Are you able to recognize a lie?
By WakeUpKitty
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
Netherlands
September 26, 2011 10:38am CST
I read an article where is written that every 3 min. people tell a lie (all kind of lies). It's not true that you can recognize a liar by the way he is looking (not looking you in the eyes), moving (restless) etc. They also say that most people do say they can recognize a lie inmediately. Esp. if it comes to their partner. But the investigation shows that if it comes to our partner we are blind.
The article also says that you will recognize a lie earlier if you only hear someone speak as when you hear and see that person (which means that if you see the person he is able to fool you with the way he looks/behaves).
Liars are also frequently charming people, they seldom use the word "I" while telling their lie or use complex grammar (language) constructions. A liar is also more willing to answer each question.
Are you able to recognize a lie? If so, do you like to know it's a lie? Since if you know it somehow you need to respond on that. Not knowing can be a blessing just like knowing everything can be a curse.
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26 responses
@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
27 Sep 11
On the whole, the show "Lie to Me" is a load of scriptwriter rubbish, but it is based on genuine possibilities. I am certainly no expert on NLP but I have read enough to know that a trained NLP observer can almost always pick up lies from eye movements and body language. That said, most of us aren't trained observers, and so miss a lot of lies. Certainly one can look someone in the eye and lie through one's teeth without being caught. Truly intuitive people are much better at it than most, and I would back myslef to pick up most lies, but I know from bitter experience, particularly with partners, that I miss some.
Lash
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
9 Dec 11
So this means we are more blind for what your partners say.. or we trust them more (one way or the other) and think they don't lie to us...
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
8 Feb 12
Sometimes I can tell when people are lying sometimes it is really obvious when someone is lying but other times it is not. Some people are really good at it. I don't really know anyone who lies a lot except for one person. I used to believe a lot of what he said and then I realized that he was not a very honest person, now when ever I talk to him I take everything he says with a grain of salt.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
26 Sep 11
Hi Kitty, I feel that everybody lies once in a while when there is the need or for whatever reason.If anyone says that he or she has never lied in their life ,then they are lying...But when a person is always lying , then it is a sign of insecurity and sometimes greed.We may be able to recognise a person who lies occasionally.An accomplished liar can be very convincing and one can never recognize it...all the best
@gurujee (216)
• India
26 Sep 11
A famous Tamil poet says that there is no harm in lying if the good it generates far outweighs the adverse effects. We are all liars, there is no doubt about it. How many times have you praised your friend when in your heart of hearts you don't like your friend at all? Liars are of two kinds - habitual liars and occasional liars. Habitual liars learn how to escape from being detected. The poor occasional liars are always caught.
@Amfyre (512)
• Canada
26 Sep 11
Many people lie to thier partners... I think most people when they catch thier partner in a lie choose to ignore it. If you ignore it , then it never happened.
women do this very often, because they "love" thier partner to a point that it's destructive and hurtful to them selves.
A fine example is a friend I know was told that her boyfriend was seen with an other woman... He said that the person who saw him was mistaken (me) Like hellow)) she chose to believe him.... I wasn't the only one who saw him ... so blind it right on the money.
Personally if you lie to me and I know it or fnd out about it... I won't trust you... and that is that. People lie over stupid stuff.
@labli09 (70)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
hehe. i experienced this one with my ex boyfriend. i listened to what my friends told me that he's with another girl, but i chose to believe my ex boyfriend.you're right, i seemed like blind then.i was really hurt so i covered up myself and denied that what my friends told me was true. but in the end, i found out that it was true, and from that moment, i never trusted him again and i broke up with him.thanks to my friends that they never left me.
i really hate liars.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Jan 12
Many times I have been able to recognize a lie and a lier when I see one. I can think of one person who we unfortunately allowed around us and our house, that we never did catch on, and it ended up being a life lesson for sure. The biggest thing is learning to recognize the people who always try to Sweet talk you, or always making up excuses. Learning to never allow them to have you take them on their word for sure.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
I am obviously not able to tell if one is lying to me.
