Why does my family always spill all the responsibility of parents to me?

Indonesia
September 21, 2011 11:34pm CST
I am the youngest of three brothers, all of us are married and have children, I still do not have children, during this life our parents is my bear. this time my father was seriously ill, but none of my second brother who wants to help him, all hospital costs is me who always carry about. I am very disappointed and hurt, while my first brother who receive and control the land and the house of my parents.
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• Indonesia
22 Sep 11
Do not be disappointed, instead you should be happy, because it had time to devote to your parents. Property problems, not worry about it, now you just sow a favor, do not think the two brothers. All you have to pay attention, lest you seek beyond the financial ability of your family (household). There's no point in also, if you sacrifice for your parents, but you can not take responsibility for your partner, it is not wise.
@gengeni (3308)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 11
Hi I salute But do not ever complain, especially for elderly loved ones. is a good boy if you care for and care for the elderly when they are old. assure good seed will bear fruit as well, it was legal. While we can never give up. do not see good examples, such as relatives who do not care. God sees what we do, and that it has become our duty. we are arrogant and do not forget, "
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
22 Sep 11
You are being very responsible towards your parents and helping out your ill Father is very good. It is not fair that your older brother have nto helped pay the costs or care for your father. Have you spoken to your brothers about this? What do your parents think about only you doing everyhting and paying for the hospital? I knw it is different in other cultures, but maybe it is time to challenge afew unfair practises that occur. You can not be expected to carry all responsiblity for your parents if you have two brothers.
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 11
Hi, why is your brother all bestowed upon you? Because you never say''NO''to them. in relation to the prevailing communication''anyone who never says anything deemed to accept the argument'' in your case I advise you try to give power to dialogue with your brother. - Do not see who's who and who spend money taking care of parents who - Do not see that the land now occupied by one person - Do not see just because your son and you are not entitled to the word''vote''in the family but see that the parents who take care of you and maintain parturient you until you mature and settle down great reward for a child, if he could take care of the elderly. and it would be wise parent who has care of you, now you guys who take care of it behind. if your sister just to see their parents as intermediaries children were born, so their assumption was wrong. I think how you as a brother and sister perform communication clincher. if you as siblings''never greeted her, never talks about how the affairs of the elderly sick, so naturally you will be disconnected in this case. because each of them trying to get rid of responsibility'' you must be strong in faith, so that you take care of parents' intentions are not defeated by the pain and disappointment. My advice remains a''talk about this with your sister so you can hear their reasons why they leave you alone''