Do you think being good is best?

@Jenith (1382)
Philippines
September 22, 2011 7:07am CST
When I was young I was so obedient like you know when my parents said do this and do that; don't do this and don't do that, I always followed what they said. When I'm at school I always follow what my teachers said. All those teachings from my parents and teachers help me a lot for being who I am now. When I saw/heard someone doing bad stuff I criticized them 'cause I know that as a human being they knew that it's bad but still have guts in doing it and they are not afraid to GOD. I realize that I was so perfectionist then. Then eventually I started to understand that bad guys have done bad things for some reason. But there are things also that you need to do even if it's against your will just to teach someone a lesson like what happen a while ago, my freak neighbor hanged his wet clothes in our gate. What a heck! My blood pressure went high. I really wanted to take those clothes and put on the garbage bin but for neighbor's sake and I don't want to cause conflict even if they are not treating me well for what they did, I just put it on the side. If this happen to you guys what you gonna do?
12 responses
@SIMPLYD (80299)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I must congratulate you for being a good child and a good citizen now. Had you not followed what your parents taught you, you could have gone out of the gate and thrown to your neigbor's yard his wet clothes. But still, you manage to keep your cool and instead simply put it on the sides. But if i were you, i would have gone to the neighbor and given him his wet clothes, telling him that your gate is not a clothesline. Though, i would do it in a nice manner.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
It's so hard dealing with uneducated people I guess, one time I remove their wet clothes and put it in their clothesline. I think if you are a normal person you won't do the same thing again. In fact, I already told them once not to put their clothes on our gate but still.... For me, I already did all the nice way telling them not to and don't know what to do if they will do the same thing again in the upcoming days.
@SIMPLYD (80299)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Maybe it's high time that it should be settled in front of the barangay captain.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Too harsh I guess. haha P.S. wish I could add smileys
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I'll go and talk to the neighbor and tell him to find a better place to hang their clothes. If it won't work and they continue that crap, their clothes to the incinerator. I can do whatever I want with it because it is in my gate.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
That's what exactly what I'm thinking but I don't want to offend them for a reason that I don't wanna see them everyday frowning at me. :(
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
But if you tolerate them, it is not good too. Give it a try talking them into it first.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
I know tolerating them is not good. I already talk to them but nothing happens. Do you think some people are born this way?
• China
23 Sep 11
I'd like to say not only at ur age, but when u grow up, entering into society, when u get a job u will strongly feel that being good sometimes is not a good thing. For instance, I'm in my 26 now and got a job in a state-owned company, here if u work well u will have more resposibility to di various kinds of work. Because majority of them are sitting there and doing nothing, only U r a resposible person, so the leader of ur team will give u all that work, u may ask why? Because others cannot be instructed and they r not responsible for anything. And that's the situation I face now. After changing job from a private company, I had a habit to do thing right and be responsible for what my part is, and then I bacame the busiest person in my department and earned the least. I know that's unfiar but how can I do? We r told to be good when we were young and we r used to it, by facing this situation u cannot pretend to be not responsible because u r. Therefore, don't lose urself at any time, I know it is hard but we both have to!
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I can relate your feeling, I was once work in the government and you are right life was so unfair working in the government. Everybody will command you to do this and do that. IN short, everybody is a boss.
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
maybe its depend how to be good you are.. you being kindness have a limit. because you know what is wrong and what is right.Sometime our neighbor have a luck of think.. you can talk them in them right terms. don`t tolerate in that attitude.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Honestly, I really don't know what to do with them, they are insensitive. I already did telling them not to but still they do the same thing over and over again. There was this instance that I do a general cleaning and put all the garbage in the box and placed this box near the gate to throw it later. When I returned after a few minutes the garbage was scattered everywhere and the box was gone. I'm really upset. Only to find out later that this same neighbor was the one who took the box. Grrrrr!
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
22 Sep 11
As i always prefer non violence in everything. I always obeys my parents all the time. I dont want to create a problem everywhere. Even i go compromise with other peoples i see in the life.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
What if people are taking advantage on you, what you gonna do?
