How sensitive are you when the topic is about your age?

@ksherrie (892)
Singapore
September 26, 2011 5:18am CST
Personally, I wasn't sensitive about my age when I was younger than 21... I don't know why, maybe I feel young then, and I am still young back then... Now that I am reaching my 30s soon, I am 28 by the way... some of you may think i am still young... I know I am, but I am not that young too, because, there are really a lot of youngsters out there that are younger than me! Plus time always goes by very quickly when you least expects it. At my age, people no longer expects mistakes or "I don't know" or even "I am not sure"...you are considered an adult. At my age, people expects you to understand things and be mature about it. No stubborn behaviours or unexpected cryings! For me, my attitude, my look, my thoughts, do not coincide with my age. I do wish I am still young and ignorant where I could still get away with mistakes, given a second chance and learn. What about you? Do you dare to share about yourself and your age?
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@00fear (3203)
• United States
27 Sep 11
I am 24 and sometimes I do feel awkward about telling my age or if the topic is about my age but there are times I don't mind. I think in future, it is still going to happen either way so I really shouldn't care if I talk about it. Maybe since I'm not as old as 28, I feel fine then awkward but in the future (like in 4 years more), I will be feeling 100% awkward. I see lots of my cousins who are in early and mid 30th, that makes me feel if they don't care, why should I. If they are older than me and be happy, why can't I.
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Hi 00fear! thank you for your response! You are right. Why should we think too much about our age when the others didn't bother about theirs, especially when they are of the same age as us too? I know but I just can't help thinking time is never enough. What if I am already in my 40s and I still have not do what I could have done when I was in my twenties. I guess I need to step out of the regretting circle and start living..
@00fear (3203)
• United States
11 Oct 11
Let me ask you if I may.... If you feel bad or regret it, will time let you go back in time and let you do it again (or make it up)? I think the only thing it will make you do is makes things worse for you like nervousness or depression. Don't look back to things you know you cannot change anymore. I used to be like that for a little thing like money. Whenever I wouldn't go with my dad, I would say to myself, "man I could've had more money today" but for what, I didn't go to work with my dad and that's what I get ($0). I couldn't go back even if I regret it and wanted to and it made me feel like hitting something. I know its only money but this was back then...when I was greedy (I stopped thank god haha). Do what you wanted to do now, before you regret it in the future again.
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
27 Oct 11
Thanks 00fear, you are right! Thanks for the advice... Now is getting it done... LOL!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
26 Sep 11
I don't feel sensitive about my age sweetie. It's just a number. We are as old as we feel and i feel 10 each day. I'm over 35, cannot remember if we might add our age. I'm a bit behind with all the rules and whatnot.
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@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
27 Sep 11
That's true! We should live each day to its fullest without concerns about yesterday or tomorrow. Life is all about taking each day in with a brand new smile and forgetting about your worries. We shouldn't worry about how old we are, because we're still alive and still have time to enjoy each and every day. Happy mylotting!
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
27 Sep 11
Worries makes one old sweetie.
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Hi saphrina, thank you for your response. I guess I am still not matured about my age yet. I believe in a few more years and when I have a kid or two, I might think otherwise. Cheers to living healthily for now!
• United States
27 Sep 11
I'm not sensitive about my age I'm just 29 for the 6th year in a row!
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
27 Oct 11
Haha! 3SnuggleBunnies, you are funny! Classic reply!
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Honestly, I am not sensitive about my age in a lot of occasions. However, when it comes to my being single, I am sensitive about it. I don't really know. Like you, a few years back, it wouldn't hurt me when someone gets married, gets engaged or is pregnant. But these days, a lot of things are different in me. I am now worrying about nothing and it feels like my life is empty and I am desperate to go to the 'next level'. I know I sound nuts but I can't even explain it! As for mistakes, indeed it's true. When we grow older, people expect so much from us, but I don't let that get into my mind. I am immature at times and do what I want - but I take heed as to the proper place and time for things. Remember that our names are the most important thing in the world, you wouldn't want to get caught drunk beyond help in front of your subordinates, right? There are expected things from us, but that shouldn't keep us from being happy. Just know your limitations and go somewhere else if you need to really go crazy - just don't bring any camera(s) so that there wouldn't be proof of it. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
27 Oct 11
Hi Laydee, thank you for your advice! Good to hear from someone who seems to understand what I mean. Haha!
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
27 Sep 11
Well, I'm still relatively young, so I haven't started worrying about this stuff yet (let's just say I'm still in high school). But I've already started feeling the pressures of growing up. I continuously miss those elementary school days in which I had little to do other than gluing macaroni shells to colorful paper and playing tag on the playground during recess. Life was so stress-free. So at this point, I'm still sharing my age. But in five or so years, probably not so much, haha. Happy mylotting!
