of comfort affects the amount of personal details one would opt to reveal to another. However, the rate of getting into the comfort zone differs for a variety of individuals. MyLot, being a discussion site, can really be personal or impersonal depending on the topics created. The amount of interaction and participation to boost up the level of comfort will really depend on the type of discussion, personality or interest of the user.
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• United States
22 Sep 11
I won't say I'm an open book but I Will say that MyLotters do know more about my views than my family and offline friends.And yet I haven't revealed to much about my guy.He gave me the ok to what boast? Just as long as I call him My guy. I only reveal a story or two that helps me answer or write a post.
• United States
22 Sep 11
Thanks! Names are not necessary. anyone who reads my posts Knows that I love , love my guy. I gush like Old faithful, lol!
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Hi sweetie. We do have an idea about your views. No need to reveal names if you don't want to, we get the idea about your boyfriend. I like your style.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Sorry, my bad. Good that you feel about him that way sweetie. Apart from the gushing though.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Sep 11
hi saphrina oh lol I am so glad you did not mean reveal as in body as I have m uch there I do not reveal to anyone save my poor roomie who cannot help but see I am a large woman. She was teasing me one day as I cane out of the bathroom in my shortie night gown and my gown was stuck up on my butt instead of down where it was supposed to be. she said as she pu lled it down, You got too much butt. I almost choked laughing as I knew that anyway.I dont know when I started talking about myself here with my diabetes I guess I pretty much revealed a lot about my self. I am sort of like that which my son tells me mom dont tell anything you do not want all spread over the net. so that made me think a bit. I s uppose I do keep some things to myself.one here who really dislikes me called me a woman of mystery only because i Have no photos on my profile page. My explanation that I did not have pictures as I did not have a digital camera. I did not have the money . she did not believe me which is her damned luck. I now dislike this lady very much.she kept insinuating she was going to get my discussion deleted and she did bu t not because of her report but because sh flamed me and I got mad and flamed back. lol So she did not get far either. I am elderly 85 on my birthday Nov .15 and am a widow with an adult son, live here in this tiresome retirement center and love to wrote although I have never had anything published but two Haikui poems. for which i just got a copy of the poetry magazine.anyone who wants to see m y picture its in my account of facebook. I am the white haired lady with Lori, our dumbblondedizzy.
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
ohhh Hatley Yes i have seen that pic and it is nice to see someone's picture especially those ones you interact with often. Its like its REAL. REAL Real friends. And i also do not mind if you say more about yourself it is nice to know more about people.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Hi Hatley sweetie. I haven't laughed this much in a damn like time. With that short nighty of yours. Anyway, i think it's a good thing to share your diabetic problems here as we have some mylotters with either the same problem or those who can be helpful regarding it. As for that lady, wish she will go away or something. Don't let others spoil your fun sweetie. They are rally not worth the effort to even get your knickers in a knot. Now smile, i will go and get the vodka, you get your bikini.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
21 Sep 11
Basically I just let it all out. sometimes I regret that I don't even have a not-so-sinful past. Just saying hi. That is all I can do at present. am up to my you know what with work and other things.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Not so sinful you say sweetie? I will make your hair stand on end, if i have to share my moments. Letting it all out, can be good for you. No one should keep it to themselves. It's unhealthy. Want a special muffin?
@piya84 (2581)
• India
21 Sep 11
I am ready to watch whatever you reveal honey.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
22 Sep 11
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
I will have to get someone to play the lead role first sweetie.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
dear saphy, I will start drinking vodka soon as you arrive here
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
22 Sep 11
I wonder what is it that vodka has that we men don't..?
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Do you really want to know my Voldi?
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Yes, about that one. Enjoy the vodka anyway, sweetie.
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• United States
21 Sep 11
I try to be as descriptive as I need to be to get my point across without revealing too much. Of course, that does not always work, and there have been times when I have unwittingly revealed too much. I think I am more open and honest while trying not to be too transparent.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
Sorry PA, but the day you shared that jumping sessions with us, we now know EVERYTHING about you.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
21 Sep 11
I don't remember the "jumping sessions". Can you tell more about it saphrina?
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• United States
21 Sep 11
Saphy - Top - No she cannot ... you will just have to find out for yourself what they are all about.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
21 Sep 11
I share some experience and anecdotes about myself, but I will certainly not share all my life here -- I am not sure my life would interest many people --, even with a bottle of your best vodka.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
And if i dare you and give you some vodka sweetie?
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
I swear i give up.
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@topffer (42156)
• France
21 Sep 11
Do you think stine needs vodka to speak about her?
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
hi dear, Well I share almost everything but still I have limitations I can only make it all the way if vodka is around
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
I'm going to pump you full of vodka sweetie. Imagine what will be revealed then.
