failure can really cause depression....

Philippines
September 22, 2011 9:19pm CST
i'm 24 years old and i graduated as bachelor of science in nursing....i took the board examinations almost three times but unfortunately i failed also three times!!!my parents and all people around me was so disappointing, they have a high expectations to me and i don't come up with it!!!i feel so helpless and frustrated to myself...i'm afraid to take up again the exam because i'm afraid to be a looser again and again...
10 responses
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Depression can kill you if you let it kill yourself...do not think the frustrations around you.. make them as inspiration to keep you going.. think positive always..if you let it stuck around you.. you will definitely get drown.. don't be afraid to take the exam again...just do your best.. i guess your not the only one who is experiencing that way..there are some who actually take the exam five to six times and did not pass.. you can do it.. believe in yourself.. be confident..! gudluck!
23 Sep 11
Oh, I can not add comment so, I will reply here. I agree with Jez, you are not the only one who experienced it. Aside from that, I know someone who took a nursing board exam 7 times. He's a guy. He took it lightly and just laughed about it. At this time, you will know who you're REAL friends are. Oh, do you know where this man is? I'm talking about now?? He's in Paris working as a caregiver to a 6 year old boy. A suggestion, why don't you worked as volunteer? Some of the hospital will give a chance to fresh graduates before they passed. Good thing is, you are working, while thinking of taking another exam. How's that?
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
absolutely right! you can think of other solutions or maybe other things that you'd like to do to make yourself and your family proud of you..everything happens for a reason..and we are all facing our own problems and trials in our lives so it's up to you on how to cope up with it..! don't let this thing put you down.. prove yourself on what you can do!
@venkit (2957)
• India
24 Sep 11
surely failure cause depression. I am also same as you. and me too face the depression very much. its a very bad situation in life. I don't know how to overcome it, only time will tell.
• Malaysia
23 Sep 11
Oh dear. I know a few people who are studying medicine and they got really depressed when they couldn't make it through some of the exams. Some of them refused to communicate in any way to their friends for about a week or more. Maybe you could discuss with any of your friends who passed the exams? Find out where it is that you might have gone wrong?
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
Maybe to become a nurse is not really for you. I advice you to take another career path instead. You can do it!
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
I have a friend who also finished nursing and also didn't pass the board exam but he didn't lose hope. He just found another job. I think and believe that there are many jobs nowadays accepting nurses who didn't pass the board.
@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
23 Sep 11
Even if people around you are disappointed with you, you must not lose confidence in yourself. Sometimes, failures are a way to test our resolve. Don't let what people think of you and your failures affect the way you see yourself. I believe that all of us hv our own worth - even people who are completely paralysed or disabled in some other ways - and so pls don't let the failures affect you. Pick yourself up and move forward. Is nursing your passion? Or did your family decide the course of study for you? If nursing is your passion and you are certain that you want to be a nurse, then pls go for another board exam. However, if it's not sth that you are passionate abt, then you shld not even pursue it as a career. Try explaining it to your family and seek their understanding. You wouldn't want to come to the realisation that it's a wrong career choice for you only when you are in your 30s or beyond, right? Pls stay positve and don't let those failures and your family's disappointment cause you to sink into depression. Don't forget that whatever your career choice is, you are a woman of worth.:) Take care and gd luck to you!:)
@Verity (851)
23 Sep 11
Hi, keep on going! Don't give up. How will you succeed if you will stop from pursuing. Pursue your dreams and free yourself from depression. Don't let depression manipulates you. Good luck and God bless....
23 Sep 11
You shouldn't give up if you really want to pass. Study harder and do reviews. I know you can do it since you seem to be so determined in passing. :)
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
disappointing your parents and friends is really frustrating, and the pressure would cause depression. when you fall, you have to get up, so that others behind you wont fall too or step on you. so, better keep up the spirits high, think positive, study more and have confidence in yourself, better to try and try and try as when you succeed, it is the most thrilling feeling ever.
@mensab (4205)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
it is true that failure can cause depression. and it is a bad sign. that means one is taking failure seriously because it affects his/her future life, self-esteem, and relationships with others. failing an examination for a number of times is truly a depressing situation. however, many successful people have shown time and again that bouncing back from failures was the best thing that they had done. in fact, they took their failures as their motivating force to become successful and great.