I'm hurt!!!

@lynboobsy11 (11346)
Philippines
September 24, 2011 6:44am CST
I'm in a deep hurt right now and I feel so much neglected. I know it's sound like very crazy and unappropriated telling my pain here, but I just thought maybe I can find here in Mylot a good advice rather in my true friends. I know true friends are always there in our side but sometimes we want to hear advice to others even if it is only our networking friends. I just thought this the best way for me to shout and tell everybody what I'm feeling right now. I felt that someone is tearing me apart. What will you do if someone you really love neglect you and set you aside because he knows your always there for him?
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11 responses
@huilichan8 (1379)
• Singapore
24 Sep 11
What do you mean by 'set you aside'? Do you mean 'ignore you'? Anyway, if I were in this situation, I wld probably feel mad! However, I don't think I will dwell on that because it won't do me any gd. Nowadays, I don't really hv expectations of people. I was quite frequently betrayed by people in the past (by friends, family and colleagues), and so I wld rather not hv expectations of anyone. At least I won't feel hurt.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
24 Sep 11
It is just hard when someone hurts you but you have just got to move on and forget about that person and take care of yourself first.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
thanks huilichan your a strong person i'm glad for having that attitude maybe someday i will have time to learn that too to become more stronger than now. @ hi steph thank you for reminding me that to love myself than he is who gave me heart ache maybe this is only the result of loving to much. Have a nice day to both of you.
• Singapore
24 Sep 11
Hi Steph, I agree with you. Hi Lynboobsy, Ya, it's impt to love yourself. I think it's also impt to put your own interests first. When you love another person too much, there is a possibility that you might get hurt more. So, pls love yourself more. Hope you are feeling better now and take gd care of yourself, ok. Hv a gd wkend!:)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Hi lynboobsy. Take it easy. We don't have control over other people's action or should I say, inaction. But we have control over our own. Yes, neglect hurts and so is being left out from someone's plan, especially if it's someone you really love. But, telling him what to do would not be a good idea, like saying, "hey, what about me?" It has to come from him. If he does something because you told him to do it will not give you a feeling of satisfaction. Think of something that will make you smile. Do something to keep you busy. Brooding and sulking will take you nowhere. Let me share my favorite adage with you, my friend. "Always remember to forget the things that make you sad, but never forget to remember the things that make you glad."
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
24 Sep 11
That is true too and we must take care of ourself and our feelings first.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
your too are right about that i dont want also to dictate him what will he do just to comfort me and give me some promising word. Talking to him ang just telling what i feel is the only thimg i can do. The rest it is on his own on how he feel about hurting my feeling and if he really love and care for me he will do what he really thinks what is good for our relationship.
@Harold_ks (1674)
24 Sep 11
It's really hurt to be neglected. I think what you should do is tell him what you feel and why he is acting like that. Also ask him if he still loves you and how much and tell him to be honest with his answer. It's important to let him know what you feel. And after you talk, you will have an idea what's really happening. I hope everything will be back to normal to both of you. Good luck and God bless!
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
24 Sep 11
That is true too but always protect your feelings also so they cannot hurt them again.
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Wow that is hurts. i will discourage ,what to do.. i do not know what reason why he neglects you or something change with? Maybe this guy is not love with you,so that is why he is trying to depart, or stay away. But,what you do is i think it is hard especially you love the person..But you can't control ,maybe you can talk, and what is wrong... talk each other,fix the relationship..
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I would put yourself first. Try not to worry about the other person. they may never change so you really have not lost anything when you look at the full picture of things.
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
27 Mar 12
dont think of him too much focus yourself in other things.mylot can be a good source to forget those people who is not nice to you.im sure you will make hundreds of discussions if you let mylot entertain you.
@naija4real (1293)
25 Sep 11
My only wish for you is that you find peace and happiness. I want you to know this the world we are living is a very sad world with a lot of disappointment and pain. you should learn to accept this fact and take note human being are imperfect and they will always make you feel sad and also feel happy as each day goes by. What is the solution? Turn to God put your trust in the God, pray to God to give you peace and happiness. Spend your leisure time by doing your favourite past time such as gardening, tailoring, fashion, sports, hiking, driving, holiday vacation. Do not spend the time feeling depress as that will make you sad
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
25 Sep 11
That would really be so hurtful. If I were you, I'd rise above the situation and go out of my way and not wait for him to come to me. I mean, I will be moving on with my life and I have to show him too that I have more important things to do than worry and wait for his attention. I do not want to be pathetic by being treated like that, so get up and look for some happiness.
• India
25 Sep 11
Ofcourse i will also feel pain like you. if i am in your place,i will talk to him,explain him,that when he neglects me how much pain was causing.even then if he continue like that,then i will neglect him,and show him practically how much pain it cause.even then he is like that,i will avoid him complete because he does't worth my love.
@hedblast (123)
• Singapore
25 Sep 11
Well, you know you shouldnt give up the whole forest for one person. Haha, then again think about it from his perspective, its understandable that you love him, but he sounds as though as he's taking advantage of you. He knows you are alwasy there for him thats why he just neglects you. He has taken you for granted. Reconsider your feelings towards him and i agree with the first comment, take care.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
24 Sep 11
Hello to you lyn.. i have been there a less than a month now and that is very bad experienced for me. You are in a right path to stay here and tell your pain here because most people here even not friends give advice and i experienced that too. They tell you what is in their mind in an honest way and good approach.I feel comfortable here telling those secret i had that sometimes i need them for consultation coz they never hide and tell lies about their advice. So you can also trust them like your true friend. I trusted them ,,,
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
24 Sep 11
I am so sorry to hear that. You have tp pick yourself up and just move on and put the person that hurt you, in the past. I am going through this right now too. It hurts but you have got to take care of yourself and not worry about the other person for now.