How Facebook helped me locate a friend.

@dpk262006 (56104)
Delhi, India
September 23, 2011 1:34am CST
Hi all! This is the real incident and I think those who use Facebook frequently or regularly will enjoy reading it more than those, who do not use Facebook. I had a friend who was my class fellow and we used to be very close friends till our school yars. When we entered college, we got ourselves admitted in different courses due to various reasons and later we entered into different jobs. He changed his residence and I ultimately came to know that due to nature of his job, he got transferred to a foreign country. I am in India and he shifted to Cambodia. We had no connection for the past many years. I had no idea, where his parents shifted. I tried to locate him through social networking sites and Facebook many times but could not succeed. However, two days ago, I tried to search him through his wife’s name. To my pleasant surprise, her wife has a Facebook profile and I could recognize her picture, even after so many years. I sent a request to her for adding me and asked her to give profile address of his hubby i.e. my old friend. But there was no response. Then I started checking his relatives, on her list, one by one and I could locate my friend’s picture in one of the profile. I clicked on it and found his profile. I immediately sent him a request and after few hours, he confirmed it and we were on line on Facebook and were talking to each other about the years gone by. We exchanged our email IDs. I asked him about the location and whereabouts of one more friends, who stays in our city only. He mailed me his mobile number. I rang up my local friend and could talk to him after many many years and told him that I found your number from the friend living abroad. He was also very excited and immediately dialed the number of the friend, who was living abroad and lo and behold, after few minutes we were in the ‘conference’ mode and were talking to each other. It was very thrilling to talk to each other after so many years. Facebook helped me locate my friends with whom I could not connect for more than 15 years. It was really an amazing experience. Has it ever happened with you?
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 Sep 11
Great to know that fb has found your old classmates and are united through this social site. In fact I wasn't too keen in using my fb account not until one day a long lost relative tracked me down and started a group for all other relatives that are scattered all over the world. Soon my fb was filled with request when words gor around that I am their long lost cousin. I am of course delighted to interact with them thus creating a new interest in fb. Fb has bridged the link to friends and relatives which we might never be able to get in touch forever if not for this wonderful facebook.
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
23 Sep 11
Yes. It is especially nice for those people to contact one another from miles away too.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
Hi Zandi, It is great to hear that your distant relatives could find you from all over the world and ultimately you united through a group and you felt great connecting with all of them. I think, had it not been Facebook, you would not have come to know about your relatives. Thanks for sharing the interesting incident.
@allknowing (63416)
• India
23 Sep 11
Sorry to be stealing your lime light but I have many such stories dpk. My main aim to be on FB was to search for lost friends and colleagues and am I not glad that I even got my boss!I have spent hours locating doing the trapeze acts so to say. But the sad part is that the excitement wears out and now we hardly interact.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
23 Sep 11
Very true. I joined and found some people and that was about it!
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
allknowing! Don't feel sorry to steal the lime light, there was not any. It was your hard luck that when you were searching for your lost friends/relatives, you found your ex-boss or was it present boss? You see if both the parties do not remain in constant touch, then excitement will wear out, no doubt about it. Thanks for sharing.
@allknowing (63416)
• India
23 Sep 11
Not just the boss but all those friends, classmates, relatives the brood - there was high level interaction for a while and all is quiet now.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 11
You are right, I don't have an FB account so I am not really like reading this... And I don't need to look out for old friends, close or not, cause I like to move forward with everything and treat the past as sweet memories...
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I was treated bad in the past by so-called friends. No need to look them up!
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
Hope Jenny, you did not read the full text and you are right that you should look forward and move forward, there is no need to look back. Past is gone.
@patgalca (14309)
• Orangeville, Ontario
23 Sep 11
I had more friends in elementary school than I do now. I would happy if I could have those people as friends again.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 11
Hello Dpk , i met two my best friends while in high school because of facebook. but since we are busy each other we just say hello at the first time she added me and we never say hello again now.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 11
Hello ifa! It would have been a great experience for you to meet your old friends. I can understand that you do not often connect, as you would like to.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 11
actually i don't like to have that situation somehow i wish that i don't have to sleep and have more energy to get online
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
25 Oct 11
It sounds interesting.
@vjsinduja (1035)
• Sri Lanka
23 Sep 11
I can realize how happy you 2 would have been when u met each other on FB.By any chance didn't have an intention finding where u are n what u r doing? Anyways I am happy for u... Hope u two will not loose the connection in the future
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
Thanks for sharing my happiness. You are right, it was really very exciting to find each other. Since then we are in touch with each other. Were you clarifying about your intention to find me out? I am from New Delhi and you could find me on Facebook by the name 'Deepak Kumar' dpk PS - Hv sent u a request for add. Please accept.
@vjsinduja (1035)
• Sri Lanka
25 Sep 11
what i asked in my response was , didn't ur friend have any intention in finding you out?