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
4 Nov 11
Hi oXAquaXo, I hope you enjoy it while it last.... Haha.. By the time you reach an older age, you might start to think otherwise... I am still having second thoughts about my own age.... But I am learning to live with it. With age, comes wisdom... I learning to understand that phrase.
@jange52 (71)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
I really don't mind talking about my age. Most of the time, people tell me I look younger for my age and I don't know if I should feel good about it. There are disadvantages and advantages when your looks does not coincide with your age. If you look older for your age, you can somehow impose authority, a lot of people will listen to you, but you have to be careful with your actions because older people should be more mature. While if you look younger than your age, you can care free. People don't ridicule you that much if you are a bit clumsy. In my experience, I wish I look just like my age, cause when I tried to teach in college, at first it was hard, because they think I was young to teach. It's up to you, however, how you deal with your age. As they say, it's just a number. With age come wisdom. SO I'm happy that I'm aging.
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
27 Oct 11
Hi jange52, thank you for your response. i guess i have to keep in mind that age is just a number...
@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
26 Sep 11
No one would believe I was 21,(you had to be 21 to buy on the installment plan.) I was trying to buy furniture, and the salesman would not believe my age. That was in 1956, when things were much different! Now, I'm not retired and wouldn't dream of buying on time. Life is only what you make it!
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Haha, really barehugs, no one would believe you were 21 one then? I guess you must have look really young then? I guess by making use of time, life would be fruitful.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
26 Sep 11
Sharing my age isn't bothersome. I'm 32. When my poor health decides to run amok, I feel 60. On a good day, I feel 21 or 22.
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Haha Zoey7879, I love your response! I guess i am feeling 21 right now!
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
I am not sensitive too much at my age when friends talked about it. But sometimes i feel i want to go back to my young age in order to feel the happiness they really feel at that young age. To tell you the truth i feel young at heart. Even i am now at my high count of years, i feel wonderful like i am really a new born teen ager.. I want to go back but the truth is i cant.. Now i want to feel again those younger stages of my life through doing such like this.. and being here always makes me free at the moment. I can express myself here freely. That is why i feel young again. For me there is no barrier of what age i would be as long as i feel happy all the time. Again being here you can be free as long as you want.. no age limit...
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Hi mods196621, thanks for your response! I understand what you mean. Here at mylot, we sure have no limits to age. We are free to discuss what we need and at whatever time we want. Being free is also a way of feeling young again. I guess, being free of worries and money woes is one way of feeling young again.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
as a guy, it is not much an issue for us. unless some signs of aging are showing for example, getting bald or emergence of white hair, weak knees, joint pains, and others. i think women have different perspectives on age. yes, you are right that time passes swiftly. it is up to us to catch up. some people rush to age. some like it slowed down. for me, time is no enemy nor friend. it is not a master. it comes and goes.
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Hi mensab, thanks for your response! I guess you hit jackpot on the signs of aging for some people, even for guys. These are often reason why people hate to talk about age. True that time comes and goes, that why we need to make full use of it while it is here. Otherwise, it's always too late to regret.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
Actually my friend regarding my age - not really big big deal to me whether for discussion or formal talking, because it is true that my age is the real age. I don't don't why others are very sensitive about their age and become histerical if they said your to old now, your senior citizen now - but it is true. Anyway at my age of 45 now never cover up that even in the phone, form registration, social networking and others - I very proud to tell and always proud because I reach in my age with peace and never big problem at all.
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Hi visavia, thank you for your response. Glad age is not an issue for you. I guess I am worry about the time I have to try things and complete my dreams.. That is why age is a issue I worry about. And would prefer to talk less about. I know how I am when I was younger, care-free then, I am pretty upfront about my age.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
26 Sep 11
Topics about my age don't really bother me. We caan not help how old or young we are. It's what we do with our lives at our age is what is important.
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Hi sender621, Thank you for your response! i guess i have not done anything at my age that I am proud of. I am still regretting the things I have not yet do. I am still re-evaluating what I really need in life, before it is too late. That's why at this point in time, age do really matters....
@maximax8 (27048)
26 Sep 11
My sister is five years older than me. I loved it at 12 to 20 years old that people thought I was the older one. I looked 18 when I was 16 years old and at 17 I looked 19 years old. I wanted to be 21 when I was 20 years old. I tried holding onto my twenties and it was sad to lose the number 29. Then I became 30 years old and I felt old. When a child asks me how old I am I say I am older than you but younger than the queen. Now I am almost at the end of my thirties. When I was a young person I couldn't have imagined life after age 28 to year 2000.
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Hi maximax, Thank you for your response. I agree, the moment some of us reach that mark, we tend to feel sensitive about it. Wish age isn't the topic to talk about.
