the number beside the FRIENDS tab

@chiwasaki (4694)
Philippines
September 26, 2011 5:42am CST
I've been adding a lot of friends in my lot. But I wonder why the number of my friends here doesn't increase. Then I found out the reason why after almost a year... I initially thought the number beside the FRIENDS tab or FRIENDS drop down is the number of my friends. It usually stays at 78 or 79. So I begin to wonder why I have only 78 friends though I'm sending a lot of request. Then I found out that it is the number of friend requests sent to me. Some friend requests to me is about a year old already and I just accepted those requests recently. Haha I feel so stupid. But at least I know now what that number stands for.
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20 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
Well it should have gonbe up by one right now as I just aceepted the FR that I saw came from you - and thank you! Hey if we all knew everything there would be no jobs for tachers and that wouldn't be fair would it?
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
gone*
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
Now we see who is paying attention
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
26 Sep 11
It should actually go down by one as they are all pending friends' requests.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
26 Sep 11
Hi chiwasaki, I am thinking about those friends who had been waiting for this much time to get an approval and you were under a wrong impression and made them wait... they really had great patience. Its ok finally you find out the answer…. I am happy that I was not in that waiting list because you added me already.
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
26 Sep 11
I have the habit of clearing the friends request on every day basis if anybody waiting. When I sign in mylot first I clear the FR tab and message tab. Here he kept them waited by mistake.
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@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
26 Sep 11
78 requests OMG i just open it when i see 1.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Sep 11
I open it too when I see 1 - but I often close it again and leave it pending. I prefer not to disclose how many I have pending at this moment
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
26 Sep 11
It is good that finally you came to know that others were sending requests to you and it was not your number of request. Hope now you will immediately decide whom to add and whom not to add.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
30 Sep 11
I am afraid that it does not always hold true - "the more the merier"
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Hi friend dpk. I accepted all of the invites. I'm not very particular with friend requests. So the more the merrier.
@umabharti (3972)
• India
26 Sep 11
just let me understand what ur saying Your friends requests are equal to 78 and some u accepted recently How many friend u made with sending requests to add u as a friend. I never noticed about that number ,thank u for that information.Will check it out as soon as i get a friend request .
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
27 Sep 11
Total i have fourty three friends , i checked the friends drop down ,i can see the friends whom i hav added up.I checked even the pending requests ,and approve frends etc., nothing is displayed . There are no pending requests for me to approve
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Those my lot user who responded to my discussion, I usually add them. So I add a lot of people so the it will be more fun. Try to check that number, you might have a lot of pending requests than I am.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
26 Sep 11
Hehe don't worry sometimes we just get things a bit late. Like the time my emoticons here were activated but I didn't know I could use them untill one of my friends pointed it out
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
I was a big fan of emoticons. I tried very hard to hit the specific number of discussion so I can use them. I love using emoticons. Sometimes, it really helps to avoid misunderstanding.
• South Korea
27 Sep 11
hehe the jealous face makes me laugh the most. it's like the smiley is high
27 Sep 11
i like the sad face.. it really makes me laugh haha!!
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
26 Sep 11
Hello Chiwasaki, Thats very surprising that you found the answer after so much of time.But its good that lastly you found it. I always open friends tab whenever i see (_) written as i know that it is for the friend's request you get from others. To check number of friends you go to your profile page you can easily check there the number of friends you have on your list.
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Hi there my friend. When I found out about it, I was really laughing hard. Maybe because I just became active in my lot about a few months ago. I learned my lesson the hard way.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Now, you know!
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Now, if you see a number there, you'll know what to do! Don't just look at it, okay?
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Haha secret bear, now I know! It is a very funny experience. But at least I was able to discover what's that number is for. Haha I can't believe this lol.
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• United States
27 Sep 11
I admit, I am terrible at actually responding to the friend requests! I finally did it this week. Some of the requests were actually 3 years old!! I find that there are some people who just friend request everyone! I really dont understand that philosophy, so I usually just accept a few of the friend requests. I always check to see how active they are on mylot. I dont need a million friends that dont do anything and dont contribute quality discussions to mylot!! In fact, I dont have a clue how many friends I actually have!!