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
26 Sep 11
He also tried to find me out, however, he could not succeed either.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
23 Sep 11
actually, i have a few posts recently about finding old friends and even former sweethearts on facebook. i have long stories about my former sweethearts, one even happened about 3 decades ago. that is really an amazing part of being a facebooker.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
What I understand neildc is that you could locate your former sweetheart and it was a pleasant surprise. Is it?
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
23 Sep 11
True. It is a really good place to start searching for someone.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
26 Sep 11
she's just one of those old friends and former sweethearts that i found on facebook.
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
hi dpk, This is one of facebook advantages you will be reconnect to your loved one or old friends it's just some users don't use it properly. My high school friends find me at facebook after many years some of them are in abroad now and we are planning to see each other if ever they will come home. happy mylotting
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
Hi bhaby! Yeah, you are right that if we use FB to its fullest, we could locate some lost friends/relatives, provided they are also on FB. It is great to hear that you found your school friends, who are residing abroad. Hope you all will meet soon.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I seen some people I used to go to school with too.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
23 Sep 11
That's wonderful! I am so happy for you that you reconnected with someone that you used to be close to. I have actually had a few people locate me on facebook as well as having located some people I once knew. It is amazing how far reaching that facebook is. I am not active on facebook but I do check my messages and friend requests. I just think it's great that you found someone that you've been looking for a long time.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
Hello Jen! Yes, it was really very thrilling and exciting to connect with an old friend, with whom I had very good chemistry and understanding, when we were together. It sounds great that many known people found you on FB and you all connected with each other.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
23 Sep 11
I'm not active on Facebook either. I just do not have the time or interest in it.
@rollylolly (2707)
• India
20 Oct 11
Oh yes I found many of friends in facebook . For this I am grateful to fb . It was easy for me as my school , college and university are all in fb . We somehow tracked each other . Many are staying abroad but we are connected . Good to know you are reconnected with your old pal .
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
21 Oct 11
Hi rolly! It is nice to hear that you could find your school, college and University friends on Facebook and you love to interact with them. Thanks for sharing.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 11
yes, with facebook, i can meet again my old friend and my relatives who live in another city sometimes i can send message to my aunt or uncle who lives different city with me.. it`s fantastics
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
1 Oct 11
Did you find any friend or relative who was not in touch with you?
@SViswan (12072)
• India
24 Sep 11
Oh yes!! Many,many friends. We had to leave Kuwait suddenly during the Gulf invasion. Though my father did have contact details of his friends from India, it was summer vacation during the time and I had no details of any of my friends. I tried contacting friends from a few addresses that I had at the time. Some didn't respond (they probably weren't staying there) and a few kept in touch but fizzled out. But through Facebook (and Orkut earlier), I was able to find many old friends who surprisingly remembered me :-) I found another friend through her husband. I knew her before she was married. But a family friend of ours stayed next to her apartment when we were growing up. In the course of our conversation, I asked about her and he told me her husband is on FB and gave me the ID. I contacted him and though my friend is not on FB, he filled me up on the missing years and also gave me her phone number. We called and spoke and now I'm also friends with her husband...thanks to FB.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
27 Sep 11
Hi SV! It is really heartening to note that you could get in touch with your lost friends and one of them you could find through her hubby. I understand that you have a large circle of friends on Facebook and you enjoy interacting with them.
• India
23 Sep 11
Ya sometimes Facebook also helps to locate your friend, I am telling you this because i have also located my friend who was in school day and one of my friend who was in college i would locate them with the help of Facebook i also thank them for helping me. So Facebook had given me a gud experience about friend locate
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
It is really heartening to hear that you could find your two friends through FB and you agree that FB is useful in locating our old friends. Thanks for sharing. Nice to meet you. :-)
@patgalca (14309)
• Orangeville, Ontario
23 Sep 11
I have located several high school acquaintainces (didn't have very many friends in high school) and have just started connecting with elementary school friends through Facebook. I have received many contacts through Classmates.com but I refuse to pay the price. I wish some of those people would go on Facebook. My real friends from high school don't participate on Facebook too much. I am more interested in my elementary school friends. In my day, we went through elementary school from K-8 with the same classmates and we were all friends. There were no cliques back then and I am sure we would ALL be happy to see each other again. A reunion is currently in the works. For high school a reunion is in the works but since I didn't have very many friends, just acquaintances, I don't much care. I was not part of the "in" crowd but as adults perhaps these people would be nicer to me if we met.
@patgalca (14309)
• Orangeville, Ontario
26 Sep 11
I paid $4 to view the messages on Classmates.com for one day. I don't know why everyone is over there and not on Facebook. They are starting to come out of the woodwork but there are still a lot of people I would like to reach through FB.
@kiran8 (15361)
• Mangalore, India
23 Sep 11
Hi dpk that is really nice, to have found your friend after 15 years....That is the best feature of facebook and I am sure that many people have been able to reconnect with their old friends,lost friends etc; I too have found a few friends and relatives on the facebook , who I had lost contact with...
