What do you wish your significant other to stop doing?

United States
September 22, 2011 9:29am CST
We all have our gripes about a habit or whatever little quirks we wish they'd quit. I think for me it would be the not putting up the toilet seat. Tired of wiping it down several times a day. And of course smoking cig's that we can't afford anymore since taxes & such have made them go up 300% in price in the last several years. And of course spending a small fortune at the cafeteria for lunch every week when I've been at my job 3yrs and have not put a single cent in the vending machine. I bring something with me usually if I'm scheduled long enough for a lunch break.
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11 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
22 Sep 11
I want him to shave daily, put down the toilet seat too, quit making stupid jokes and say each time he is just a simple man and he has no money so... Since we don't live together it's not such a big deal yet but I would not live together with him if he would keep on doing this.
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• United States
25 Sep 11
Mine grows a beard because razors are quite expensive but he does trim it up so it looks decent. I see I'm not alone with the toilet seat problem.
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• United States
2 Oct 11
I think they'd understand if they had to sit on it and end up with a wet tush (if you forget to look or depending on urgency). ICK!
@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
26 Sep 11
I think the toilet seat complaint is almost universal.
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@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
I'm in a long distance relationship and how I wish he would stop asking silly questions which really annoys me and causes us not to be talking in a few days. He keeps on interfering with my work and my time of going home. If I tell him to stop meddling with my work, he will say he is not meddling. That's the worse because he doesn't admit what he is doing. He always ask every single detail which i consider irrelevant. During annual vacation that we would see each other, he will use my laptop and my cellphone,and he will check all the content therein and he will question why is this photo or file still being kept in my gadget. OMG! I never did that to him, I respected his privacy and he won't give me any privacy, I never interfered in his work as well as his schedules. When I just recently joined mylot, I invited him to join so he could have something worthwhile to do, he did join but only snooping and reading my participation and afterwards he will question me on the things I am writing here, same thing with FB and articles I am writing for Triond, I can not express my real self anymore.
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@telmesh (1793)
22 Sep 11
I am sorry but if you class his interest interfering in you life and you do not feel free to express yourself, then you know whats coming, he's not the one for you. It really does not matter how long you have known each other either, it's time to split because you can't change each other.
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@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
You're right, we can not change each other, either we take it or we leave it....and just by simply talking on the phone, we have disagreements and not pleasant discussions.....I don't know where this would end up :(
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
You know what ilovechocolate? I think this is a typical Filipino men attitude, I am not saying that "all Filipino men", but a typical one. He always calls me on the phone as well, overseas call, but sometimes I am busy at work and due to this phone conversation, I get annoyed that results to disagreements. Right now due to the remoteness of their location (oil drilling sites), he can not get access to the internet, if so, i will get tied in IM's and would result again to not good conversations. I feel the way you feel, :(
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@teenal (1400)
• Dublin, Ireland
2 Oct 11
Just about everything. Spilling everything everywhere, eating at the computer and leaving food everywhere, twisting & turning in the bed and pulling the covers off, not aiming right and never cleaning it up after, sulking, flicking the remote all the time, splashing water everywhere in the kitchen and bathroom, never sitting still for more than ten minutes,being false on the phone I could go on and on and on...
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• United States
2 Oct 11
Sadly too much of that sounds like my hubby! I will say though to solve the covers problem we each have our own comforter. I woudn't say mine can't sit still but with his current shift he's asleep a good 10hrs straight or better on his day off. I wish I had that luxury, not that my back could handle it.