@grkelly (1218)
• Malta
26 Sep 11
Sometimes I feel really annoyed when people think I am younger than my age. i do not want to appear young because unforunately many come up with the idea that I am immature when it is not the case. I have a friend who has the same problem. She looks like 18, but she is 26 in reality. People thought she was a single mother when she had her baby. It is a bit awkward and annoying. I think that if you are over 40 and people think you a re younger it is a compliment, but otherwise it can tend to be a problem. On the otehr hand looking much older is definitely a problem. I honestly wish that I could relive at least a day as a young child :)
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@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
11 Oct 11
Hi grkelly, thank you for your response! I understand. Sometimes it's the appearances that mislead people to think how old are we. And misunderstanding occurs. Sometimes it does affect the pride though it may seems to be a compliment at times. But to me, time is a factor, that's why age is a sensitive thing to talk about when you are rushing to finish dreams or thinking of completing one dream.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
27 Sep 11
SO we are of the same age or maybe i'm a year older :) Age doesnt matter much to me, and i'm who i am. As we aged, our thinking will develop overtime without us having to think too much about it. We are still considered young as we are in the transition period into full grown adults with responsibilities Being an adult doesn't mean we cant have a kiddish side in us right? We are humans, we tend to behave out of control, make mistakes and all. People should not judge us by our mistakes and vulnerability because we all do it
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
27 Oct 11
People "should" not judge us by our mistakes and vulnerability because we all do it... The problem is people just judge. You and I know it. Everyone else is guilty too, at least one time or another, i believe no one is saintly enough to say, he/she hasn't judged someone else before...
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
30 Oct 11
It's our nature. Because of, "we believe what we see". As long as we have such mindset, we tend to pass judgements very easily, at that very moment. However, there are minority of people, who will reverse their judgements after they have the time to process or think, therefore giving them a 2nd chance ^^
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
31 Oct 11
Erm, i do think 2nd chances are rare... Not many people are generous enough to give 2nd chances either..
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
27 Oct 11
this reminds me of some people in the company where i am working who're trying to keep their age secret. when i wrote the article "So what if I am forty?", many of them reacted saying that i feel confident about my age because i am happily married, or that i already have children. it is not even the point of what i wrote. no matter what age one is carrying, what matters is how one live life. if a large part of your life is wasted then what would be the impact of getting older? it is a scary thought that one day i will totally be incapacitated because of old age but what is important is the legacy one has. the young generation has that to learn.
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
4 Nov 11
Hi bingkee, thank you for your deep insights. I guess i just have to take it easy and learn as I go along.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
that is exactly the way to do it - taking it easy and learn. while one is young, there are a lot of interesting things to do to spend time with.
@SIMPLYD (76614)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Actually, i don't hide my age to anyone. They just have to do it nicely, when they ask and nobody to hear it, except themselves. I am proud that at my age we now have a daughter who recently graduated cumlaude in UP Manila and is now having a full scholarship by St. Luke's on her Medicine studies. I think, when i was nearing my 30's and still single, i am sensitive with my age. But not, when i got married already.
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
27 Oct 11
Hey simplyd, congrats to you! you have really a smart daughter! Wish I have one too... Guess I just have to work towards mine..
@SIMPLYD (76614)
• Philippines
27 Oct 11
You will finally have one for yourself someday, my friend. And when you finally have one, you will not at all be mindful of your age.
13 Nov 11
I always state my precise age. The number of years you have lived is just a fact -- not something to be otherwise concerned about. Maturity is a different issue. It sounds as if you might want to consider counseling to develop more self-confidence.
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
28 Dec 11
Wow, counselling?? Really? Is it that serious? I just want to feel ever so young... Is it wrong to feel immortal sometimes? Maybe I am just not suitable for responsibilities...
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
12 Nov 11
When I was your age, that kind of thing didn't bother me. I have always made mistakes and was like you describe. I remember going into places (casinos for example) when I was 20 and I was dressed to the max and didn't get carded but those who were 21 dressed down and they did. People always thought I was 10 years younger than I was. Now that I am over 50, the only time my age is a problem is when I try to find a job. It seems like most employers want younger people. I also have stopped trying to dye the gray out of my hair. It just isn't worth it. What really bothers me is when I look at people who are my age and they are already grandparents (since I never had kids). I also remember when I was 36 and commented that the kids who were 18 now were born when I was 18. Enjoy life while you can and don't worry about what anyone else thinks or says!
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
13 Nov 11
Hi daeckardt, thank you for your response. I guess I am just sensitive about my own age as well as what others say. People do say a lot and I know I can't control what they say. But it can be terrible sometimes. So at my age, I just doesn't feel good when people talk about me or scold me. It just feel quite bad especially if they add comments about my age into the conversation too.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
5 Nov 11
not too sensitive. i am 31 now, but people would never see as a mature and adult person. they always under estimate me and not appreciate me and that makes me sensitive
@ksherrie (892)
• Singapore
5 Nov 11
Hi ifa, thank your your response. That's what I am facing normally, that's why I'm usually sensitive about mentioning my age.