The thing is, I have been lied to and been cheated on for almost a year now and i havent got a clue. I guess i was really giving and I gave the person my trust so much i did not realize that he is already fooling me.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
30 Oct 11
I remember something I once learned in a psychology class. We were talking about body language and my teacher told us that people who lied would often touch their nose. They actually wanted to cover their mouth, but that would be too obvious so they touch their nose instead. The next time I suspected that a person was lying to me I stared at their nose to see if they were going to touch it while they were talking, but I wasn't really able to recognize people's lies that way 
When I talk to people that I know very well I am often able to tell if they are lying, because I know the small things that they do when they lie. I recognize my brother's lies when I look at his mouth and the tiny changes that happen while he is speaking, it is hard to complain what it looks like, but I recognize it when I see it.
When I talk to people that I know very well I am often able to tell if they are lying, because I know the small things that they do when they lie. I recognize my brother's lies when I look at his mouth and the tiny changes that happen while he is speaking, it is hard to complain what it looks like, but I recognize it when I see it.
@shibham (16977)
• India
16 Jan 12
Yes, i am able to recognize a lie but most often become silent and laugh at the speakers foolishness. Its not so hard to detect in social life and you know proud persons lie more than others and even rich peoples lie more than a poor.
have a nice time.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
27 Sep 11
Sadly not all of the time but many times, I think that I am pretty good at sniffing out a lie. There are a lot of times where liars tend to be rather paper thin about their intentions. They are not good at all shielding the fact that they are going to lie a lot of the time. In fact, the scariest thing is that is that when they lie, they have deluded many people with their good skills but the person that they deluded most of all were themselves.
So yes there are many tell tale signs but there are many times where they tend to tell their lies with the most stoic, bland expressions on their face. There are many times where it is scary how committed that these liars are to their chosen art to say the very least. They have really have that game down pat which is not a good thing. However many times, it is easy to spot them. Other times, not so much so.
@srjac0902 (1170)
• Italy
9 Dec 11
Those who have a sharp observation can make out when a person says lies. For some it is an intuition. Normally those who tell ties will not look into your eyes with sernity. When they tell lies their face changes. They may smile and repeat the same thing to affirm many times. Some can grasp very well the superficiality in that saying.
But as a part of delicacy it is not to us to confront. But there are persons, when they do not trust they cross question in such a mild way and there is a possibility that the lier alters.
@mervealtug (50)
•
7 Dec 11
Do you watch "Lie to me" series?If you are interested in this subject,you should watch it.Also people who tell a lie looks you in the eyes because he or she wants to support to you to not tell a lie and she or he shows a lot of kinds of behaviour.I learned these information from this series i don't know these information are true or false but i offer to you,you should watch it:)
@00fear (3216)
• United States
26 Sep 11
I think I am able to recognize someone who lies a lot. I think if the person is lying, he/she stutters when he/she speaks. If not a lot but he/she'll try and hide it. Also, when it takes a while for that person to respond (maybe because he/she is trying to think about it before answering). Although it could be possible for that person to be good at lying if he or she isn't nervous at all. Say if he or she did something bad he/she will think ahead of what he/she can use as excuse.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Sep 11
oh i think most people dont recognize a lie until they find out for sure. because there are so many people that are expert at it. but not as children. its a learned art as they grow. i always knew when the kids lied as little children. once they were teens they had learned how to get it over on me. I remember when my son was 7 or 8 yrs. he asked me how i knew he was lieing. I said, well when you lie your eyes get bigger. a few minutes later i seen him looking in a mirror saying things that he knew was a lie
to see if his eyes got bigger.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
26 Sep 11
I mostly recognize a lie if there are no logic to what the person is saying if I base it on the previous things he had said. Mostly that or I look for unconscious cues. I have been taught this by my cousin. Most of the time, you'll know when someone is lying if her iris diminishes. Most of the time because the environment also affects it. It it's too bright, the iris will naturally constrict, so you have to put the subject into an environment that has a controlled lighting.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
27 Sep 11
Yes, i can recognize a lie. Actually, liars always make some side glances. That i noticed. They seem to be always on the alert that at any time their lie will be discovered. They also hesitate when they say the lie, as if measuring their every word.
But as for me, i am not a good liar. You can easily detect if i lie, because i am restless and apprehensive.
@johnbrainlot (177)
• Greece
27 Sep 11
i am not always able to recognize when someone tells a lie or not. i know it surely is a deficiency of mine but i really tend to trust everyone and everything they say.
@sishen4429 (108)
• China
27 Sep 11
Recognize a lie?Its somewhat possible and successful.But what i have to say sometimes the lie which why can be a lie because it can cheat people if you can realize a lie then Its not a lie.