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Hi derlila! The oldest friend requests that I have is only about a year ago. Three years is quite long. Well it is better to have few friends who are active than a lot of friends who are inactive.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
27 Sep 11
I have a huge number too but I will accept them only if I see them being active here. I keep going back there and watch!
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@allknowing (130066)
• India
27 Sep 11
But I will not ignore them either.
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
For now, I will be accepting all friend requests. I don't want to see any number beside the friend tab. Haha lol I don't want any pending request to wait for that long.
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
That's a little bit funny. Finally you found the answer after almost a year. Anyway, at first I had trouble finding friend requests back when I was still starting and it took me a few months before I got out of the comfort zone of just being in the discussion tab of this site. I think it took me 3 months to really navigate and see what the other tabs are and how to accept friend requests, send requests and do some tasks. Anyway, it's great that you finally figured it all out. Good for you!
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
when I was new about a year ago, I was able to accept some friend requests. Then I don't use my lot more often but about few months ago, I became active again. That's where it started. There are 79 requests for me. I thought those are my friends since I didn't think I will have a lot of requests.
@sajeevking (5073)
• Mumbai, India
26 Sep 11
Well nice to see you figure that out i have few of them still pending as they have never return back to mylot but usually accept every one on the spot and even a bit change make me go there
@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Hi friend sajeev. Yes it feels good that I finally figure it out. Now if there's any pending request, I just accept it right away. I will not let any friend requests wait there.
• Mumbai, India
27 Sep 11
Hi chiwasaki Beware of the spammer though they would just send you referrals links and would want you to be there downline anyhow better luck discovering new things in mylot everyday
@francesca5 (1344)
26 Sep 11
that is so sweet chiwasaki, i have made a few mistakes a bit like that a few times, where you see something and think it means something different to what it actually does. perhaps when you joined you received a lot of friend requests, but also made a lot of friend requests, and so because the numbers you requested were so similar to the number received you saw a link where none existed. presumably you now have double the number of friends, which is lovely!
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
The number 78 is so high to be a pending friend request. So I just assume its the number of my friends. Haha but I learned not to make assumptions, better check the real thing. Haha
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
26 Sep 11
Maybe it's because I used to see Facebook notifications so I figured it a little bit faster.. XD But that would be OK and glad that you finally found out. :) And .. 79 friend requests.. Wow. If you are going to accept them all, then you have to do it one by one, right? ...... Then, happy approving and good luck! :D
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Yes I accepted all of the requests. And I did it one by one. Which is quite fun to do. Haha finally I discover what's that number is all about.
• Greece
27 Sep 11
an online social circle is important for everyone. here in mylot you can make a lot of friends you can keep real life contact with. i dont have a lot of friends here in mylot. i hope to make more soon.
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
I actually add a lot of friends specially those who are very active. I want to have a lot of friends. I learned a lot of things from these people.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
26 Sep 11
LOL. I am glad that you finally figured it out though.
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Yes steph finally! Haha I feel so stupid and happy at the same time. My boyfriend is laughing at me. I always tell him that I only have few friends in my lot and it seems like they don't accept my friend requests.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
27 Sep 11
I'm glad that you figured out what that number means. I try to keep the number of pending requests that I have at a fairly low number because I don't like to leave people hanging. Instead, I will watch people that are new members for a little while and see if they are actually going to be active on the site. If they are active on the site, then I will accept them as a friend. If they are not active, then I will not accept them as a friend.
@marie2052 (3691)
• United States
26 Sep 11
Thats awesome! I have a tendency of noticing my tab bars right away if someone is sending a friend request or has a message to me. At least you got the idea now, so your friends will not have to wait so long! Good Luck to you and your friends.
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@chiwasaki (4694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
It is really funny that if there's a message, I open it right away. But for the friend requests tab, since the number is around 78, I never thought it would be a pending request. Haha honestly I don't experiment stuff on my lot so there's a lot of things I need to discover here.
27 Sep 11
haha.. so what i would commonly call a "blonde" day.. you had a blonde year? lol!!
@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
29 Sep 11
Yeah, we will always learn something new on MyLot, e.g. I still don't know how to put letters on bold or underlines. I've seen some comments with these features.
• United States
8 Oct 11
That is a big number for friend requests. I can't blame you if you initially think that those are your number of friends. We do make mistakes most of the time, you are not alone.