@00fear (3203)
• United States
22 Sep 11
If it were me I think I would tell the neighbors nicely to move it because 'i'll them a good excuse why they can't put it there' and maybe they'll stop. I was told once by my aunts that if I hold on my nervousness and anger inside, it is not good for us. I will then really explode. I've done that before, where I am trying to be too nice that people try to take advantage of me like when my friends wanted to eat my chips and drinks I bought and they ate because I said it was okay. Later on they were telling me they wanted to use my laptop while they knew I was using it and I let them use it anyways. My parents had bought us pizza that night they came over and we had planned since they were (for example) 9 pieces of pizza, 3 of us, so each of us gets 3. One of friends ate his pizza but was still hungry and he got mines. I didn't say anything but I knew I was being rude to everyone, even to my friends. When people joked around to me like any other time, I took those jokes as a threat or an insult (or anything sounding that they were making fun of me). So I was rude to those people. That was because I was mad.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I already did that once and my hubby told them twice in a nice way as we can even if deep inside I want to tell them to maximize their space and not to disturb us ever again. I guess they don't understand or I may say I don't know if they are humans and it's useless to be pissed off 'cause they don't care.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
22 Sep 11
I am assuming your parent is concened about your safety and well being by demanding you to be obedient with their advice rather than order at time you are young, where you probably also is navice and childish at that stage of age. You are not being good by obeying them , but rather choose to be guided by the wisdom of your parent long gain experiences in life in your daily living as a teen. It is probably a good thing for you as not many teens have parent that really care about raising a responsible teen into his/her adulthood in our society today.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Right I'm still lucky for having such a good parents. I appreciate your view. But you know what I'm still this emptiness inside, ever since I was a kid I always long for a tender loving care from my mom.
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Being good is not the best. It just means that you are afraid of them that's why you followed them The best thing is obedience not triggered by fear. We might say that we are good but the fact is, we are all sinners. We can pretend to be good but inside our hearts their were lot of complaints within us that somehow leads to grudges. You don't need to pretend to be good just to please other people around you, it is always better to do things out of love and out of your passion. In other way around, about the freak neighbor you have shared to us, you did a great job by not putting it to a garbage bin or else it would make war. Well, somehow we need to understand that we can never please everyone. It might hard to accept that fact but it is very true. If that happen to me, I would just do what you did. I don't want foe, or any misunderstanding between me and my neighbor. I am very friendly and really don't want if somebody hates me.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Good point bessy. Grudges are not good and as a human being sometime we feel that kind of thing so better show who we are, exert our rights if it's needed and be strong to take the consequences. On the contrary, as I grow matured I need to weigh things over before making any action. But you know what I have this feeling that every time I gave way to someone by keeping myself silent instead of saying whatever I want, i felt that I'm so dumb creature.
• India
22 Sep 11
Being good is not necessarily a sign of best or perfect type of personality. To be a best known human you should develop good qualities in all the life corners, such as a member of society, father in the family, employee in an organization and the friend of others.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
What if your friend abuses you for being good? Is there anyway where you can exert your rights?
@waflay (2726)
• Nairobi, Kenya
22 Sep 11
Being known to be a good person is not a sin to God but you will definitely be a target to bad people who want to add a dirt in your reputation. Avoid any confrontation with those who want to test your anger, just ignore them.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Ignoring them hurts me deeply. Seems like I'm not exerting my rights being human.
@mensab (4207)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
yes, i like to believe it is best. being good in such a way that one knows what s/he is doing is best. i admire you for saying that you were an obedient kid. i think you have reaped the fruits of being one. we aspire for perfection in the thing we do. however, there are always people who are not at par with us or way ahead of us. when i encounter this, i exercise patience, much of it.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
All I know I was obedient but if you gonna ask my mom I'm not sure if she will answer the same. ;) At my early 30s I started to exercise the virtue of patience. I was so harsh on things before. But for now, I doubt for patient. Is it really a virtue or am I making myself dumb? Currently, even how upset I am, I need to be relax, be patient, keep silent instead of talking/explaining to avoid trouble, Am I still on the right path?
• India
22 Sep 11
Every parents put restriction to their child on every thing. And when we are big we come to known what our parent use to tell us and why they use to stop us and even they teaches us to be good to all of person and same i think sometimes i am good or the best to handle the situation sometime only
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Maybe its good but then I still have this thought that since I am taking this neighbor of mine for granted even if he's not doing good to me just to maintain the relationship, somehow he is abusing my rights. :(