@katsmeow1213 (28719)
• United States
23 Sep 11
Oh, that might be a long list, LOL. I wish he'd stop being so negative all the time and jumping to conclusions. His boss was fired on Wednesday, and he got a new guy who was recently hired on from another company. I don't think he's even met this guy yet, but he already knew he didn't like him and wasn't willing to give him a chance. Yesterday was his first day working with the guy, and he's not giving him a chance at all. He figures this is going to end one of 3 ways.. he's either going to get the new guy fired, he's going to transfer himself to a different store, or he's going to quit. He's not considering the 4th option.. to give the guy a chance and perhaps he might end up liking him! I wish he wouldn't be so lazy all the time. We've got 5 kids, can you imagine the mess in my house? I'm only 1 person, and I'm doing school and work while raising these kids. I try to tell him I could use some help sometimes, especially since I'm already so worn out between school and work. But he comes home and plops on the sofa and doesn't get up again until bedtime. The only time he has ever folded laundry was a couple days ago when I hurt my arm and could hardly move it. He does dishes on his day off because that's the day he cooks dinner and I normally won't do the dishes so then he has to before he can cook dinner. Other than that it's rare that he ever does anything else around the house.. and when he decides to clean house it's more or less him delegating more chores to the kids. He will wash dishes and have the kids sweep and mop and wipe down counters etc. I wish he'd stop thinking that I'm like him. He has known me for like 12 years.. you'd think he'd have a better understanding of what I like and what I don't like. When it comes to TV shows etc, he has a good idea, but when it comes to how to treat me, he's clueless. As I said, the other day I hurt my arm.. I fell and was really upset. I also hit my head but not really bad. I called him after I fell and he was concerned and asked if he should come home so I could go to the hospital. It would have been nice if he did come home because I was really shaken from the fall.. but I didn't want to go to the hospital.. so he didn't come home. When he did get home he was not at all sympathetic about what I'd been through. I was still really shaken from my fall.. and I know I was a bit loopy (I went to ask my son to put dishes away for me, but what I said was "Come put this laundry away".. so my son looks at me weird, and I realized I said it wrong, so then I said "I mean groceries"). So all night I'm getting more and more upset that my husband isn't being sympathetic.. but in his mind he was. He asked if there was anything I needed, if he could do anything for me, etc. etc. While that would probably be enough for anyone else, I'm more of an emotional person. I want some emotion and some caring.. and he's basically incapable of doing that. So around bedtime I mentioned it and he said "Well if I were hurt that's all I'd want".. and again I had to tell him.. "Yeah, but I'm not you".. and you'd think he'd know that by now.
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• United States
25 Sep 11
With having a family to support I do think option number 4 of just trying to get along with the guy would be the best route in things. Like ya said who know's they could become best buds for all you know. Mine only does that stuff if company is coming or I BEG and PLEAD for help! It's hard for me to want to do stuff when he doesn't do much on his days off beyond watch tv/movies or mow the lawn. And the kids make stuff difficult because you do one thing and it's back to square one as they just trashed what you did. Like my livingroom floor was 3/4's of the way picked up now it's 3/4's of the way trashed with stuff and he can't phantom why I'm cranky by dinner. Oh and the where were you when they did this? Like yesterday my middle and lil guy started hitting each other while I was working with my eldest on the wash in the basement. I got a whole speel about it. Yet when I got home last week from work I found two holes the size of quarters cut in the girls bed sheet... WHERE WAS HE?
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• United States
2 Oct 11
Men never can focus on more than one thing at hand it seems. But we can't get stressed out because we do have this ability and feel like we can never be everywhere at once to handle every situation and still remember what we were doing before we were disturbed.
• United States
25 Sep 11
I know exactly how you feel. I'm completely surrounded by a mess right now.. the sink is completely full of dishes, none of the kids' chores are done, I'm getting ready to leave for work in like 10 mins.. and what's he doing? Watching TV! GRR! Thankfully whenever something bad happens he never blames it on me. The kids destroy things all the time, write on the walls, hit each other, swear at each other.. but he never asks why I didn't catch it or see it or whatever. Of course everynight when I get home and find that someone got into my room, or there's toothpaste all over the bathroom I do ask why he wasn't watching them. Women are different.. we do seem to know where the kids are at all times and what they're doing. I can be sitting here typing away, completely focused on what I'm typing, but I can still hear if a child is playing in the bathroom on the other side of the house. While as he can be sitting there watching TV while a kid is talking directly to him and he wouldn't notice.
@missybear (11391)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I must say that my honey is pretty good about not doing things to the extend of over doing it. I wish he quit smoking just because they are so damn expensive but I can't really complain to much since I smoked for 20 plus years { I quit over 3 years ago}. I wish he quit eating and get more exercise since he's not working and sitting on the computer all day stuffing his face....
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@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
i hate cussing and he cuss a lot. it's the upbringing, cussing is 5 a cent in their family. it was as natural as a common expression. good thing i was able to control my children from uttering these not so nice words. i dont know if i am away but i do not hear them say the words when i am around.