@kiran8 (15361)
• Mangalore, India
24 Sep 11
To add some more...Recently I had a similar experience as yours when I met my cousin , my fathers brothers son who was quite close to me when we were younger, but later lost touch since almost 15 years.It was really nice since through me, my entire family reestablished contact with him , even attended his sons wedding ...all because of FB
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
23 Sep 11
hello dpk, I found my relatives that I haven't seen for 25 years through facebook. I can say that facebook is really helpful when searching for our relatives and long lost friends. I also found my friends and classmates way back 34 years ago and now we have our own page where we can update each other. I also heard many stories of reunion -like a mother looking for her daughter or son whom she had for an adoption. A sister looking for long lost brother and vice versa. Too many stories unfold thu facebook...and it's good to know those stories. Have a good day
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
23 Sep 11
That is wonderful. It has not happened to me. I have tried to find a couple of people and it was not successful right now. Maybe they are not joined there.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
23 Sep 11
You will find soon. Keep tryping step! My friend also used to trace me but someone he could not succeed. And thanks for posting comments on response, before I could do so.
@mayka123 (10546)
• India
3 Dec 11
I too have got in touch with many friends and distant relatives who I did not know existed through facebook. I had a very good friend who lived in the same colony from I think 1976 to 1980. After that I went to a hostel to stay and then got married and we lost touch. Some time back I saw her on my cousins friend list and immediately sent her a friend request. Now we communicate though facebook and through emails. She lives in Canada and am now waiting for her to come to India so that we can meet up.
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Hi dpk! That's really a nice thing to have happened to you! It's good to hear nice stories about Facebook once in a while after hearing bad rumors and issues about the social networking site. That has never happened to me, though. But I do have old forgotten friends who I want to connect with again. However, there's really no way for me to find them because I lack information. It's because these friends are my pen friends and even though I know their names, if I search for them, there will be people with the same names. I wouldn't know who are my friends because I have never really seen their faces. SO you're really lucky to have found your long-time friend.
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I only created a Facebook account as a way to stay in touch with my youngest son who was living out of state at the time. But, I did have a similar experience of finding an old friend. My friend actually moved to France (I'm in the USA) when we were both around 11 years old. We were inseparable from the moment we met (at around age 5) until her family left for France. We did everything together, were in the same class in school each year, had loads of "sleepovers", just two peas in a pod if you will. Once she moved, I lost touch. I had no idea what her address was and no way of finding it. So, to me, it was a very sad time in my life. I've never had another friend that close to me. On a whim, I typed her name in Facebook and there she was! I couldn't believe it, I found my very best childhood friend after almost 40 years! It's kind of funny, our lives have been remarkably similar in all those years we were out of touch. Naturally, we aren't as close now, especially since we're on different continents, but it sure is nice knowing that I can talk to her any time I want via Facebook. I've found other people I knew a long time ago on Facebook but nothing compares to finding my very first, very best friend in my entire life.
@much2say (38813)
• United States
24 Sep 11
That's wonderful, dpk! Yes, through the magic of Facebook, we can find long lost friends. This week I found an old childhood friend . . . we lost contact when we were about 12. But that's not the story I want to share here. The "cooler" story. I had a friend whom I met where I worked when I first started college. She was an artist like me, but crazy crazy - and she put me through some CRAZY adventures - ha ha. We were good friends until she moved, and then distance sort of dropped the friendship. I was able to make it to her wedding (she was only 19) - and meet her husband for the first time and that was the last time I would ever see her. We sent holiday cards for a while - and then we just lost touch. Fast forward, I tried to look for her. Before Facebook, I'd tried to find her on various sites, but the problem was she had a very common name, so it proved to be quite difficult. I was never successful in finding her. Then Facebook came into my life. Again, the problem was she had a common name, there must be a zillion women who have the same name. So instead I remembered her husband's name - and I messaged him. He actually remembered me and wrote back . . . but by now they have been long divorced and not been in communication with each other. He did however kindly tell me the name of her sister and what city she was located in, so I was able to at least find her on her job website. So I wrote to her to please tell her I was looking for her sister. And then MY FRIEND found me on classmates.com soon after - and I thought for sure she had gotten her sister's message from me. Turns out she was looking for me all these years too! It was a coincidence she had found me at that moment. I brought her over to Facebook - and now she is hooked as she has found others she had lost along the way. My husband (who also knew her) and I were able to get together with her and her new husband . . . we vowed never to lose touch again! The weird thing is, apparently her divorce was very bitter . . . and her ex-husband then contacted her after he saw she was now on Facebook - and now they are "friends" on Facebook. AND, the ex-husband is also remarried - and he has a daughter by MY name - which I thought was strange as he did not tell me this (my name is not common - and the man knew we were good friends at the time - was this another way for him to be spiteful to his ex-wife?). ANYWAY . . . I thought it'd be interesting to tell you my experience as it was very soap opera like - ha ha. Enjoy the reunion with your friend!! Sidenote: Although I do love Facebook for that sort of magic, I am NOT liking their recent changes . . . how about you?