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
hahaha! with vodka damn I think I can reveal everything and anything But it will be fun if jai will get drunk first
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
Poor Jai. I think she will be whipping the 2 of us one day.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
24 Sep 11
I don't reveal all....just the basic details. I'm that way in real life too. Besides a few close friends/family, I don't reveal everything to everyone. I know I don't come across that way and people think I am a very open person....but I'm not really...unless it is talking about my opinion.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
24 Sep 11
Hi sweetie. Basic details will do. We cannot reveal what we don't want to or feel comfortable with. As long as you are happy with it, it's fine. Nice day.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
25 Sep 11
You only share with what you are comfortable sweetie. Nobody can make you share if you don't want to.
• United States
24 Sep 11
I feel like it's not everyone's business about the details of my life.. in my real life and my online life. There are only a few people who actually know me through and through.
• Australia
22 Sep 11
Some of us reveal ourselves in everything we write here: for instance, I am cranky, idealistic, sardonic, compassionate, liberal, Green, a kinkster, completely open if the subject requires it, politically, socially, and sexually radical, a dismal failure at relationship, educated, intelligent, and thinking, and not afriad to say so, ...... Was there anything else you wanted to know? Lash
• Australia
23 Sep 11
When I was 20, and still doing the "society" thing, I arrived at a ball a couple of hours later the rest of my group. I had been rehearsing with the National Youth for an upcoming concert, and since I was the featured artist doing the Hadyn 4th Horn concerto, I couldn't get away early lol. I sat with a mate and tried to catch up by drinking gin - we gpt through three half bottles, and by the time we left I was falling down drunk and crying at the drop of a hat. I ended up getting arrested for "urinating on the concourse at Wynyard station - it was 2 a.m. and nobody there except the railway detectives, but they booked me anyway. I went to court a month later on a Monday morning, the day they fined all the working girls arrested over the weekend, and when the charge was read out they all fell about laughing. I've never been so embarrassed in my life. I got a fine and a bond, but the girls were the worst part of the sentence lol. I have never touched gin since. Lash
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Hell, that is one hell of a list sweetie. uumm, do you by any chnace drink vodka?
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
No vodka. I just want to hear about that gin though.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
21 Sep 11
Hi dear saphrina, revealing problems make us to calm down ourselves for a while and sharing with friends gives somewhat relaxed though problems will not solve, revealing problems to others may get solutions but some can't be rectified, past is always past, i am the one learn from the problems and the past. Many problems we will be facing as a woman household problems, education problems, children problems, adjustments with the family members etc., what not, but i will leave everything to god, because i will get peace with him, sure he will show the solution too. Have a great day sap, god bless you
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
Hi sweetie. Good to see you again. It is calming to share your problems, but i cannot share to much. Maybe one day. Wish i had your faith though.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
21 Sep 11
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
21 Sep 11
yes, thank you
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
22 Sep 11
I normally come up with a real reasoning and upto the mark to the topic. It may be a vague or not precise to the topic. Means without revealing the real fact, we can disclose the matters what we are intended to tell. The topic get discussed and at the same time the real fact won't come up also. Also, it is not necessary to tell everything upfront to express our views. Sometime a partial reveal also shows a feedback to the entire topic. Thank-s
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
A polished manner sounds interesting sweetie.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
Hi sweetie. The topic normally says it all. But giving a hint or 2 to the real problem is sometimes hidden in a discussion. Vague is normally a challenge to me here. Have fun.
• India
22 Sep 11
Hei, Certain instances we may be unable to reveal everything and most likely all are based on the real facts only, but for a change and refreshment we have to present the same thing in a different manner. The way we interpret the true things in a polished manner would always get appreciation, instead of disclosing the matters as it is. Thank-s
• United States
22 Sep 11
Me personally I think I am exactly the same way, I don't like to reveal my personal things or life to anyone, I prefer to keep to myself. It's not just on mylot is just the way I am. The only people I really talk to is my husband and my mother and sometimes I avoid saying things to my mom so that she doesn't have to worry about it. I normally don't express my personal problems or reveal anything person, my discussion are normally broad and I tend to talk about things that are common and that most people could relate to. Trust me is nothing again mylot, because I actually enjoy mylot it is one of my favorite sites, but it's just the way I am.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
23 Sep 11
Hi sweetie. There is nothing wrong keeping things to yourself. But just once i a while try to trust someone enough so you can get rid of some of it though. It's always good to share some of your problems, freas or whatever to someone else. We cannot always carry everything alone. Have fun.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
25 Sep 11
Good sweetie, share with your husband as he understand you. Don't keep it in, okay.
• United States
23 Sep 11
I know what you mean, that's why I at least open up to my husband, I share everything with him, but I have so much trouble trying to share my personal problem and you are right once in a while it gets fraustrating becausee I tend to keep everything held in until I explode, but luckily that doesn't happen often.
@Jlyn10 (11966)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 11
Hi saph You'll have to get me drunk first before I can reveal everything to you.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
22 Sep 11
I will not give you some of my vodka. Do you have any idea how i had to beg Prime for it?
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
23 Sep 11
He better have sweetie.
@Jlyn10 (11966)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 11
Then I won't be able to reveal much to you. I'm sure Prime has a lot of bottles stashed somewhere.