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• United States
25 Sep 11
Yeah it's hard when you were raised using those words to express ones self. Perhaps he knows to refrain from when the kids are around. Or like my eldest knows those are adult words not to be uttered by a child.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
22 Sep 11
while my hubby is not perfect and i am sure he would tell you things that i do that bug him, the only thing that really bugs me is that he says yes to everyone and is much too nice (and he is a momma's boy too!)
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• United States
25 Sep 11
Ah a yes man huh? Sounds like that can get in the way of things I imagine. I know my hubby used to run and do stuff for his parents when ever they called we were expected to jump. Thankfully we moved 30 min away and because my hubby can't get over there to when they need something done they hire someone to do their yard work and plumbing ect. Though in a way that sux cause we could use the extra cash and they'd rather pay someone else.
• United States
22 Sep 11
oh boy.. stop leaving tools and "finds" all over the house stop dumping trash by the side of the bed,we HAVE a garbage can stop letting his neanderthal friends come over as i'm cooking dinner either help or quit telling me how "he would have fixed something" i better stop now LOL..
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• United States
25 Sep 11
Keep going that way I truly don't feel alone in some of these "quirks". Yeah my hubby does that too instead of clearing off the bed and putting stuff away he shoves everything between the wall and the bed. Yet another reason I'd rather bunk w/ my middle in her full bed. I wish the rule of no food in the bedroom would apply to him, it's not so much plates but wrappers. It's plain gross! Sounds like my Aunt's jerk of a hubby. Asks what I'm making for dinner then rips on her because she won't cook a meal like I do. But yet she says when she tries he criticizes every aspect of it, how it should be made ect but yet those words come from someone who can't really cook.
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• United States
23 Sep 11
I don't really have much that I wished he stop doing, but one thing for sure is that he I wished he would be able to relax a bit more. He does a great deal to keep us afloat as I am not working and the poor guy is always drumming ways to keep us standing. Outside of this I really can't complain but am sure he can complain about one or two things about me. lol
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• United States
25 Sep 11
Nothing wrong with him needing to chill out and take the time to smell the roses.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
26 Sep 11
There are a couple of things my husband does that drive me nuts. We have a small kitchen, and it's not big enough for two at once. When I work in the kitchen preparing meals, doing dishes, etc., I usually have my tasks timed to the minute, or even seconds. Then, right when I'm trying to complete a task sequence to get things on the table in ten minutes, he decides he needs to cut up an apple on the counter or peel an orange, or do something else that puts him right in my path so that I can't get to the sink or the frig, or a cupboard or the counter when I need to, and it throws the timing off or lunch gets cold because he's got to come have a snack right before it's served. I don't see why he can't wait for a meal that's almost done. Another thing is that I can't get him to use the right knives for the right jobs. I have a serrated knife I use for cutting up vegetables, and another I use for delicate fruits like tomatoes and citrus. I have a bread knife and a meat knife and several small paring knives that are just right for cutting apples into quarters or peeling oranges. Hubby sees no difference in knives -- a knife is a knife is a knife. Never mind if he uses the delicate serratedvegetable knife to cut cheese or slice apples when we have a cheese slicer and four paring knives. They are in the drawer and he might have to open it. The one he picked up was probably in the dish drainer, nice and handy. But he won't rinse it off and put it back there. No. He will leave it there for the apple or whatever to dry on it, and when I come in and need to use it again, it's no longer clean and it's harder to get clean to use for what I want. The other thing is that he has a certain way he likes to flirt that I hate. I've told him over and over for 48 years that I don't like it and it turns me off when he does it, so why does he keep doing it? Does he want to turn me off? Or does he just get his jollies from being obnoxious occasionally. I love him dearly, and I know he loves me, but I just can't understand why he does this last thing. If I know something really annoys him, I try not to do it.
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• United States
2 Oct 11
I have a small eat-in kitchen and I know your pain on that. Though usually it's a kid that decides they need to play on the kitchen floor or whatever as I'm walking preparing a meal. I can also relate to the flirting as well. Mine tries too hard and it seems more pushy than what he know's will get my attention.
• United States
22 Sep 11
My husband dips. I hate it so much.
• United States
25 Sep 11
Dips as in being snoopy?