Giving and receiving.
September 23, 2011 5:49pm CST
Giving and receiving are part of the same cycle,but we can lose our balance when we try to be too controlling on either side. On the receiving end, we may feel that we don't deserve the effort made if what we gave was easy for us to give. Perhaps however, there is a different lesson there for us. We may be receiving not only gratitude, but a chance to see the world through the eyes of another. We may be learning that just because we gave easily, the value of the gift is not diminished. Sometimes we may find ourselves struggling to respond to others' gifts in the same ways like responding to an expensive present with something equally expensive, or feeling like we have to throw a dinner party for someone who has thrown one for us. But when these are done out of a sense of obligation, their energy changes from something that shares to something that drains. Next time why not allow yourself to receive with arms, minds and hearts open and simply say thank you. Do you agree?
• United States
27 Sep 11
I agree, learning to receive well is an important thing... There are those who when they are given complements have a hard time receiving not understanding that when they accept well the praise they are actually giving a gift to the gifter. The giver and the receiver are actually one... The one who gifts another gifts also himself in the giving. There is the good feeling that comes from gifting. There is the joy of seeing happiness on another's face. There is the good feeling of knowing that one has accurately sensed a need and filled it. To not receive well deprives the gifter of some of his satisfaction in giving and actually communicates a lack of gratitude and an unwillingness to receive such gifts in the future. Just a simple "thank you", while allowing the face to express the feeling of happiness that is inside you, goes a long way toward helping the other feel good. It is nice when one can do so little and give so much joy to another. There will come a time to gift the other. There will be a time to return the favor... Yet to be caught up in evening the score is not where it is at. There is sometimes an ebb and flow. One day, I may not have the funds to give but at another time I may. I may treat at those times... My friend who wishes things to be fair may wish this to occur. Another friend who understands my financial issues may not have this idea and may not want me to spend what I have as it is little in comparison to the sum he has. Finding a way to give then becomes a little difficult. Yet there is the knowledge too that ones company is sometimes a gift to another who needs a friendly ear, a hug or time spent just enjoying life's moments and sharing the heart of love together. It is not important really to make everything equal.It may be impossible to do so. One can just choose to be the best friend one can be arising in the moment with love for the other.
• United States
24 Sep 11
That is a very good way to look at it! To open yourself up and not feel an obligation to return what is given. I love giving to others....and don't usually expect something back except a thank you! That's more then enough for me!