The news is really bad

This discussion is not about the world news or even the local news, but personal news. Let's say one of your love ones is sick, cancer or some other deadly thing. My first reaction is fight, I find out all I can, thank God for the Internet, and I find out what can be done. Then I start writing notes, why do I do that? This is so I will have a clear picture, if I skip this part, I just worry and play the same thing over and over in my head. Once I have found out what I can, I am ready to face the person involved. What I do then is listen, I've been very sick and I know if people just start telling you what they think, if sounds just like mumble and doesn't help at all. If you can sit and listen maybe you can help the sick one to clear their own mind. Very often this is all you can do the first visit. If and only if asked I will tell what I think and why. The way I look at life is that none of us get out alive, we all have to die and because humans are comforted by control the more control they have over this process the easier it will be for them. I don't know how many of you are facing this right now, but considering all the members on mylot I would guess a few. If you have had this experience or are going through this please add to this discussion. Thanks